I need help with confronting my friend about her new ways. She has been stealing a lot recently and it's starting to becoming a problem. Should I say something and if so what? Because she is one of my best friends and I really wouldn't want to ruin our friendship! help please & thank you
Doubt if you can do much of anything. She will get caught eventually. I had a friend like that --she had a thing for stealing sun glasses. I told her it was only a matter of time. Sure enough------
Don't be forceful, just say, "You will get caught eventually, and there will be nothing I can do to help you." Be a friend.
a good friend of mine just got arrested last week after being followed out of the store by an employee that had seen him on the stores cameras trying on a new pair of shoes and walk out with them on his feet. i was with him earlier that day and he stole a red bull from a gas station and i told him he was gonna get caught...sure enough hours later...handcuffed in the back of a police car.
I wonder if that is hereditary, or maybe it's just learned behavior. My former mother-in-law and her daughter were terrible about that. My former husband was adopted and he didn't shoplift. The mother would steal over the counter medications and other drugstore items. I remember seeing her open a drawer at her house that looked like a miniature pharmace. Her daughter stole ridiculous things like expensive figurines. These women were like 50 and 70 years old.
My opinion is that if she is truly you friend, you should say something. It may not make a difference, but you have to do your part. Believe me, I was one of those guys a lot of kids looked up to in my younger years. They wanted to be like me. I realized one day I was headed for prison or the graveyard, so I changed my life. Joined the Navy and went away. About a year later, one of the guys that idolized me was in prison, another dead. I still carry that as a reminder of how life can be. You don't get do-overs.
I had people tell me I needed to quit doing drugs all the time. I knew I should but I was so far gone it took me a long time to decide on my own to quit. All their nagging didn't tell me anything I didn't already know, my resistance was my own. You may be able to influence her but at any time if you feel her resist, just stop or you'll intensify that.
Never go shopping with a Kleptomaniac...they could frame you if caught and you're with them and the law might treat you by association as an accomplice, especially if they slipped you something in your pocket as you walked out the store. You could probably talk your way out of it that you had no prior knowledge, but I think everybody could do without a few hours of police interrogation don't you?
First, Hide the Silver! Has she stolen from you? A subtle hint might be a can in your entryway marked "Bail Fund for XXX." lol
Yeah, I have a friend like that too -- who also has friends that steal as well. I HATE it. I think you should definitely tell her it makes you uncomfortable. Not to mention, you can get in trouble or accused of stealing if she does it when you are there! I told the people I know, that it is wrong, I don't like it and not to do it around me or they aren't aloud in my car. --- get a job...buy your own stuff. jeez.
she should go to totse2 and read how to do it right. box stuffing. or not do it at all. it,s risk out weighs the benfits (from stores) for me i work. but to steal from ferinds, is bullshit and won,t be tolerated. it is stupid to risk getting in trouble for most times a 10-30 dollar item.
