How to get over someone

How do you guys cope with moving on/getting over someone?
This girl i was dating at my work, i cant seem to move past her. I am constantly thinking about her, and last night i had a nightmare about her, well maybe not a nightmare, but a dream, that i walked in on her fucking some guy. Seemed like a nightmare though. We still talk at work but seem to get mad at each other more easily now. It's a weird situation that I would like to move on from but idk how to.

 

Smoke yourself stupid ???

 

There's not really anything you can do my man.
Broken things need time to heal.

Obviously you can set yourself up for success by engaging in certain behaviors but no matter what you do it takes time either way. You have to just survive until then.

Out of sight out of mind isn't a bad one, but right now you work with her so I guess that becomes more complicated... is there a possibility that you could ask your boss not to schedule you together?

 

It is really fucking hard, especially I'm a situation where you have to see the other person all the goddam time.
No real advice but just wanted to say I feel you, it took me ages to get over an ex. Ages.

 

I'm still bummin over my girlfriend leaving me, we were only together for 2.5 years (we broke up at the end of April this year) but I really really loved her. All you can do is just tell yourself that happiness is a decision. You can choose to be happy...or you can choose to be unhappy.


I usually just try to smoke myself stupid tho

 

I don't really smoke anymore.

Well, we have different managers, so are schedules are made by different people. It would be to much of a hassle for them I think. We close together like 4 times a week recently. I don't really go out much anymore, as ive grown distant from most of my friends. Only thing that helps is when I go to the gym I can release my anger there which allows me to lift more than normal. But at work when i see her shes all I think about!!
I know time heals everything but this is still a fresh wound.
Im just hoping to meet a new girl i guess, to take my mind off of her!

 

You could try having sex with one of her friends too. That could help.

 

I dont know any of her friends. We live a few cities apart, went to different high schools etc..

This is just one of those situations where you wish you never met the person.

 

awh, i know that feeling, there's no way of getting over someone really, just time, time and some more time

 

Time seems to be going fast for everything else, but when it comes to her, time is taking an eternity to pass

 

awhhhhhhhhh you're breaking my heart!

 

I am sorry to hear ya are still hung up on her man Look 4 cute girls at the gym or other places near your work to maybe have lunch with or what not. It will take time to heal , but if ya can meet someone new & move on that would be awesome
Good luck , friend...

 

it probably wouldn't be too bad if you didn't have to see her at work. you could always plant drugs in her locker and write an anonymous letter to the manager.

 

sorrryyyyyyy

yea i might start lookin at the gym. or i should probably start going out with friends again.

lol she actually does put her purse in a locker there but i wouldnt do that.

 

yeah dude, just like others said, only time can heal this shit

and i know that feeling dude, its shit,

but dude stay positive, you'll forget her eventually, and you'll know you've forgotten her, when you remember her

 

when you notice yourself thinking about her, try to do something else and change it up


or you can assume the fetal position and sob to yourself, that usually works

 

i think it is so sad that men are afraid to have real feelings...if you want to get over someone and be in the place to someday attract someone better...take the time to see it for what it is and take care of yourself and get to know yourself better...it may be tough, but you'll come out of it stronger and healthier and better prepared for an easier situation the next time...or maybe a situation where you don't have to get over someone at all.

 

When I was in high school and got my first job, the first thing my Dad told me was to never date a girl I work with. He said to fuck them all I want but never get serious about them no matter what.

Well I didn't listen and a couple years ago I was in the same position you're in. Sucks. All the normal advice is blown to shit because the wounds are reopened every time you see her. I really never got over it till she was fired 6 months later (her and her boss "supposedly" we're caught fucking in his office).

Music, beers, and sluts.

 

^Sound advice

Let's meet in Colorado, r0llin. Grab some beers.

 

This is good advice. All I can say is keep dating. I've been more or less screwed over a bunch of times and have been really broken up about it in the past. But at some point, it stopped bothering me and I got the mentality of 'well she was cool, now where's the next one'..

I'm a hiatus from women though. Trying at least lol. Life is a lot more simple without them but I enjoy them.