Feel like an experiment...

Hello everyone, I was wondering if any of you have experienced this? From time to time, I get a straight friend who seems fairly interested in me. Hell, they might even express some legitimate interest. Then, just when I think things are getting good, they pull the "I'm straight" card, and to everybody around you it looks like you were just hitting on them hoping for a chance. I feel utterly horrible when this happens, and I think even more horribly of myself. I don't know, I just find it easier to blame myself as to not cause an awkward situation, but I absolutely hate feeling like a creep just so somebody can use me as their "am I gay or not?" experiment. Can anybody relate to this?

 

you forgot to specify what exactly constitutes 'legitimate interest' here. but i think maybe you're just misreading their intentions from the start. some (straight) guys are very touchy-feely and physical with other guys. it's all innocent and doesn't really mean anything (except it feels really good being on the receiving end of that). but when they realize it means something to you they naturally pull on all the brakes. when they realize you read a bit too much into the situation that's when they feel they need to clarify they're straight.