im 26 years old and i have a relationship with someone who have this laid back culture where they are forced to marry someone according to what their parents have arranged. at first i wasn't aware of their stupid tradition i believed about his plans of marrying me bringing me to his country but later on he cannot stand up against what his parents says. He said that he knows me and he is sure that i cannot handle their tradition. He suggested that if he will marry someone, we will continue our relationship but i really disagree. i am still hoping that he will change his mind and go against his parents. ----------------- I need some advice here please what will i do.. i am still seeing him..
Its just that i cannot leave him and i am waiting for that day when he is asked to marry someone whom his parents wants so that i can leave him. As of this moment i am just hurting myself....:'(
Ya it does sound like you are hurting yourself by staying so why can't you just leave him? You are the only one who can decide what is best for you. Being alone and happy is alot better then being with someone and not being happy.
I dont know.......i dont want to see him hurting because he loves me in a way. Its the fact that we cannot be together in the future as husband and wife that hurts me most.
No.....i hope one day i can let go and be happy being alone....i am so attached to him and im still hoping he will fight for me.....
You deserve better than that!! someone can not interfere in your relationship if you real love each other equally. Something must be wrong but you can step up and give a little fight before you lose out completely
This is right. You can't be the only one fighting. If he won't make the effort, it limits your capacity to be effective.
Doesn't sound very laid back to me.... Lose him. You'll get over that much more easily than you will deal with being "the other woman" after he marries his arranged bride. And, you must consider the feelings OF the arranged bride. If she were to discover what a rat she had married, you'd have a whole pack of unhappy people, some of whom may be baying for your hide. Lose him. You're good enough. The only question is whether he is good enough for you, and he can prove that by breaking his dumb-ass tradition.
So if I understand you correctly (please forgive what I am about to say, it is not meant to bash him in anyway) he is asking you to stick around and be a third wheel while he gives his heart (or part of) to someone he doesn't want, ultimately giving you 2nd place in the contest for his heart. Traditions and family aside, You need to do what is right for you.. as well, if he doesn't agree with the marriage arrangement maybe it's about time he grew a pair and explained to his parents what he wants. They do not have to live with his decision, he does. I hope this helps.. and I really do not envy the position you are in.
