This now makes you popular in HIGH SCHOOL.

Ok while I agree that being a teen mum has it's hardships and stares.

Now most ppl were commenting on the pic and I agree that pic is distgusting, those girls are proud of the fact they are preg, and they think it's a joke. Do you think they know what's ahead of them??

I feel worse for those babies, that pic to me looks like they are all pregnant to be trendy which is wrong.

 

This reminds me of a young red headed biker chick friend in the '70s in the Haight who was breast feeding her son in the Free Store wearing a see through top. The babe had thrush mouth so Lisa had painted her nipples and the baby's mouth with bright purple medicine.
A little old couple saw her breast feeding and tut tut her. The next I knew Lisa let out a scream like a Comanche war cry and took off chasing them down the crowded sidewalk flying red hair freckled purple nippled tits and all.....It's a scene I can't forget!

 

Yikes, I meant "unconditional" not "unconventional". damn it. Listen, I'm not saying a teen mother can't be a great mother, and I'm certainly not saying that a single mother can't be a great mother - I was raised in a single parent home and I turned out absolutely fucking amazing (lol). I just don't understand why it's so damned widespread and apparently trendy. Some of these girls walk around and they look absolutely fucking beat and bewildered. I don't think they understood or were ready for what they were getting into. And of course 75% of the time, the daddy is MIA. That really fucking bothers me.

It's unreasonable to expect a 16 year old girl to take that burden on all by herself, but that's what's happening and it's epidemic. It's also irresponsible to expect grandma and grandpa to take on the burden of raising a grandchild, while the young mother goes off and tries to figure herself out - which I've seen more times than I care to count.

A sixteen-year-old girl in 2012 in the United States is not emotionally equiped to handle this. Exceptions? I'm sure there are a few, but for the most part? No. Hell no. And clearly the manchild papa sperm donor doesn't have the mental, emotional resources to man the fuck up and become 30 years old emotionally and financially in 9 months. And so, you've got problems, big problems. And all of this shit is needless and stupid.

I'm in my mid-thirties - I've been sexually active since I lost my virginity when I was sixteen. I've never impregnated anyone, never conceived a child or aborted one (yes, I know that with 100% certainty). It's not magic. I'm not sterile (at least I don't think I am). But I was (and remain) fucking careful, always, because I knew I wasn't ready to have children, and I damn well knew the women well enough that I was sleeping with weren't ready to have a baby. Oh, and we talked about PREGNANCY and birth control before we had sex. Yeah, there's a novel concept - getting to know someone a little bit before you risk bringing a child into this fucked up world.

So we never took stupid risks. Always used a condom. Stopped having sex when/if the damn thing broke and resolved the situation (and no one will ever convince me that a male can't tell the instant a condom breaks) Never relied exclusively on birth control (I don't even like that shit - and I don't think it's all that good for you). I cannot for the life of me understand why this is such a huge/widespread problem/social phenomena?

Bottom line, if you go bareback you should be thinking, "yeah, this could make me a daddy, or a mommy" if you're not thinking that, then you're being irresponsible.

 

If you go into the various white ghettos you'll see plenty of young girls pushing strollers.

 

Oh yeah. Damn right you will. Racism is one of the most powerful tools in the elites' arsenal - to keep the poor divided, ignorant, fearful and powerless. And here we'll stay, until we learn to direct our anger and frustration at the real oppressors.

 

Or maybe these girls realise theyre growing a miracle and there is nothing they can do about it, maybe they ARE proud that they're growing such a beautiful child.

Why shouldn't they be proud to be becoming a mother?

 

Contraception doesn't always work and sometimes you don't realise that until it's too late.

People should be support young parents, not judging,

 

Making Gang signs by the looks of it........

I'm just saying, looks classy ya posing the the bathroom and all......

I could care less about race too, if it were white chicks pulling the same thing I'd be still saying the same.

To me this picture makes me think they think it's nothing but a joke. Whether or not it's true I dunno.

 

I also wasn't born yesterday I know a lot of "kids" think having babies is a way to get the guy to stay..... or in some cases it's a "cheque" to so they don't have to work......

Not saying everyone s like that but there are tons who do.

Also maybe teach these girls to fucking take the pill or get an IUD shit they need to take responsibility too not just leaving it to a condom.

And you say we should support them how?

 

By not judging, by not making rude remarks and assuming most do it because they're stupid.
IUDS and the pill still arent 100% you know. I'm not trying to be awkward going against the grain, i've been there..twice so i know what it's like!

Why shouldn't those girls have a laugh and pose for a silly photo? Imagine if someone saw a crazy photo of you and got all judgemental, pretty sure you'd be annoyed if a randomer decided to judge you and think they know everything about your life because of on jokey picture

 

I wouldn't post something I'd regret.

It's human nature to judge each other as well, I'm only judging by this picture. And from the picture that is on the net it is the perception I have of these girls true or not I don't know.

 

I don't like judging others. People have no idea how much it can impact on someone

 

Doesn't Look Like A Jokey Pic To Me...



Cheers Glen.

 

Whilst I do think that the photo isnt exactly the greatest example of teen mothers, its the general stereotype that all teenage mothers are the same that gets me down.

The thing is, if there was a story in the media about a teenage mum who decided that she was going to go out and party instead of being a mum, then automatically (because age is mentioned) many people will assume that all teenage mums do that when its far from the truth. Trust me, I have days when I feel like running away from it all and just being a teenager, but I know my responsibilitys, I got pregnant, I had a child and I will do anything within my rights to bring her up in a loving home with everything she needs. I've spent nights crying, because I couldn't afford my rent and basic food, I've spent days crying when no one would employ me and the fact that if they did all my wages would go on childcare, its not just parenting - its everything - the struggles are never ending! And I know how hard ive worked to get me and my child into a stable environment with 0 help! It's not easy being viewed as lowest of the low AND feeling that way!

I do understand though, why this picture would cause judgement, but what if these girls were all in their thirties? would it then make it alright for them to pose as a group and look proud?

Im proud, proud of my amazing child, proud of myself for doing the best i could on my own, and I was proud when my baby girl was growing in my womb because I knew i was blessed with a miracle and I knew that one day I'd have a best friend that will be with me for the rest of my life, share my hard work and achievements and one day be doing the same thing for her own children! No one can take that away from me, no amount of judgement or discrimination will make me regret my decision to continue growing a life and giving the world an amazing little girl who I know will make an impact! You know, I'm not going to leave a better world for my children, im going to leave better children for my world.

 

Well it wasn't even the OP's picture to begin with just some random thing off the web.....

See I know people judge me and if I cared what every other person thought of me, well it would drive me crazy. So I don't care, ppl can talk all they want.

 

I just want to clarify, that I am just looking at this photo........

If it was a group of women in their 30's flashing what looks like gang symbols around in a toilet stall, ya I would still be thinking ummmm real classy.

I also want to add that I have also been down that road too, and while being on that road met girls like thinking it was a joke...... waiting for the checks.

Look I know there are good apples and bad apples.

 

One thing people dont realise is.. parenting in general is hard! But, parenting and fighting off judgement is even bloody harder. What if I make a mistake? One slip up and I'm back to sqaure one in the eyes of judgement! If my child turns out to be naughty or bad in school, guess who gets the blame? Useless teenage mother over here!

I've had 'health professionals' make comments, tell me I'm worthless practically.
I don't take my daughter to mum and baby groups anymore because when I did i was left sitting alone because I was 10 years younger than the other mothers, even when I built up courage to go over and sit with them I was still ignored, so i left and never went back. Imagine if my child was older and saw that her mum was being treated that way, what would she take from that? How would that make her feel? Knowing that people would go to certain extents to avoid her mother because she was young!

Children are involved here, its not just us parents that feel bad from this, its our innocent kids too!
I just hope for my little girls sake that school isn't the same, imagine that, not having any friends because your mums a bit younger... I just hope that isn't the case when my daughter goes to school or I have no idea what I'll do, or what I'll have to tell her

 

Exactly this.

 

Not always the case, the divorced parents, the parents who work 2 jobs and never spend time with the kids........they get the blame as well.

Thats when I would have said FU I'm not worthless and you have no right and walk out.

Thats when you still show up week after week and don't let them get to you, mum's can be clicky but you can't give up you want your girl to look at you be strong.

Kids won't care at school, if anything you'll be a cool mum in the kids eyes.

 

^^ not true, people in schools i have been in have been discriminated for having younger/teen parents