17 yrs married,mom,happy,satisfied in "EVERYWAY"

:sunny:ive been married for 17 years: first 5 were horrible, first 10 getting comfy, now me and my husband know that we are meant for each other.
We have arguments, fights over the dumbest things but he has learned to ignore me, but not ignore me, especially when I'm pms ing confusing but you ladies know what I'm talking about. Right now I see my husband and he just makes me melt he touches me and I, well you know what I mean. Like I mentioned in a prev.post. Im going through a extreme heat wave.
We try to go out at least once a month movies, a drink, dancing,hotel so we can have wild sex because it's kinda hard to do at home with kids ( I get to loud) lol but we do. I enjoy being married we communicate a lot well I do my husband says he listens but doesn't really (typical man)
from what I hear from everyone my husband speaks highly of me which he will never admit to me.
I love it! my man is my boy toy and I'm his. There is no rules for what he can do to me sexually.As for me I just can't touch his exiting area.
He's my lover when we go out on dates, sancho when i want a quicky,he's my boss that I have an affair with all the time, boyfriend when we fully make out in the movie theatre (sshhh don't tell anyone). And husband when we are out with our kids. It's not easy but you just have to ask yourself is this the person you want cleaning your butt when your to old to do it yourself.:wheelchair:If you say yes you will survive.

 

sounds a lot like me and my wife of 22 years

cant complain too much, especially about the sex, every day we are still exploring new things and it just gets better all the time.

what more can i say

 

Gap Love it and the orgasms mmm get better and better. I know too much detail

 

Im not looking for anything.Whatever happens happens. I'm not going to lie I flirt with other men text style just to see if i would cheat on him but none of them compare to him. He has me very well pleased

 

And there it is

 

gross. (typical woman)

 

if you are flirt texting with other men than ''EVERYWAY'' is a far stretch

you are 37..married at 20....i give it 7 years max.....sorry

 

Ouch that hurt. 7 years hmmm I doubt it. I don't plan on going anywhere. But thanks for your honesty

 

i hope you beat the stats and both grow old with tons of great grandkids

i hear that a major factor in these 20 yr marriage break ups is when one partner stays in shape and the other partner gets fat or ''slovenly''

father time is a cruel bitch

stay fit...good luck

 

1) Why were the first 5 years horrible?

2) Isn't testing if you're going to cheat, sort've a different way of saying (and thinking about) looking for a good opportunity to cheat? It's like you're waiting for the right guy/situation where you decide to cheat - just in case, as a back up plan. But can't that backfire? What if because you are looking for such a situation, when it isn't needed, you find what you are looking for, at a time when you are looking for it, but it is a more impulsive desire.
I really think you should wait until you actually want to cheat, to test if you want to.

 

Thank you so much I intend to. we both think the same way when it comes to marriage.We always used to joke around and say that when our last kid turn 18 we would separate well we keep having kids our oldest is 18 and youngest 1y.o. Now we are waiting for the 1 yo to turn 18 so we could travel. If we ever stop having kids.

 

im not sure how true your comment is, and/or what the stats might show, if any are kept, but i do agree with you in a way, and i can see how some couples (or one partner of a couple) may just lose the plot and become complacent with regards to their healt and well being, causing problems.

in my own case, i posted up a thread yesterday seeking thoughts on how to maintain an erection during sex after having developed a slightly larger than normal "belly" in the past 6 months and its now causing a few minor issues for me (not for her as it doesnt affect our marriage in any way)

i just see it as a problem because it is me who is suffering for it, but given my wife is almost 50, she looks 40, and still has the body of a 35/40 year old, and i could see how if she was any other woman she might actually get pissed off with me for being like i am, and end up leaving me if i didnt do anything about it.

in my case, medication was 50% to blame for my added weight to the "belly" so now im on the road to losing it very slowly, not only for her, but for my own sanity as well.

 

We rushed into everything. We met as teens got pregnant and decided to have a family so that the kids could have that as they grow up.I was a BIG BITCH I wanted everything my way,there was violence from my part he would just hold me down until I'd calm down. you name all the neg things we had it those 5 yrs except cheating we've never cheated.

You have a good point never saw it that way I could be doing it without knowing hmmm. But I don't want to cheat at all I look at guys and compare to my husband they all gross me out. I try thinking of another man touching me caressing me making love to me and I can't. I see my husband.theres 2 guys that I text and there from highschool. It's all fun n games. But like I said I better be careful cause I would be one dumb a** Bitch to loose my man.

 

Hm; how do you think you two got past all of that?

It may have just been the wording that sent me on alert; may not be. Just listening to my own keyboard, I suppose =P

 

When I hear, much less read about, how a woman "doesn't mean anything by it"...whatever "it" is...in this case "it" would be "text flirting"...I always think...and here we go.

If your husband is everything to you and he has put up with what I would call relatively intolerable circumstances (getting physically violent), why in the hell would you subject him to flirting with other men via texting? I am a woman, and I often find other women incomprehensible.

Your husband deserves kudos.

 

I can't yet decide wether I want to call bullshit on this thread but I'm leaning towards it quite a bit.

 

Sorry I don't get the whole text flirting to see if you would cheat on him! I just know I would not cheat on my partner and don't feel I need to test myself. Not that either of us would need to considering we live a swingers lifestyle. Thing is we don't live that way, because we feel we need to. We do it, because we are in a strong and secure enough relationship that we can. We are 100% honest with each other about everything, don't do anything with out each and trust each other completly. If I found out she was texting other guys and flirting behind my back it would all be done. If I can't trust the one I am with then I have no interest in being with them. There is nothing innocent about decet.

 

Ghost That's fine I enjoy everyone's opinion