Marriage: flowers, rainbows, smiles "NOT" marriage is simply 2 people agreeing to live with each other for the rest of there lives it does not mean that you have to stop being human. Yes, you will argue about the minor or major things in life - and then you will have make up sex ( mmm which is delicious). Females we will be bitches when we pms. Men will be assholes when ever want to which is all the time jk. Men if your into sports you will agree with everything your wife says because you don't want to miss your game. Woman,we will talk to our men and share every problem in life and they don't listen at all. Then when the issue comes they will say "what are you talking about, you never told me". We will complain because our men are not being to lovey dovey and complain because they are. Men will complain if the house is clean or dirty. We will complain about bills we will complain about the smallest things that have no issue at all We are human. Marriage for me is that I have my partner in life no matter what happens he will be with I will grow old with him and have plenty of memories talk about and share with our grandchildren or simply share with younger couples.A as you see I am human I'm not perfect I have secrets I do not share with him. It does not mean I don't care there's a lot on my mind. curiosity. About a lot of things. The more years we are together we learn more things about each other. I want to live life day by day with him learning and when he or me are comfortable with whatever is going on in life we can share it with each other. I noticed there is some people on here that are married and have lovers. I would like to know have you always had lovers throughout your marriage ? What made you start? How many of you that are married have secrets? Tell me a little something about your marriage that your partner doesn't know? None of these questions are wrong it's normal.ITS MARRAIGE! I hope I made sensce when I write I miss a lot and I'm not gonna proof read
Are you married? I was once and you're right people do argue a lot. I do think they should try to work things out and stick together. It gets tough but people should try to work it out instead of just giving up. My husband didn't want to keep trying though. I don't think I'd ever get married again.
Lvnfemale, HI! Yes, I'm married. I've been with my husband a very long time. We lived together before we married and now we are married 12 years. It's all like you say, it's not always easy to get along. My husband has 30 years more than me. We have our troubles but are trying to work them out. Mainly my problem is my sex drive and his are not equal. His is subsiding very much, and mine is getting stronger and stronger. I have a hard time managing that. When we were newly married or I guess in our first years of marriage we engaged in sex with another man and then with some couples. But not now. so I don't know if I'm answering any questions here, I'm jumbling up my thoughts. I'd love to include other peoples (esp. another man or maybe two in our sex) but my husband would not. Yes, I have my secrets from him but I would not cheat on him and have sex with someone else without his agreeing to it - I could not live with myself with that huge of a secret. So I'm a major masturbater these days and probably until the end of my time on this planet earth!! I love my husband and wouldn't want to hurt him, he has really been the rock in my life, and I'm very needy that way. Sorry for the long stumbling reply. I like this thread.
This is a great reply! Thanks for sharing it. Sorry to hear your sex drives are on different levels. That does make for hard times in a relationship for sure. Tons of respect for the fact that you have enough common respect for your husband that you do not go behind his back to fill your needs. There is also nothing wrong with taking care of yourself as much as needed to fill your sexual feelings. Also agree with the bringing in other people once in a while for some extra fun! My lady and I love the experiences we have together when we bring someone else in for a fun night.
Oh how I miss those happy sexy days. The man we had with us was someone I had very strong feelings towards. But well, all good things must come to an end. Yeah, my husband being in his 60's now and having his drive diminished doesn't have his old confidence. And that's OK, he just has to put up with my rubbing on myself and when I'm lucky he's lending a bit of caressing and finger poking - it's all good in the end - pun intended!!!
Marebare You are not jumbling at all. Your a great woman to stick with your husband through good and bad.I think sex is not just penis vagina there's so many other ways and the important thing is that he joins you and you guys have fun. Keep it up
Im not in that situation but from what Marebare has proven to me,its possible. I think that when you are committed to you relationship you will do what you can to have fun with each other no matter. what you will make it so that both of you are satisfied. As far as looking somewhere else I personally would not like Marebare says I wouldnt be able to live with cheating. It's all about communication and not afraid of telling hating your needs with one another.Like I said it all takes time to get that confidence with your partner it sounds weird. But MARRAIGE is learning about one another not knowing. I hope I answered your questions Willie Blue
