Who can I help on here, and how?

well i don't see how anything we can do on here is supposed to be able to help anyone. other them maybe inspire some kind of ideas or something like that.

 

You may help yourself to joy. You present shiny and I appreciate that.

 

Oh shit... I didnt know that had happened

Dont forget that he's a dude too... we're not really as demonstrative of our love... I'm sure if you change your perspective a bit you will learn to pick up on those subtle cues that show you that he actually feels the same love that you do

Up to something like 75% of women can only achieve orgasm if mr clitty is involved so theres certainly nothing wrong with you...


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Don't expect anyone else to be able to do for you what you cannot do for yourself. In other words, figure out how to give yourself a g-spot orgasm first.

 

Having access to an free, anonymous forum with third party people who can provide input, ideas and encouragement can make a hell of a difference. I know it has for me...

 

ESPECIALLY with this guy around!

 

I just wanted to say that this is the kind of thing that prevents me from becoming completely cynical about people and human nature. So thanks for that.

Here's a question for you - why is it that some people find it impossible to ever admit that they've done something wrong?

 

In regards to the sibling problem, I don't have much in common with either one of my brothers. But I feel as if we're close because I know they would both do anything for me.

Even though I can't hold a conversation with either of them it's enough for me to know they're there, hanging around the peripheral edges of my life.

I think sometimes with siblings that has to be enough.

If he's been in an accident just make sure he knows you love him and you're there.

 

I have the same problem with my brother. We use to be simi-close , but then it all went down the drain. He has in the past 3 years began a lot of bad habits & it just totally a different person. I mean I do see him quite a bit , but sometimes we walk right by each other & don't even say hi. He knows how I feel about how he does our mom & grandma. He don't work & won't even try. Where as I started working a real job at 14 & have worked ever since. I feel though part of it is my mom's fault 4 allowing it. He also has a GF who is so disrespectful in my mother & grandmothers house. We are 2 totally different people. We always get in fights when I try to give him advice & stuff too. It does make me sad sometimes because he is my brother & I love him. The way he is though sometimes I can't stand to look at him , because I know how he is & what he does. My mother tells me everything so I know all that goes on at home & what not. I just can't look at him after I find out the things he has done to them & in general to get money & stuff. He acts like a 12 y/o in a 20 y/o body. It makes me sad to because he has a lot of potential as a auto mechanic He is a wiz with cars & could really do well at it, but he is to focused on other things that he really shouldn't be. It is one thing if he had a job or some kind of goals, but he don't because he knows that mom,grandma or the GF will take care of him

Sorry 4 the rant but it kinda feel good to get it out there anyways also since ya know all about him I have a question. My mom makes me mad to because after all he does & she is always talking about she don't know what she is gunna do with him cuz he is running her dry & she is going broke blah blah.. It makes me mad because I was never like that I always worked & I helped pay the bills & when my mom had her back surgeries I paid all the bills. She wouldn't let me not work. One time when I was 16 I decide to quit my job & she said no way she was not going to support me as far as my clothes & stuff that I wouldn't get nothing new if I was just gunna sit around. with in a week she went out and found me a job! So like I said I have always worked & supported myself. Now with my brother she gives him everything he wants even when it hurts her, just so he will shut up & not throw a fit. So don't I have a right to be upset & have some kind of resentment against both of them? She use to ask to borrow money from me & I would always give it to her, but then I learned what he was doing & just how bad he was , so I stop lending out money because basically it was like I was giving him money since he was the reason he needed it, if that makes any sense to you guys..

I guess I will stop with my rant & what not sorry for going on & on , but the title of this thread was "Who can I help & how" So i guess my question is how do you feel about my situation & what would you do if you were me and stuff?

Thanks 4 listening & again sorry it is so long.I am 100% positive this is the longest post I have ever had.

Peace&Love

 

How can I find a good woman near where I live?

 

Go out to local hot spots in your area. Not like clubs or anything like that, but maybe like Pubs & places like that, or you can always use the net

 

Coffee?

 

Thanks everyone for the help! I'm gunna try talking to him, too, about possibly doing more together and seeing each other more. My father wouldn't want us being this distant, regardless of life getting in the way.

But, Meliai, I feel the same way most of the time...he's somewhere out there, just a phone call away, and he'll be here if I do need him desperately.

So, you're the big sister? Its always that way with the older siblings. I don't know why...its some kind of unwritten law that the youngest gets everything. When my brother is in one of his "moody" phases, I try and tell my mother to STOP doing his laundry and STOP putting up with his shit and just tell him off, but she won't.

My brother is different than yours in the sense that he's independent...but with some things, he's TOO independent. I don't think he had any intention of telling us he got into the accident, but my mother called him to say hi and he told her then. But, there's a lot of things he can't handle on his own.

But I'm just like you where I began supporting myself in high school and even began supporting my mother right outta high school. My brother had my father as a financial lifeline whenever he needed. And when he didn't get a few bucks from him, he'd flip out. He's grown up a lot since then because my father passed away, but it seems that everyone caters to him and I hate how he treats people sometimes...especially the ones that help him most.

Like I said, I don't understand why, but the younger siblings typically get that treatment whereas the older kids are expected to be self sufficient.

I just accepted my brother as he is in that sense and stopped trying to convince everyone not to bend over backwards for the kid.

 

malia...buy a harley...the 883 sportster is what my sister rides....you can pick them up cheap down there...the bikes will bring you together

g-spot...insert 2-3 fingers into vagina after cunnilingus but before orgasm....start motioning with fingers ''come here,come here'' in the area behind the clitoris...you gotta wiggle them good till you find the spot

and then blast off


lodog...hot spots are for 1 night stands

 

Thank you for saying that, I appreciate it.

Your question is a really good one. The short answer is I honestly don't know. I struggle with that as well. I think it's hard to define ''right'' or ''wrong'' in the first place. Usually this kind of thing happens when even though you think the other person has done something wrong, they have already found a way to justify whatever action they have done and think they aren't. Maybe there is comfort to be found in that. It shows that they did whatever they did in order to advance their own agenda, not to hinder yours.

Don't mean to get philosophical or anything, but we all know people are selfish and egotistical. It sounds sad, but it doesn't have to be. I think the fact that people look out mostly only for themselves is kinda comforting. In a twisted way, I see it as evidence that no one actually has bad intentions towards others; they are just trying to look out for themselves as best they could. Unfortunately some cause more collateral damage in the process than others....

Wow. This sounds a lot like my family. I definitely recommend reading up on ''enabling behavior'' and ''codependency''. I can reply to this in a more concrete way because I've definitely been through something very similar.

Long story short, your brother is throwing off the whole balance of your family. I know how much it sucks to be the only one with their shit together in a family that feels like they are falling apart. Your brother is running your mother dry, so she ''needs'' you. she knows she can count on you and she has learned to do that so in turn, SHE runs YOU dry in different ways. In a way, you are carrying the weight of your whole family on your shoulders, and that's a shitty, unfair job for a kid.

Here's where ''enabling'' comes in. As long as your mother lets your brother and his girlfriend fuck her around - he will continue to do so. As long as you let you mother count on you - she will continue to do so. Do you see a pattern emerging here?

The bad news is you can't change your mother, and you cant change your brother. The good news is you get to decide how you interact with them. Sadly, if you choose to do that your family are going to throw a fit and you are going to feel like you are letting them down - but it's the best thing you can do. Maybe when you stop bailing your mom our she will no longer have the resources to bail your brother out, and maybe if your mom stops bailing your brother our, he will have no other choice than to get his shit together.... If not, you are looking our for yourself, which should always be your first priority anyways.

If you have already tried the usual (bars, dating sites, whatever) I say switch it up. Go do something. Get a dog and go to the dog park, Try rock climbing, Sign up for a yoga class, join a club... just go somewhere were you dont usually go and where you are likely to interact with women you wouldnt otherwise get to meet.

 

Well I can't, I have tried, and I just don't know how I guess

 

Can you orgasm at all?

 

Yes, I can orgasm, but I think it's just Clitoral.

 

Well you are in the majority, so you seem pretty normal to me...

 

Thanks everyone 4 the advice & concerns