A SURVEY....,Ur Biggest Pain, Fear, Irritation & Discomfort?

Each of us has our own fears, me I am afraid of losing my family.
I am irritated with the presence of barbaric & stupid people..
I am disappointed on the goals I did not achieved.

What about you.please share........ thank you.......

 

What an amazing question ! Thinking about answering it would have to be one of the biggest fears, irritations and discomforts I've had in a long time as most of us don't like to concentrate on such things. However, if I'm honest I have to say by biggest pain and fear is the dentist. I was raped by my dentist at age four. My parents slapped me around when I told them " He was pulling my teeth out from my bottom" You see, at that age I had no idea what was happening to me. My family would drag me screeming back to this monster to have the whole experience repeated whilst half unconscious on cloriform, as smell that still gets me shaking . In the end I wouldn't tell my parents if I had dental problems and learnt to secretly pull my own teeth out. In middle age several years of intensive psychotherapy mean I can now sit in the dentists chair without fainting.
And yes, I'm irritated by the presence of barbaric and stupid people which sadly means 90% of our species. Lost my family years ago so that's no longer a worry.
Goals I have not achieved? Understanding the basics of graphics programs like Photoshop has escaped me - - a huge frustration.
Having blurted all that out I can't say I feel any better but I'm still curious why you want to know about other people's fears etc.

 

@ Karl Rand, thanks for your reply.
This has something to do with managing our negative emotions like the pain, fear, irritation and discomfort. Having the courage to discuss and share those experiences of yours, clearly indicated that you really overcome those negative emotions that you have experienced before. It was sad that your parents never believe you, they should be more on protecting you as a their child. I hate parents like that. These experiences that we are sharing here at the forums will inspired the younger generation that don't have much of the courage like others have. They will be learning a lot on how we have overcome those negative emotions and learn to be strong during the saddest point in their lives. This negative emotions if not dealt properly causes many suicide cases or attempts esp. to LGBT people. By inspiring them that many have also experienced the same and now have overcome all of those things will really be helpful for them.

 

I did hate my parents for a long time for not believing what had happend to me. The problem was I didn't know exactly what it was that had happened to me for some time. Complicating their attitude was the fact our family dentist was my Uncle & a church elder, respected 'pillar of the communty'. He told them my ravings were the rusult of hallucinations experienced under the aneasthetic etc. Even now when I hear someone described as 'a pillar of the community' I feel I shouldn't trust them. The worst thing my parents did to me was an inadvertent mind fucker. Most of my childhood I had this peculiar feeling they had stolen one of my lungs. Something, I felt, was always missing and half overheard conversations had me believe my parents were hiding something from me. When I turned 12 they finally told me I'd had a twin, a girl, who only lived for three days. So, our parents can easily skrew us around even when intending to protect us.
And yes, negative emotions can cause depression and suicide if not dealt with properly. The problem for many young LGBT people is the society they live in provides no proper means to deal with such things. Most of us in the West are relatively lucky in having access to crisis councelling but if you've been brainwashed from birth to be different being is permit the devil to possess you ( or other variants of vicious theological crap) you're going to blame yourself for your situation.
As to being strong during the most negative parts of our lives it's not that simple. IT can be equally damaging if you're so strong you manage to supress all memory of childhood trauma and avoid dealing with it on any conscious level.

 

I agree, too much courage is also not good. We have to accept the fact that we us human have our weaknesses too but forums like this and talking to nice people with concern will help these young LGBT to overcome their problems. Coming out as LGBT especially in conservative countries is very hard, fearful, painful and really depressing.

 

And in countries rules by fundamentalist religions often deadly. The odd thing about this is what I call the 'prohibition effect'. During US alcohol prohibition the population by and large made a point of getting themselves as drunk as possible, as often as possible. In many fundamentalist Muslim countries I've visited the public bath houses are a constant gay orgy patronized by all levels of society. The really odd thing about this,especialy in Afganistan, is that men who are buggering each other silly will tell you they're not gay. Go figure.

 

In cases like that, it encourages the LGBT people to migrate to other countries with a broader knowledge and greater acceptance of LGBT people. It's just unfortunate for those who can do nothing about that because of their economic status.

 

Being stoned to death is a bit more than unfortunate.