Wondering how other people view this relationship

Hello, well this will be a weird first post, but for some reason lately the title question has been on my mind a lot.

Last year my girlfriend and i ended our relationship because of new geography problems (we are now 1500 miles apart), but i always felt that it was a little bit one sided, i cared for her more than she did for me, and to be honest kinda angry for some her actions and behaviours (i did try talking to her about them but she would always clam up). It's my only relationship to date so i don't have anything else to compare with, hence wondering how other people would view things.

For example, one of the things she would frequently do, like five, six nights out of seven would be to leave our bed in the middle of the night at the same time like clockwork, to go chat to her ex boyfriend on skype, till morning.

She used his body as a reference for her artwork (life art), sometimes i felt she was more intimate toward him than to me (sex and even basic intimacy was virtually non existant) when we went on holiday, again she wouldnt bother coming to bed at night she would just stay up talking to her ex on skype.

There were even times when (we didnt have wireless at the time) she would take an uber long ethernet cable and feed it through the air conditioning vent into the spare room so she could shut the door properly behind her...

The other thing that was difficult was that she would practically redefine herself every other week, just as i thought i knew her she would literally chose a new name for herself and a new personality.

I mean there were a lot of great times in the relationship, but i always felt uneasy about it too. If you were in a relationship and the person was doing things like this, how would you have felt do you think? Would you be so comfortable with your girl or boy leaving your bed every night to go skype with their ex and draw them naked??

Please dont think I am looking for sympathy or an excuse to feel angry again, its all way behind in the past and i dont much care about it one way or the other, i just mostly wonder how other people in a similar situation would act think.

Peace! :daisy:

 

She sounds unstable and too emotionally, if not physically attached to her ex.
Be grateful you're out of that relationship - too much drama, not enough maturity.

Peace,
- FM

 

Sounds like you are way better off my man.
Personally I would have been mad pissed. She shouldnt have been with you in the first place because like FlowerMama said, she was clearly still attached to her ex.

I'll say it again, you are way better off. Stop thinking about it, move on. There's someone out there that you probably haven't met who is longing for you.

 

then i wouldn't be in a relationship with them.

 

Read everything you just wrote.

You don't need advice. If you have half a brain, you can realize what this situation is...

 

Yeah she had problems. It does seem as though it still bothers you a bit,so I'll add this.
Most of us have gone thru bad relationships. Sometimes, we were even the problem in the relationship. You live and you learn. You said it was your first and only relationship, so hold on. Life is full of mysteries. lol Relationships take a lot of work and communication as well as experience in many cases. I had to learn the hard way just like many others. There are no short cuts, just live and enjoy while you can.

 

You are lucky to be out of that relationship. She is still into her ex. Raise your expectations. You deserve better.

 

I think you're definitely better of not being in a relationship like that, she was clearly still very much into her ex.

 

Dump her, you need a woman who respects you, not one that shits on you.

 

for sure you should get someone that is into you not the past or other people.

 

Sounds like she has some crazy inside her brain. New name? New personality? That's a disorder in the making.