sleeping with my boyfriend while friends in other room

ok trueeee...well its weird to explain.. they say i can but they would rather i dont. they dont encourage it, me staying out all night just with my bf alone. but at the end of the day they say obviously you can do what u want..its just me wanting to respect them while im living at home.
but i used the wrong word, maybe, they arent strict and dont control my sex life they just dont want to think of me alone with him in a hotel having sex when im not engaged or married. they just have strong values.

 

let loose, have a night of fun.

 

some of my friends are telling me how its so disrespectful (and ones that have bfs too) to take the suite my parents paid for..go early and have sex.. even though its always so hard to have no one home at either of our houses..some of my friends think im so rude and going behind there back to have sex in the room they paid for by going early? what do u guys think about that specifically?? cause i think i decided i would just get all the beds together in the suite so no one feel weird us leaving and since we would have sex before hand..but what about the whole going behind my parents back? i feel awful now ab out tthat. they might no we are sexually active and guess after 4 yrs but they never directly asked and make an issue of it but i know they dont think im going to use the suite they paid for, for that reason. mid you i still am still using it for the party in the evening and not kicking my friends out or anything.

 

your friends sound narrow minded. do what you want. Stop listening to them. It's YOUR birthday. They don't have to know anything.. keep you and him between you and him and screw the rest of the world.


Sometimes the sexiest most erotic sex is sex that stays between two people.. you'll find that you'll be more into it when you don't feel it is necessary to get approval from your friends.

 

^ Agreed.

Anonisacat is right. This is between you and him. Your parents paid for the room, but they didn't lay out an absolutely no sex rule. So it's not disrespecting them. My parents don't care, but they don't want me doing it under their own roof. To them, that is disrespectful.


Why do your friends care if you go early to have some intimate alone time? You aren't ditching them to be with him. You're just using the time on your birthday to do what you want with him before you go out with your friends so you can still have fun with them too. What you and your boyfriend do is between the two of you. Your friends aren't involved. Plus, the two of you have been together for FOUR years. I think you have every right to have sexy time!

 

Respectfully, your friends sound like they should be a little more understanding.

 

Your friends don't sound like very much fun. I suggest either removing whatever projectile that is lodged in their ass....or find fun friends instead.

Never in my life have I met someone who would actually discourage their friend from having sex on their birthday. They are the ones being rude.

 

You got me all wrong. U mustn't be too bright. You shud b able to tell what I was gettin at. I obviously meant that having a COCK put in your mouth is degrading!! If u saved ur virginity without degarding substitutes than I would admire that, but YOU defeated the purpose. When u went to the hotel 1 yr ago and had some fun in the bedroom like u said, YOU thought u were saving ur virginity by letting him sodomize you. "We did everything but actual intercourse"

 

I never understood how doing "everything but" actual intercourse somehow preserved virginity.

Really though, tell your friends to get another room. They sound like spinsters in long dresses, waiting for gentlemen callers.

 

Actually, she never said she was a virgin. Just because they were waiting to have sex, doesn't mean she's a virgin. And even if she did, it doesn't mean she was saving herself so she could pull the "I've done everything else, but not intercourse. So I'm a virgin and pure" card.


You're being kind of a dick. And it was unnecessary to say she "must not be to bright".

 

oh thanks for saying in not bright?? -_- you dont know me.. anyways what u are saying doesnt help with the advice i asked and i never said that i was trying to save my virginity..what? i waited and we waited until i was both ready and it happened when i wanted it to. i wasnt trying to perserve my virginity at all i was just waiting until i was completely ready and my bf respected that. what i needed advice on mostly here is if going early using the room for sex in the afternoon is disrespecting my parents not so much my friends cause i agree i will keep that between my bf and i .. im not going to tell or bring up anymore to anyyy of my friends that we will before hand u guys are right thats our business but mostly my advice now i wanted was if going earlier and using it for that is disrespecting my parents, (not my friends) since my parents are paying for the room. but at the same time we are still using it for a party at night and hving my friends stay, really only difference from last year is that we are having sex in it lol

 

and thanks, yea i wasnt trying to say i was pure and all .. i just wanted until i was ready and my bf respected that.

 

IloveLaura overstepped her boundaries with here statement, and it was kinda pointless especially since what happened already happened and you can't change it just by saying your moralistic or religious-moralistic opinion on it.

I think it is rude to run out on your friends to have a romp with your BF, even though it's your birthday, you are technically part of the hosting party, and there are certain responsibilities that go along with that. (Ex: Ensuring good safe entertainment, and making sure to the best of your ability that they arrive and leave the party safely)


But in regards to disrespecting your parents, it depends on how you were raised, and how your relationship with them works.

 

Lol. We do not go to the same kinda parties.

 

well "good and safe" are qualifiers...feel free to tack on your own personal meaning to those words.

 

Seeing how you know what your parents views on sex are, don't you already know the answer to the question you are asking? If you went home and told them you and the bf where bumping uglies, wouldnt they feel betrayed and let down? Arent you really seeking approval from somebody to do what you want when you want to do it? The answers are within you. You are the one that has to deal with your actions not us. You have to look your parents in the eye and lie to them. Not me or anybody here. Good Luck. If it was me I'd say fuck it and have fun but thats me and clearly I've made some bad decisions in life.