Kay I have a interesting prospect I have put myself in and wanted some advice. I met this girl at a music festival in June and ran into her again in July at another festival. Now I went back to the ranch to help prep for the next up coming festy. I ran into her again and she has struck my fancy. So it appears that she never left after the last one and has been living on the ranch. She likes the country and does not wish to return back to Chicago. I have offered her a place to stay for the winter so she is not stuck living in a camper in the cold Michigan months. Now I have the fear that it may not be the best idea? Taking her on will mean that she know virtually no one in the area and will be with me 24/7 my friend from the ranch fears what will happen after the glimmer wears off. As it stands now from the 72 hours I have hung out with her makes me think I cooperate with her for a long period of time or am I just delusional into believing this? Should I strike up a exit plan encase this does not work out? Or just let her fend for herself? Any advice would be appreciated Thank you in advance for your concern and or help
Go ahead with it, and see how it goes. If she is clingy or not fun or whatever, it is well within your right to request she make other arrangements.
i am superficial...how much i will put up with is directly related to how she ''is'' play it safe and tell her 1 month is guaranteed but after that is something to discuss later,,,, if you havnt banged her yet DO NOT let her stay even 1 night some girls are brutal with the ''friend zone''
The key phrase IMO was you said you offered her a place to stay over the winter. Does she understand that you really want more than that? Is she expected to work, or contribute otherwise? You kind of want to lay some ground rules prior to opening your doors to anyone staying in your home for more than a day or so. I'd go for it, but be careful. This could end badly. Or, she could see you as her knight in shining armor and you live happily ever after.
It just an option for her to take she can still stay on the ranch and work which I am not sure if its open ended either she will do that or find something else to goto. So far she "is" spectacular, I have considered making a 30 day trial run with renewal and benefits. Oh yeah I have really been moved way out of the friend zone so that will not be a problem. I am not sure if I want more than giving her a place to recoup get her licences and GED as well as employment. From what I have observed that she is respectful and works/contributes with out having to be asked as long as she knows what needs to be done. (I am not sure she will take charge and do it herself with out prior instructions). Never the less at this point I just want to take care of her. But I do like the ground rules as we work out the situation. (any suggestions) I do like the knight in shining armor effect. I think it will be whoah kay as long as we just Keep it Real when we start to need others to define who we are or need others to conform to our view of the world don't need others to define who you are or need others to conform to your view of the world is when problems start to develop. And we are not there yet. Although we both understand that there may be bad times but that is just to contrast the good times for with out bad times how could we understand the good ones. Just try not to get stuck in the negative thinking snowball. LivinAFantasy The key phrase IMO was you said you offered her a place to stay over the winter. Does she understand that you really want more than that? Is she expected to work, or contribute otherwise? You kind of want to lay some ground rules prior to opening your doors to anyone staying in your home for more than a day or so. I'd go for it, but be careful. This could end badly. Or, she could see you as her knight in shining armor and you live happily ever after.
Man, do not spend your time worrying about this, that can cause more damage than whatever in reality comes your way.. Enjoy her company, whatever happens just relax and try not to enforce anything. Its about love, having sex or not you are offering a helping hand and somewhere to spend a winter people do this many times throughout their lives, its called being human.
Just play it safe & do what feels right. Like dancing said your lending a hand & help another out. It's being a decent human being. Good Luck
I think the main thing is to communicate. Right up front, before she even comes, ask her what her expectations are. Let her know what yours are. If you two are in agreement, it's all good.
If you believe in fate at all you might see that for some reason the universe works in a way that might bring two people together. You might as well see where fate takes it. Don't be afraid of what if.
I most certainly do! and the cosmos have quite the strange qualm of events in-store for myself Did not get a chance to communicate last I knew she told me she did not want to talk told me I was to good to her she did not deserve it and to leave her alone. She was not clingy Still not sure if she is on for the deal have not talked talked to her since the Friday fiasco I most diffidently did enjoy her company This was between Peacefest Chicago & Willow Farms In fact after all and all it was the last weekend she scolded me and told me to go out enjoy myself and have fun. So I did and ended up hooking up with her friend. Then the sunday nite monday mornin some chick was askin us if we were a couple and we told her no. She then told us we were going to get married which was pretty sweet. So all I know now is all is well in the universe and this all will pass. What was meant to be will be
