This is kind of an update from my post about the baby not being in the carseat. I did call DSS and filed a report about these crazy people. Today is the last day I'm going to watch the baby. Her mom is going on vacation from work next week so I won't have to watch her. I'm going to tell her that while she is off she needs to find another babysitter. I'm probably going to lie about my reasoning! I don't feel like honesty is the best policy in this situation. I love children but I have never seen such an unhappy baby. She's teaching my 1.5 y/o to scream at the top of his lungs, he never acted like this before I started babysitting her. This whole experience has been a nightmare. I really feel sorry for the poor kid, but I can't deal with everything that she comes with. The never ending crying is bad - watching the kid be neglected is the worst of it. I've asked the mom why she cries and all she says is that she has reflux, which I still think is BS because I've never seen the kid spit up! She wants to be held all the time and is never happy for more than 5 minutes while she is distracted by something. So, I hate to see her go because she is such an innocent soul. But her parents have absolutely ruined this child. I admit that I can't deal with all of the problems that come with this family!
She's a large lady.... she would hurt me if I told her the truth! She's not very stable... hence the reason I've got to stop watching her kid!
I think you are doing the exact right thing, Dixie! And, I wouldn't be honest either...and my reasoning is that if you were to be tell her the truth, she would twist it all around and be all "prepared" for when (or if) DSS actually does do any looking into it! I would probably tell her that you don't think it is reflux and give your reason why - since she does NOT spit up (which, unless you are just a total idiot, reflux does NOT add up). But do please tell her the child could be suffering from bad ears. I am telling you that my son's symptoms were exactly like that...only we took him to the doctor what seemed like 300 (and probably was) times until it finally got fixed.
Oh Lynn, you know how DSS is here in SC. They did call me to do a follow up but it sounded like they "couldn't find her address", so maybe nothing is going to happen IDK. I will consider mentioning the crying and the ear thing. I really just want it to be cut and dry. "I can't watch her anymore because I'm getting ready to start school, get prego again and have to watch the son I already have." Kind of the truth, kind of a white lie!
My brother used to work with DSS in SC. His caseload was swamped and they were severely underfunded. Sadly, chances are they will not be following up. In all honestly, if they did follow up there is a big chance that she would be placed in a foster home that is even worse than where she is coming from. My brother knew some wonderful foster parents, but he also knew some that made him hate the system so bad he had to quit his job.
Yeah, actually DSS here in SC sucks green balls!!! They tend to let the worse cases slide, and are quick as lightening to yank a kid out of a home because a pissed off in-law tells obvious lies. Since they have already called you up with that stupid "couldn't find her address" crap, I would be seriously surprised if they do a thing! And another (off subject) thing: They also do NO checking on people that get foodstamps. I know a girl that claims 2 children which she GAVE UP...one to the father and one for adoption in another state...and DSS has NEVER done a home check on her and she continues to get stamps! Another friend of mine actually reported this sorry-tail girl, and guess what! DSS said they "WEREN'T INTERESTED AND COULDN'T DO ANYTHING ABOUT THAT!" WTH!!! I just know this...if that were me, there would be a whole contingent of law in my yard with cuffs and a stun-gun to take me to a hole under the jail.
DSS just called. The case has been picked up by an investigator and will be looked at! Eeeh! Excited, crushed and concerned! I really want to cry right now because I'm so emotionally fucked!
You've done the right thing. At least now they will get investigated and if there was any danger to the child it can be stopped. Don't cry, smile, you've done good if the baby could speak then I'm sure she would thank you!
I really hope so! I just did what I thought I was supposed to do. Not that I wanted to. It just sucks.
So, you diagnosed the baby yourself. You didn't question why the car seat wasn't present. You merely called DSS and felt "excited". You do know what happens to a large number of kids that are "in care", right?
