Hello so this is my first post.. I want to start out by saying im BI and im comfortable where im at now. Whats starting to confuse me lately is if its worth telling my friend/peers my true sexuality. Being in college im surrounded by people all the time and im already well liked, i figure changing my image would mess up a lot for me. I know how i feel about Girls and Guys. Im attracted to more girls than i am guys, but the guys i find attractive im heavily attracted to. I know what i want in life and that is to eventually marry a girl and have kids, nothing makes me happier than seeing with myself with a future family. Being a relationship with a guy is not what i want, but having sex with guys is what i need. Ive noticed i am a bit of a sex addict but i dont see it as a problem really. The point im trying to make really is will coming out as a bisexual mess up my game with the ladies? ( i do have a good game ) Im worried girls wont be into me as much knowing that i have had sex with a guy friend of mine and continue to have sex with him. It bothers me that people cant get past that although im still me and i still satisfy you. its also different with me.. i really dont enjoy the idea of sucking dick or being fucked, its getting off with another guy and seeing him in satisfaction and ecstasy that makes me really really enjoy it. i feel like its more of a bond thing if anything... All i wanna do is be able to make out with a girl and turn around and make out with a guy at the same party. but we all know too many people find this sociably unacceptable. Also i dont want guys thinking i want their shit because i really dont... im unbelievably picky when it comes to the guys i like and i dont need people giving me shit for it. so what should i do ? right now im thinking this is going to be my secret forever
Well, what does the word "friend" mean to you? If it means "People you can trust and who accept you for who you are," and you think maybe you *can't* trust these people and they *won't* accept you for who you are, then are they really your friends? Is it enough for you to live your life just "knowing" people on a superficial level rather than having real friends? If so, then there's no need to tell those people, but at the same time you might consider that those people aren't really friends. Personally, I wouldn't want to have the kind of life where I felt I had to keep a big secret from everybody. I'd prefer to know people with whom I could be honest. Also, think forward to the day when you want to have a relationship. Can you have a relationship with someone of one gender when you want to be with people of both genders? If not, do you plan on being single forever, or having a relationship and then cheating? Seems to me like there are much bigger questions than whether you tell the people you know that you're bi.
i hear there exist bisexual women as well so your best bet is to hook up with someone like that. it's not that rare. you just have to prioritize on what is important to you and choose your partners accordingly. don't bother with girls who only want a nice house and kids out of life. you gotta aim for someone more adventurous and carefree. it's all in the company you keep. and the kind of life you end up having depends entirely on you. if you compromise it's your own fault. if you want your life so that you can be with both, men and women, then make it so that it will be so. it's nothing nowhere near impossible. you only live once as far as we know so....
You are only 20. Take your time. At the moment, you feel like sharing your sexuality with your friends who may or may not judge you. Why would you want rush where even angels fear to tread? Play the field. Do not commit yourself to anyone or anything. Enjoy your freedom, and pick it up from there. Once you have acquired some of the life's wisdom you'll call your shots... KD
