Unrequited Love & Having Control Over Feelings

Hey everyone. I'll try to make this as short and to the point as possible.

I'm gay, which isn't super relevant. I have a habit of falling for/getting crushes on straight men. I'll just be going along and all the sudden I'm struck by this person. He's attractive and funny and he makes me feel so good inside. Being around him is total bliss. I want him, but not in any sort of sexual way. I can only imagine how ecstatic it would be to freely love him, to hold hands with him and kiss him and all that. He's the only thing in the world I truly want.

Now.. it's obvious that I shouldn't have feelings for straight guys, because they won't ever ever like me in the way I like them! But I feel like who I have feelings for just sort of 'happens'.. it's just like what Carl Jung described here..
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m12soJiCPcc"]CG Jung - Feminine Archetype - YouTube
That's pretty much what's happening to me, except he doesn't like me back. So from a Jungian perspective, I need to get rid of my anima projection. But I technically can't. The archetype is in control of me. We could discuss my encounters with the anima in my dreams or whatever but I don't want to get into psychoanalytic theory too much.


I feel immature of not being able to have control over who I feel attracted to. I acknowledge he's straight, but I continue to be whisked away by pleasant daydreams that only end in me wanting him more.

This has happened to me before, and I know as time goes by, the feelings/projection whatever it is will ware off and I can go along without feelings for anyone. I was just wondering if anyone knew of a way to speed up the process. Any advice or sharing of personal experience would be welcomed!

 

having no contact with the person tends to speed things up.

 

Make ur self busy.

 

I supressed my feelings for a man who was once a good freind of my uncle's, emotional supression does not work for everybody but it kind of works for me