Won't go into detail right now but when I know more I can share a little about my current situation. However, it has gotten me to thinking that when it comes to women, I tend to ignore bad habits and think that I'm somehow more important to them than them being who they've always been. How vain! This example is lying. With a certain person, I heard them lie through their teeth consistently and convincingly to their best friend, parents, etc, then turn around and complain that no one ever believes them. I naively thought that because I was aware of these lies, I was above them. I guess a person is who they are, right? No major skin off my back, as much as it sucks. You guys do this too? Assume that the person cares about you enough to do or not to with you what they appear to be doing or not doing to every other person you see them interact with?
I mean... sometimes it could be true, yanno? It's not vain to expect the person you're in a relationship with to treat you better than they treat everyone else...presumably the reason they're in a relationship with you is because they feel differently about you than any of those other people. It may be true that a girlfriend who lies to all her friends is lying to you too...but maybe she lies to them because she doesn't trust them to love her if they knew the truth, whereas she trusts you to love her no matter what? Obviously it depends person to person, but don't give up on someone just cuz they don't treat their friends perfectly...maybe it's just because none of their friends really "get" them and they've been searching for that one person that does!!
I agree with whomever above. It depends on person to person, but if you know that person for a long time, raise a red flag in your mind, but don't necessarily take any drastic action unless you see a pattern of behavior that affects you directly in a negative way. I know a lot of girls who lie to their friends, but it has to do with how girls keep frienemies, and their boyfriends may be in the dark about understanding the illusion as opposed to the real level of the bond between chicks. I know guys might not recognize 2 girls who are frienemies versus two genuine best friends who have complete 99.9% disclosure to each other.
