I may have inadvertently impregnated my sisters best friend.

I hope they do DNA testing for the child's sake. The child's future health will be affected by both actual parents, not what it says on the birth certificate. If they don't test, this issue could come up years into the future if the child gets sick. A person's medical history includes that of parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles etc. If the information is incorrect from the get go, it is not fair to the child.

 

Maybe thats why they split to begin with, not all married ppl have sex every night lol

This was a good!!!!

 

It wouldn't be his 'firstborn' if she terminates the pregnancy though will it?

Sorry OP, I hope this works out well for all involved.

 

Bad thing you did there. That's for sure.

But what is the deal with you being the only person having unprotected sex with her?

What about hubby coming back right after? He got protected sex and you got unprotected?

I don't want to say I smell a rat but it doesn't sound quite right.

If she wants to tell you she thinks it's yours she better call you herself.

 

True technically from a worldly perspective. You have to understand that I consider something born because I belief life starts at conception.

Also I believe that from a cellular level as well.

But this view is based on faith and memories about my own infancy science says I'm not supposed to remember from a first person perspective given what we know about brain development.

 

I may have similar beliefs, in fact I battle with where I stand on this daily especially because I've was raised Catholic (I no longer follow religion) but worked in sexual health for 4 years.

In the UK certainly from a legal point of view, a foetus is not 'born' until leaving the body after a period of 24 weeks gestation (or if breathing at birth, earlier) At which stage a birth (and death if needed) certificate would need to be issued.

Sorry for the hijack.

 

if you guessed she would go back to him you shouldn't have taken the risk with unprotected sex. I got pregnant the first time I didnt use protection with my boyfriend now. hope things work out well for you and the child. Things happen the way they are supposed to, you just have to wait for the reason sometimes

 

Oh, by the way, there is nothing inadvertent about having unprotected sex for four hours.

 

Inadvertent means unintentional. I meant to fuck her, but I didn't mean to impregnate her!

 

I'm sure she and her husband were having unprotected sex. That's why I said I hope it's his. But idk if she wants to tell me or wants me to know at all. I guess she's waiting to see how everything works out with her husband.

Anyway, I'm not a bad person, I didn't mean to fuck another guys girl, she acted like to me, that they were done. I didn't coerce her, or downplay her husband at all. So how is that my fault?? Honestly, I feel like she fucked him over, and that's her business, not mine or ours.

 

Nah you can't disassociate yourself from situational blame like that. Religion aside, using logic only it just doesn't make sense how blame doesn't equally fall on you as much as it does her.

From a Judeo-Christian POV, you aren't supposed to marry or have sex with someone else's wife period, and ex-wives don't exist because marriage is a bond for the entire Earthly life, from that POV.

Regardless you didn't take precautions to not get her pregnant, the act of unprotected sex is by nature INTENDED to make a baby. The act itself carries the default intent.

 

We should totally talk in a PM regarding our perspectives and views on when life begins ends, and spirituality and stuff. Since you were raised Catholic we'd have some interesting talks.

 

lol. sometimes if you're really enjoying is, you're likes to cum a little right before you pull out.

 

I'm not a Christian. I have a more secular argument, I pretty much believe that life is one's own personal journey for the overall better health of their souls. But in a way I believe, our souls are the good spirits and bad spirits, angels and demons, if-you-will.

Anyway, I look at it like this; from my perspective, I wasn't morally wrong. She specifically said, "We're seeing other people." I shouldn't HAVE to add her on facebook or something to know if she's lying. And in that way, it's totally her bad. She made it sound like a mutual, inevitable divorce.

Still, I know.. I'm stupid!! And I'm kicking myself in the head for it! But there's nothing I can really do about it...

 

You did the same thing all people do at one time or another, you thought with your crotch instead of your head, don't hate yourself over it.

I smell a possible trap of sorts. If she was already preggers before you did the deed, she may be using you as fail-safe poppa pawn. If hubby doesn't work out then you could be the daddy.

My advice as cold as it sounds is walk away and don't even consider that the baby isn't her husband's, you will save yourself a lot of grief and drama. If she says it's your, demand testing.

I know I sound like a asshole, but you did walk right into the middle of a Jerry Springer episode it seems.
If they haven't been split up for 6 months to a year, I say off-limits, too much drama.

 

I know you might not be a Christian. That's why I have you two perspectives.
The pure logic one in one paragraph and a Christian one in the next paragraph.

They were supposed to be separate.


Did she deceive you on the nature of her current relationship?
Ys because she made an assumption.

But that's separate from the fact you didn't have condoms on you and you actively chose not to resist a potential well....situation. She can be blamed for your vulnerability to the "Jedi mind trick".

Just get your life together and prep for what has a high chance of happening. It's really all you can do.

 

I would say don't worry too much. there's not much that you can do.

yes, you were less than responsible, but she lead you to believe that she was de facto single. the pull out method, not so reliable.

it could be that she wanted another baby, and her husband wouldn't give one to her, so you became the sperm doner

you don't know if the kid is yours. you don't know if she is going to keep the kid. maybe her husband will be ok with having another kid. who knows.

again, you can't do anything, so just chill.

hope that everything works out ok

 

Damn dude that's a fucked situation hope it works out.
Bookmark for future reference:

https://www.gtldna.net/paternitytest.html

 

Well technically he can do something but it would spring the drama prematurely.

He'd have to confront the situation rather than have it confront him. But that's only if he WANTS that child.

If he's looking for a way to get out of this then...no there's not much he can do.

 

He can always do what our beloved politicians do when confronted with scandals like blowjob gate etc etc. DENY,DENY,DENY,DENY. Refuse to take a paternity test that would make you less financially on the hook. LoL although I doubt you would ever do that if truely confronted but its an option. sleazy but an option none the less I don't support it nor condone it who am I to judge another humans choices? Jus Sayin