No friends but i don't want any either??

Let's just start off with a little info, i always had lots of friends during school and early life, after school i never kept in contact with anyone. Had no interest really.

As the years go on, i quite enjoy having no friends, have no real interest in gaining any, i mean, i have work mates who i work with, but i probably wouldn't socialize with them outside of work.

I'd rather be on my own most of the time doing my own thing.

Is this an unusual thing? Anyone else out there with no friends and would rather keep to themselves....? :2thumbsup:

 

Its certainly unusual, but that doesn't mean there's anything wrong with it. Humans tend to have strong group identity and prefer to be around others, and they're distrustful of those who keep to themselves. That's why "loner" is a pejorative. The thinking is that someone without a decent number of friends is someone who can't *make* friends, and so there must be something wrong with that person. And of course that's sometimes true, but it's not always true.

There's a difference between being alone and being lonely. You're the former and not the latter.

If you're comfortable with limited social contact, then I don't see a problem with it, but you might want to keep that fact to yourself when you do converse with others, as I have no doubt that many to most will judge you negatively for it.

 

I totally feel that way.
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Most of my close friends have died. I still have some other friends but not that close. I really don't mind being alone. I don't remember the last time I might have felt lonely.

 

I'm a recluse and don't have any friends other than those that are "online friends".


Sometimes that bothers me, sometimes it doesn't.

 

Same Here, A Walk Through My Address Book, Is Like A Walk Through A Cemetary....

Likewise....



Cheers Glen.

 

Learning to live with yourself is like learning to live with a good friend...Don't you find that we are a multiplicity...We are never truly alone even when we are by ourselves...Personally I love having friends and want more and more...The more I learn to love people the more I want to know...Now if I counted the friends I have lost over the years that would be a long list...We could be a whole group of frogs...a whole group of friends...The biggest group of friends the World has ever known!

 

I'm not sure it's that unusual. I went through a few years myself where I wasn't big on making new friends or keeping up with some old ones. People often change though and there might be a time where you wish you had some of your old friends or made some new ones. If it's worth the effort of keeping them now is up to everyone themselves of course

This perhaps sounds easy to say since I live on the other side of the world but if i lived near you in Ohio I would certainly like to come around (at least once ) :2thumbsup:

 

Me Too, If You Have Seen His Pics, He Is Certainly A Wild Boy, And I'm

Sure He Has Some Wild Tales To Tell Aswell....



Cheers Glen.

 

this is interesting. i have autism which makes making friends hard for me. but i have a small group of friends who i love so very much. but i have periods when i will just wont to be on my own. this can be 1 day 1 week 1 month or year. sometimes i like to be by myself lost in my own little world then after awhile i will come out to play with my friends. there is nothing wrong with wonting to be by your self i totally understand that. and is societies stereotypes that are a bad thing not the fact that you are happy to be on your own. for in my experience its been the popular and the loved that have for for issues than the people wh wish to be by there self. good luck to you

 

I've had quite a few negative experience when extending the hand of friendship to others...so these days I keep quite a shield up, rarely letting others seeing the true me. I used to be too trusting of people, and it worked against me. A pleasant but limited approach should be taken with friends. NEVER mix business with friendship, and never become too emotionally attached, because friends come and go.

 

I consider those who socialize to be the abnormals.

 

i consider those who have penises to be females.

 

'undies-in Thailand you'd probably be right!

 

If you want a friend feed any animal...

 

very true:2thumbsup:

 

I don't think you really understand what a friend is.

 

I'm quite sure I do. Every friend has their breaking point, a limit at which they can no longer continue the friendship based on the circumstances. The worst are tempted by some lucrative opportunity, and stab you in the back. Some bad friends go because they want to appease another group of people. Slightly better ones go because they can't deal with the situation you were supposed to be in together. The best ones will stick with you through most things, but will always value something above it. Everyone has their priorities, vices, selfishness...it just depend where they rank the value of friendships in light of them.

 

Seems like you are perhaps ranking too high. Can't a good friend value something else above your friendship?

 

Every real friend I have ever had, no matter the time we were friends have let me down.
Steal from me, have sex with my sons mom, put me in jail.
And were talking 10~15 years of "friendship".
after you get burned so many times its alot easier to be alone and enjoy it. I honestly cant call 1 of my 200 contacts in my phone a friend.
Its sad when I think about it