Is he cheating or am I being Paranoid?

These are some reasons why I think he is cheating.
-Less affectionate
-Laughed after sex once when he finished quickly 'I said its ok its been awhile' and he laughed like not for me it hasn't
-When he was taking some of my garments he sniggered.
-Looking off into space a lot.
-Looked at my legs like they were disgusting.
-I said I have hives and jokingly said they could be an STD and then he seemed relieved when I said my sister has hives too.
-Always changes his bedsheets when I stay
-Has started insulting me.
-He has been suggesting new things in the bedroom
-He stopped saying I Love you
-I think someone has been wearing his clothes
-Stopped cuddling in bed with me.
-I think he lies about what time he finishes work.
-Always seems like he is thinking about someone else.
-Has started listening to music even though he never did before.
-When I started asking who lived in his apartment block he had a goofy grin on his face.
-Seems like he can't get rid of me fast enough when I come to stay.

So am I just being paranoid?

 

I can't really say.

But I can say that your relationship doesn't seem healthy regardless if he's cheating or not.

Also suggesting new things in the bedroom isn't bad.


But the red flag is that he has started insulting you. That's the big red flag to get out of the relationship.

 

i don't know, but my girlfriend is definitely cheating on me. she started watching a new show on tv, and she giggled once when i told a joke.

 

I know I should break up with him but I depend on him a lot he is my only friend. But I agree that suggesting new things in bedroom is good but I thought it could be a sign too.

 

:2thumbsup:

 

Tough break. Are you going to try and work things out?

You should get revenge by taking up a new hobby. Maybe learn the trumpet?

 

OP:

If you knew it to be a fact that he wasn't cheating.....Would you be any happier?

 

you sound completely paranoid and crazy,
and your boyfriend sounds like a complete dick head.

 

Just because your paranoid dosnt mean that....

 

maybe a little

 

It sounds like you aren't happy in this relationship and you are looking for a way out. It's ok to break up with someone even if they aren't cheating.

 

Ahhh abusive codependent relationships... frankly whether he is cheating or not sounds like the least of your worries!

 

a relationship is between the people in unity, not the world! ask him about some strange actions hes been doing lately.. don't go right ahead and accuse him of cheating, just list off some sudden changes in your relationship

hope it works out for the best.

 

You need to be able to live without a relationship before you get into one.

Make some new friends. But do not depend on any of them.

None of my business but .... someone insults me they need to hit the road.

 

I used to be fine without anyone until he came along and now I don't know how to be by myself anymore. But I don't want to break up with him without knowing which is strange I know but I don't want him to get away with it. Not sure I could even break up with him if I did find out he was cheating.

 

I was much happier when I wasn't in a relationship I hate feeling like I depend on him for everything but I don't know how to go back to being alone.
They aren't bad insults just subtle jabs at me from time to time. I feel like he wants to break up but he would never do that either and Im not doing it for him.

 

Thanks ill try and ask him about his behaviour I really want to know.

 

LOL, WTF?

Which is why you should never marry someone that works at NASA

Errr, so doesnt change the sheets, he's a pig hygiene wise, changes the sheets and he's a pig fidelity wise

Seriously, what?

And the only possible explanation for that is because he is cheating?

 

no point

 

You wouldn't be doing it for him but for yourself! You already know this isn't a healty realtionship. He must know how much you depend on him and i think it's driving him nuts. He hasn't said anything directly but how much more obvious does he have to get? Where's your self-respect, girl?