Can anyone help please?

Right well i never thought ide be in this situation so ill try to explain it best i can,

I met my girl friend about 5 months ago and ino in my heart this is the girl of my dreams' the girl i wana spend the rest of my life with' shes beautiful.. Real good girl'..

But... Sex used to be great, most nights she would go down on me n give me the best time of my life but all of a sudden it just stopped like that..

on average she mite show the slightest bit of intrest in sex once every 3weeks... but from most nights to suddenly once every 3weeks makes me think wtf?????

I've asked her am i doing anythin wrong and she says "no your fine" ..

its starting to get on my brain now as im gagging for sex, do i cheat on her?

do i go to a prostitute or do i just stay how i am now and have the only free pleasur life has to offer taken away from me, i feel like getting the snip just so i dont get as horny?

ive never had a problem with my ex's ive always satified them' now i just feel like im usless and why would she want sex from me, not bragging but i dont think theres anything wrong me down there, no problems, decent size, well shaven,

can anyone give me any idea what the hell has got into her to make her stop just like that?

we share the same bed everynite and i no she isnt cheeting on me but come on im gona explode, funny topic but on a serious note im confused?

last night she got out of the shower all shaven and clean and lay on the bed next to me in her towel, after chilling for a bit i decided to give her a kiss between her legs, actually it was quite high up so no where near her clit or anythin, soon as i did that she said im going getting my tea..

WHAT THE F**K IS GOING ON!! She even covers her breasts with her hands if she has no top on, everytime i put my hand anywhere near her privates her legs slam shut like a venis fly trap... now this is honestly making me start to hate her can anyone please help???????????

 

I think the initial attraction is wearing off.

And she's thinking about things long term now and that possibly the entire relationship she has with you is physical but not true love.

 

She could be pregnant too...

 

yer ino what you mean, hard times when ya reali want somone

 

i dont think shel be pregnant as she has the injection every 3 months (not that she needs it tho )

 

Sorry, but when me and my gf stopped having sex on a regular basis, it was the first sign we would go seperate ways, and we did. Lack of sex is just a consequence of other problems.

Sorry bro.

 

Cheating is just an example... i aint a cheat im not like like! I just realy dont understand, She actually likes being with me and we do have fun times , honestly what should i do? lack of sex is making me think she dont like me anymore' the thing that gets to me the most is that she used to give me head all the time , last time she did that must be at least 6 weeks ago!!

 

like a say, everynite for a whole week she sucked me off then all of a sudden it just stopped, honestly it makes me feel sick cause of the change and she dont realise how depressed it makes me feel, when i ask her bout it she says things like "oh stop going on bout it will ya" i just give up

 

I feel so confused and scared to approach her sexually as I am afraid she might say, 'No'. She never comes on to me or suggests making love................................................

 

You and I have the exact same problem. The difference is my girlfriend never has gone down on me which kinda makes me sick to my stomach, she promises everyday she will, but it's been 2 years so obviously she is just lying to me. And once about every 2 to 3 weeks she gets horny and I get laid. Boring sex too, and it is coming to a head and I can see our relationship crumbling right in front of my face and that is the sole reason why. I feel your pain and it is probably going to end just like mine.

 

If you're planning on cheating on her, then you aren't good enough for anyone. Sorry.

 

Honestly I think you should be talking to her about this. Ask her what's going on, not that you feel the relationship is purely physical but it's an important aspect too. I think instead of trying to think of other alternatives to get laid you should think of ways to work on your relationship and make sure she is willing to do so as well. If cheating or going to a prostitute even comes into your head then maybe she's right to pull back.

 

Has she been on the shot long? Cause some people find that hormonal birth control kills their sex drive. Starting a new medication can sometimes do that as well.

 

It may be your approach?

 

I think it's time you do call her out on the changes in behavior and if it means anything for the relationship surviving or not.

If it ends up the relationship, then so be it, but if it doesn't then both of you need to address that yes you guys still care about each other but it's possible nobody is officially acknowledging the 'change/shift' because both of you are afraid of change and both of you feel moderately safe, with SOME sex going on.


But I don't recommend cheating on her.

 

I think it's really important to remember, women are emotional when it comes to sex and men are visual. Her being spread on the bed turned you on, but it didn't turn her on.
Girls tend to be turned on differently at different stages of the relationship. To begin with she was insecure and wanted to please you, now she is secure - which is great. But you need to approach sex in a totally different way.
I would suggest run her a bath, offer her a massage, whilst you are massaging her, start at the top of her back and shoulders being gentle and massage her for awhile before you incorporate kissing her neck - if she feels you move in too quickly she'll see it as you are only doing it to get sex, make her feel you are doing it to make her feel good. Then after a while work your hands down her body, there are some great massage porn films on various sites so have a look and see how long they take before moving in. i think she needs this gradual and more gentle approach to get her in the mood. I wouldn't say she has 'gone off you' or fancies you any less I just think you are at a different faze in your relationship. If she didn't want to be with you she wouldn't be.
I think you should try music, candles and the bath and massage approach. If you have no luck still then I think instead of feeling rejected, tell her. It isn't unattractive to women, we are also no more aware than you about feelings and thoughts.
I think the other thing you can do, if she is open minded is find a film that is quite sexy and put that on. Maybe seeing others getting it on would be sexy to her, you could buy her some sex toys or maybe even book a weekend a way. I think every relationship needs work. I did a podcast this week on exactly this, what women want etc. You can download that it may give you some more tips. It's on the true lad dot com website under the podcast sex special. Hope this helps, don't feel paranoid though, it's amazing how easy it is to get back the spark.
Good luck x

 

I was using cheeting or going to a prostitute as an example, ide never do a thing like that' i love the girl to much.. ino she has alot of feelings about me and she actualy wants to get married, she says im the one... okay fair enough im gaggin but... if she came across and just explained the whole situation to me when i ask her about it ide put sex to one side' its gotten to a point where i only want her to show she actualy likes me in that way.. like i say im to scared to aproach her now so i realy dont no what to do or say aymore' ill just take it that one day ill just go off her and end up leaving her, if she dont like me then fair enough , i cantg make her like me' just wish she would tel me :'(

 

That is a problem about yourself you need to work on.
Learn to accept her small gestures of affection, like when she makes you a meal or when you just talk. Show her you like her companionship not just the sex.

 

gettin worse so i think it will be ending