we talk about a lot of bi mmf fantasies during sex, and oftentimes we watch bisexual/gay porn together. But when we talk about it, he always has to think about me being there to get off.. how can i get him to fantasize about being with a man without me? I got him to feel comfortable enough to come out about being bi to me, i just don't know how to make him feel comfortable enough to want it without me.
maybe he doesnt want it without you because he likes you so much. or he feels like if he were to fantasize about other ppl then you would feel left out or something. since he was shy about opening up to his sexuality, chances are he might be shy about sharing the fantasies that he's had in his head without you. maybe you should share with him a few of your fantasies that dont involve him, and let him know it's ok if he has some without you. that's my advice, hope it helps
baby steps It might be easier for him to make the transition to actively bi if you are there with him.
Fantasy is very different to reality, are you sure you,d react in tue way you think you woud if he did?
Which is what this thread is really about. You are testing the waters, want someone to say out loud what you already know. If you are going to choose jealousy before anything else you only have yourself to blame for whats to come
so maybe he wants you to be involved and wants to see you being fucked as well but shy to tell u. so maybe u can ask him about that
Oh and I should have mentioned, I think I kind of understand where your BF is coming from, for me I find the thought of the woman being into watching me play very hot. having a nice cock to play with is great, but I get off more to the girl being there and having fun too wayyy more than if it was just me and another guy.
oh, he's told me he want's to see me get fucked so badly. he wants to share a man with me.. i got my tongue pierced a few weeks ago, and lately he's been fixated on thoughts of me sucking multiple men off in front of him. These kinds of thoughts are very sexy and erotic to us.
if his pov on this never changes, i wont be unhappy. I'm happy with this just the way it is right now, i just thought that i'd maybe try to venture out a bit more.
If you are really OK with seeing him with another man and you find that deep down, you actually find the idea of being there to turn you on, then the two of you might consider sitting down and really having a totally open cock. There are so many guys who would die to have a woman who is so accepting of who he really is and I think that you both are on the verge - you just need some encouragement to take that step over the edge and out of society's box. This can be a good thing for you both if jealousy is kept out of the picture and totally honesty is the cornerstone of your relationship. Believe me because I speak from experience when I say that watching the one you love enjoying herself with another person can be a real turn on and with my wife and I, swinging only brought us closer together. It doesn't work that way for everyone, but with us, it did. I encourage to to simply embrace this special love that you share and enjoy together the deepest experience a man and woman can have - making love together to another person or couple. I suspect that you yourself are probably very bisexual deep down inside and who knows, playing with another couple may be what is even better than with just a guy.
