I hate kissing

I guess it's not really a deep secret, my husband knows. I don't think he realizes how much I hate it, because he still kisses me or attempts to. I'd rather shatter my femur than kiss anyone. Seriously.

When I've told people in the past, they have always assumed that it's a saliva or germ aversion of some sort. It's not. You can kiss me anywhere you want except my mouth. I can run my tongue all over anyone, unless it's their mouth. I've been like this as long as I can remember, and I think it has to do with the intimacy of the entire act. I'm really not sure.

I think it hurts my husband, because he loves to kiss. It hurts me because it pains me to kiss him. Some get butterflies in their stomach, I get nauseous and lightheaded :ack2: Is there anyone else who has dealt with this? If so, how do you deal?

 

No

 

Get help. Definately un-natural. Never heard of such a thing in my entire life. Never.

 

I don't really like kissing... but I do it anyway. Mainly because, women don't get turned on without kissing.

 

Smoke a bowl.

 

Yeah, I already was...
Oh! The OP! Ok yeah, Maggie! Smoke a bowl.

 

This definitely works, but it's just covering up the issue at hand. Actually, the only time I've ever really made out with him was after I had smoked a bowl.

 

I think you should try to understand (and fix) this instead of pretending it's some hidden part of you that can't change.

 

I'd love to try and understand it. I really would. But I'm not sure I have a good reasoning for it, no matter how much I dig into my past. I can't seem to figure out anything that would cause me to hate it so much. I had a normal childhood, normal teenage years, dated people, fell in love, etc. Just always hated kissing. And it's not that I don't let my husband kiss me, because I do, because I feel it's only fair to him.

 

Your not doing it right....

Seriously azalea_mae it would be really good to over come this, what about gentle biting or kissing with small kisses not big open wide licky dribbley ones, a man salivating kissing is a real no no ...
Kiss around the lips, there is away I am sure. Get him to close his mouth for a bit- A good kiss can really work wonders...
...experiment.
I hope you get over it good luck
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lol how would you know? I'm def. doing it right! But I probably should clarify; I like kissing when a relationship is new and exciting, but I hate kissing ALL THE TIME, When you've been dating someone a year and a half. Too much public affection, just makes me feel like the girl is clingy.

 

I can do biting, he bites my lip and it turns me on LOL. It's just the kissing. Soft, gentle, closed mouth, or at least no tongue are slightly more tolerable. Maybe it's just spit in the mouth that bothers me. And I have kissed a lot of people, male and female, and there have definitely been better kissers than others, but I still disliked them all the same.

 

Get some shots, get some weed. Don't use them right away, and spend some damn time with your husband and figure this out. It's placebo.
You understand it's not dirty, ya? Swallow some of your husbands spit a few times. It won't kill you. Go research how clean germs in the mouth are. Saliva has some anti-bacterial germ killing power itself.

It can be figured out, if you really wanted to do it. I have no sympathy over something so harmless (and you're already well aware its harmless).

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Does this cause problems in your relationship?

It's just really weird to me that this is still unresolved and you are married. It seems like it would've come up more before that step..

 

Do you have the same disgust at oral sex?

 

I know it's not dirty, and I'm sure I've swallowed his spit many times. I just feel like I should enjoy it. I think I would have a much easier time figuring it out if I actually knew what the reasoning is behind it. A good starting point. And I'm perfectly aware that it's harmless. I don't mind spit really. You could spit all over me and it wouldn't bother me at all. Actually, I think he could spit in my mouth and it not bother me, it's just the actual kissing itself that does.

He likes to kiss, but I don't think it's ever caused any problems in our relationship. We talk often and it's been brought up a number of times. He says he just got over it in the beginning when we first started dating. We show affection in other ways, and like I've said, I still let him kiss me, so it's not that we never kiss. We have a healthy relationship. We talk, we're honest with each other, we disagree, but we don't fight, we laugh, we enjoy the same things, and genuinely love being together. I guess that makes up for the lack of kissing. We've only been together a little over 6 years, but I think if it would have been a problem, he would have never asked me to marry him.

 

I could not handle spit in my mouth even if I was with my partner for 50 years, or my childs dribble in my mouth would even make me go ewww... I think your normal there. But a bit of body fluid exchange cant be helped sometimes.

Like you said you have kissed many and his not the best kisser (well there are better and worse kissers) he salivates when he kisses, this can be stopped as much as possible, his got to work on it..

When he feel's the build up or you start to feel extra moist around the mouth) STOP kiss his neck, shoulders face anything until he retracts it and dries up..Then get back too it? maybe...

Failing that you both have tried, its not that big a deal, your husband loves you there are bigger problems in the world hey...Be happy :love:

StpLSD25 I believe each person has there own unique way of kissing some just connect in an instant, others take a lesson and some are just a no no we are not going any further... true?

Kissing all the time? that depends how into them you are, how busy or appropriate it is...best done when there is a reading of the mind buzz and its a mutual thing...
I totally get the pawing at you thing, and some displays of public affection with some people is over the top. Although when your in love you just dont give a fuck and want that person.
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I don't really like French kisses. I like soft teasing kisses, little nibbles, lip overlapping lip, a little lick here and there but please don't stick your tongue in my mouth.

Is it just open mouth kissing you hate or all kisses in general?

It could be an intimacy thing.

Or it could just be a personal preference. Not everything has to have a dark psychological motive. Maybe you just don't like kissing the way some people don't like broccoli.

 

Oh okay. Maybe this thread skewed my perception a little, made me think there must be a problem if you're making the thread.
I think maybe both of us could listen to this wisdom:

 

As duck said I jumped to the conclusion it was an issue too hence making the thread..
Sounds all good tho and its just not a real issue..