I can count the number of times I have cried. Do you think the stereotype of gay men crying more than straight men holds true ?
How many times is that, Duncan? I can't count the number of times I cried ... Perhaps it's because it's been more times than I could ever begin to remember ... Perhaps it's because the number of times I have cried were too traumatic to even want to remember ... Darrell
I think a lot depends on the situation. I mean, I won't cry in public, but alone I let it go.... not necessarily a boo hoo - the world's come to an end cry, but usually a misty eyed sniffling kinda cry.
I think it may be because we are less afraid to show that emotion then our straight brothers. The emotional constipation that is expected of males in our socity represses quite a bit.
Hey Duncan: I don't have any problems crying when I'm alone (like if I read an especially tragic book, or actually manage to sit through an entire "weepy" flick or something). But I haven't actually lost it emotionally in front of others for a very long time. I'm not really sure why that is... Peace, ~PD P.S. So why is it that you cry so infrequently? I'm just curious.
Personally I find anyone who doesn't cry frequently creepy, but then, I use sorrow as a form of stress relief sometimes, "I miss the comfort of being sad" [Nirvana] kinda thing. I know plenty of straight guys who shed a few tears under pressure too, what creeped me out was when I recommended a (brilliant) film called 'Wit' to a guy I know and got a text saying it was the first time he'd cried in 7 years, or something of the sort. For some reason it bothered me that someone could go that long without a reason to cry... ...meh. Moreso, someone who seems mildly aware of the world. I dunno.
The stereotype of gay men crying will only be true if you think it is. It could just be that you are just a little sensitive? May be most gay men are, but then you cannot say all gay men are sensitive enough to cry. Straight men cry too man, so it does not matter whether you are gay or not , I think .
Okay, I am "straight" and have to ask. Does it really matter if maybe you might cry more than a "straight" guy? Be happy with who you are, and dont worry how others percieve you, it does not matter. Cry or be the "HE-MAN" just be happily yourself!
I remember a guy a few years back, boasting to his friends that he hadnt cried for a whole year "And I was allowed to then cause it was a funeral"..it was so pathetic!! lol..it was like a test of manliness for him or something.. My straight guy mates only cry when something is really big and upsetting..but they can count all of them too, just like you. For people who don't cry often, crying is a really big thing, whether you're straight or gay.. I guess the only reason sterotyping gays as crybabies is because crying is a sign of 'weakness'.. I don't think theres any real link between the two..
This is one of those questions I'd need honest feedback from a str8 man to answer. I don't cry all that much, but I don't know whom or what to compare it to.
Hey, my sig other, is straight (I think - HaHa) and he cries alot. I can make him cry on cue, if I bring up the right imagery about his boys - like reminding him of the movie "Jingle all the Way". That's my Dad! - you know
I am an emotional person. I tend to cry when the situation calls for it. I cry when I lose a loved one, when I have to say goodbye for a long period of time, when I stub my toe... well, not really. Most of my crying has to do with losing or leaving someone. Although I have had a few instances where I've been so stressed out or frustrated that I just break down in tears.
