Fuck buddy confusing me

Divorce can bring families together. It would have mine. Instead I grew up with parents in a shitty marraige who cheated on each other all the time. And that FUCKED me up in the head in ways I'm still dealing with today. I think if they would have divorced I would still be on speaking terms with my parents.

My advice with your fb is to relax and ride the wave. If he wants to fuck, then fuck. If he wants distance give him distance.

You should be prepared for harsh responses when asking advice on such a controversial topic.

 

If I had a dime for every kid who sighs a rumbling sigh of relief when their parents split up. Take it from me, divorce is fun.

You have two homes, you get two presents for your birthday, you can play one parent against the other, you can take little vacations after an argument, and ABOVE ALL you don`t have two overbearing, needy, controlling grown up babies on your case 24/7.

Better than divorced parents only no parents. Now, the kids who grow up with their grandmothers. Those kids have it on a silver platter. :biggrin:

 

I don't mind harsh. I mind assumptions, and inaccurate conclusions. I from a divorced home too. Both my parents separate from each other were as bad as together. I would not be doing my kids any favors splitting the home just so I can have "moral" sex when I want it. That would be selfish.

 

Fair enough, sistah. :biggrin:

 

The basis for ending isn't about your sex life and its "morality" or whatever. It's that your kids are going to pick up, if they haven't already, that something is amiss even if mommy n daddy pretend it's not. They internalize those behaviors, and then inflict them on others because they won't know any different. It's not about you, or the "husband" it's about them and the people they might someday hurt. You can say "oh it'll never happen like that!" but thats the thing, you'll never see it coming till it's there.

 

What is wrong with "pick up" that our marriage is amiss? Actually, they are outwardly aware about each our flaws and how it damages the marriage and the relationship. Would you rather it be IN THEIR FACE and become THEIR problem by splitting the home? That is such a stupid alternative. Kids internalize if things are going good. It's a part of adolescence. The news is flooded with bad stuff. Their school lives surround them with peers that all have "amiss" in their family. Life is imperfection.

 

Imo, stop texting him and text me.

 

Ok Built. Tell me why I should.

Really, though. We had another time together a few nights ago. It was really wonderful. He insists that I'm trying to have a relationship. I'm truly not. We have a great arrangement. It's one that I so comfortable with. He even says "fuck buddy" is too intimate because of the implication of a relationship. So I suggested that he is my "slut boy".

 

Because I'm just a chill guy and fun to talk to.

 

I don't think you have the slightest clue of what free love is.

 

And about ethics and morals. It doesn't seem like you have much if any.

 

hes built4sex too. perfect. slut monkey.

 

Turns out the "slut boy", as he is now referred to, has total feelings for me. So THAT's been the problem. The confusion was well founded.

 

He seems like a tool. Wants you when its good for him. Treats ya a little on the crappy side. Find someone new and dump this dude.

 

Hellz yes I am.

I can make almost all girls orgasm...sadly, I always have a hard time finishing myself.

 

Whoah thats a bit harsh and frankly so easy to do. Attack the other woman it's obviously her who is to blame. No! He's the one to blame. He owes his woman the loyalty and fidelity not his FB.

Place the blame squarely where it should be.

 

Why not question his ethics and morals?

 

This is now a potential train wreck! Make sure you know what you want and be clear about it. If he can't deliver you know it's time to walk away. Do it soon before you get pulled into being the other woman. I can almost guarantee thats what he wants. He said he had feelings for you hut stopped short of saying he wants to be with you.

You may think you want him but think twice. He's a loser who cheats on his gf. You can do so much better than that.

Be prepared for a rough emotional journey but either way the result can be the best solution for you.

 

Highly debatable.

With "free love", everyone involved needs to be freely aware of the arrangements. Otherwise this exact shit happens, and sometimes it happens anyway.

I'm baffled that this is even being asked.

 

Sade, he was very aware I was totally happy with the arrangement as FBs. He got feelings, he made it complicated and it went sour. I am not available !! I'm in a marriage and in the home stretch raising my teens. CherokeeMist, wth is your problem?? At age 21, my guess is that you've never been in anything close to about a trillion situations that I am experienced in, and you know nothing about what you are saying.

BTW, it's cut off as of early June. We are in contact but have no sex anymore. All good things must end I guess.