sleeping with my boyfriend while friends in other room

hey guys soo where to start, i am turning 22 and my boyfriend will be 22 in a few months as well. we have been together for almost 4 years. For my birthday I like to stay downtown at a hotel with friends then go to a club/bar. i did this last year for my bday as well in a hotel..this time last year though my bf and i were not sexually active. yess he waited a while to have actual intercourse which i love him for waiting. anyways so last year at my bday we checked into the hotel early and did well everything but actual intercourse. then showered, my friends came and all. all my guy friends went home (cause my girlfriends were staying and sharing beds and wasnt safe them going home that time alone) it was one giant long suite and 2 queen beds and pull out couch. a few of my girlfriends stayed took a bed and cot and my bf and i slept together no sex or anything at night with them there of course. now at the time i didnt think anything wrong of it and still dont cause they are my closest girls, didnt mind and we werent doing anything...and we werent even sexually active so we literally cuddled and feel asleep.

now this year i want to do same kind of thing get there early foul around and all before everyone comes but this time i want more privacy lol so i want a suite with an area to pre drink but then a queen bedroom for us off to the side with a door lol

my parents are very strick and wont let me stay overnight with him alone and think im going to have sex and my mom knows im on birth control too but not that were sexually active. now my parents like him but dont want me going overnight. they said for my bday they would pay for the suite for me and my friends..i do still want my girlfriends to feel welcome to crash the night in the family room area of the suite...is it rude i want a hotel with the seperate bed area for my bf and i? also i feel like im disrespecting my parents going behind there back but at the same time its none of there business if im sleeping with him lol i dunoo just only difference now were sexually active...any opinions am i being sneaky?? but at the same time its not like im going to make everyone else go home i still want to be good to my girlies! this is something we have been wanting to do for years but never done cause i didnt want to go behind my parents back. is what im descrided doing that? or is it just something personal i keep to myself. plus theres the whole thing they have said what we dont get married blah blaah but i hope we do and weve talked about it but sure no one knows the future. i dont really see it bad as we already had sex and already have shared a bed all night. opinions?? mostly i want to know if u would consider it dis respectful especially since they are paying for the suite!

 

I hope you will encourage your girls to make him feel very special ohhh shoot it is YOUR birthday..

 

this makes me not want to ever have a girlfriend

 

i guess it's up to you to decide. I'm sure you could get away with it? But would you feel guilty?

 

Okay.. You're turning 22. You and your boyfriend have been together for 4 years. And your parents still run your sex life?

I think you should talk to your parents and say "I understand and respect your opinions about whether ____ and I should have sex. I know you don't want me to and I know why, but I am 22 years old. I'm a woman now and these are decisions that I need to make. And I think that you should respect that and trust that I know what is or isn't good for me. I know I still have growing and learning to do, but I'm not a little girl anymore. I don't want you to worry, either. None of this changes the fact that you're my parents and I love you." Or something like that. That's how I'd approach my parents if I were you, at least.


As for your friends, I don't see any problems with them staying. I don't think it's being rude. My friends would understand my boyfriend and I wanting some personal space, whether it was for sex or not.

 

You are 22. It's time to tell mom and pops to step off. Not being sexually active at 22 is weird, and so is your parents having an opinion or any say in your sex life. As for your friends, I would let them know how it's gonna go down and let that be that.

 

You're 22. I know that it's hard to break away from their strict, scary, obsessive rules.. but you will be fine. How would they even know that he is staying the night?.. if you've been the "golden child", and they do happen to find out.. just apologize. Or move out. I moved out at 20.. made things so much easier.


If i were you, i'd let my friends sleep wherever they want, and i'd fuck him all night long. That's so hot!

 

right.. once you've givin them the warning, and they choose to still sleep in the same room.. i say moan even louder! mwahah

 

I just want to say while I agree about the getting your own place...

The answer that it can just be done, especially now, is not a realistic answer.

Rents are higher than ever, and loans are rare without super good credit, and yet the roles of whose rules you follow depend on who bought that house have to change first, but they won't.

 

I would live on the street before I'd let my parents control my sex life. Of anyone else for that matter.

 

I'd feel weird if my girl-friends parents paid for our room so that I could then fornicate/sodomize her

 

Who do you think u're fooling sweet heart! What's the point in keeping your virginity if you're going to let him lick your pussy, fuck your ass, suck on his cock, blow his load in your mouth: just so that u can say, "Oh I'm a pure innocent little virg". I'd rather my daughter just lose her virginity than get degraded!

Who did you think u wer fooling!!!

 

i think u guys are miss understanding...i never said they are controlling my sex life :/ when did i say that? i still had sex with him and they never said not to or anything. im sure they figure by now i have but my parents chose not to talk to me about it cause they know im responsible. they are not strick at all, again i didnt say that. they say i can move out when im ready and never once asked about my sex life or "run it" so im confused how u guys got that. all i was saying is since there paying i dont want to use the hotel as just me and him and flop on my friends.

rent in the expensive city i live in is not worth it.. i would be broke. we want to move together but not now. we are in school and no point when we have comfortable homes and want to save and move in when we are both working full time.

i asked my 2 closest girls and they both said that they think its not really guest friendly to all my friends and kind of rude and akward if we run off at the end of the night to another bedroom while my friends stayed for my bday..which why everyone has an opinion and im sure il get people going off on this but i fully agree with her. anyways i got my answer. im going to get 2 queens in the room and pullouts. plus we arent going to have sex while my friends are there.. just a dumb comment we will however before everyone gets there.

 

and laura... what??? im not degraded...we did have sex..and im not a virgin..:S

and even if i didnt have sex.. which i did.. that is just a nasty thing to say as i do respect people who wait to have sex (even though im not myself) waiting to have sex is not being degraded. id appreciate an apology .

i came on here for advice..not to be told off by some stranger.

 

Let me just say, that if you're hanging out with your friends all night, and everyone passes out.. it's not rude to pass out with him, or screw him while everyone is asleep. Because it's YOUR birthday, and they're going to sleep anyways. It is rude however to ditch your friends and go fuck him while everyone is partying. Well, tbh, i don't think that's rude.. if i were your friend and i wasn't the only other one there i'd say go for it… but females are so fucking crazy. Anyways.. They are probably just a little jealous that you're the only one getting action.

As far as the moving out thing goes.. yea i get that. I moved out at 20, and it's not easy. Not easy at all.

 

yeah well my closest girlfriends dont have bfs and they pretty much told me they would feel akward and its rude. .. so im going to respect that. anyways my bf and i decided we will go early and have sex lol and then we can still sleep together at night they dont feel weird if we do they said if we're in the same room

and ya for sure not while im in school!

 

thats a good idea! fuck in your car, or his.. go somewhere where it will be very hot. cuddling is always fun. I love spooning.

I am 21, i went for a year before i moved, and i'm waiting for in state tuition so that i can go back. i want to go back so bad.

 

well we were going to go to the hotel early and check in 3..and do it there..and eat dinner, watch tv..shower then my friends come! lol

and aw good luck!

 

I think that's where we got the idea that your parents are strict and try to control your sex life.

 

well then. lol :groupwave: