Can anyone help please?

Its cos you've been together long enough now, things are getting serious in the relationship department, so you have to be trained off sex.....so you dont end up like whichever older guy(s) it is she is fucking, thats not married and only pays attention, and likely gifts as well, if he gets sex.

Those older straight ones are never going to say anything, cos why are they going to give a shit about you, if I say it the chics will make out (in front of you anyway) that I'm some crazy fucker that hates women - then a week later when I'm out shopping with them will giggle about it.

If you turn into one of those ones when you are older, some money to you and not married, you'll see, its all bullshit, they are all pretty much like that.

Whereas if you are married when older, she wont let you out of her sight, because she wont want you anywhere near the younger girls trying to do exactly what she did at that age.

And it all works cos most of you all fall for it, so whatever.


Or more simply, listen to what you are saying, lets say it another way - That she all of a sudden isnt interested in orgasms anymore??? Seriously

 

I think you should end the relationship... before it gets WAY too complicated...

(and I know what I'm talking about cause i'm "the girl" in that scenario - she probably wants to end it but doesn't want to hurt you, so she starts feeling guilty, or she doesn't want to face it etc... essentially the initial connection is just lost and, believe it or not, some of us girls DO actually need to feel some type connection before we actually give "it" up...)

 

Sure she aint getting it anywhere else. I was in a similar situation and used this website called cheaterbust.com and it proved my suspicions right

 

I'd talk to her. I have a friend who went on hormonal birth control and it made her depressed as hell and also killed her sex drive. To make matters worse she went on antidepressants and they suppressed what was left of her sex drive. Her relationship (with my best friend) fell apart and she ended up moving out, they were just about the most perfect couple I'd ever seen before all this happened.

So a few years later, she went off the birth control, and lo and behold, her sex drive came back and she ended up not needing antidepressants any more.

Anyway, I think you should talk to her, and if she doesn't want to talk about it, end things.

Another possibility is that you aren't doing the things that she likes to turn her on... little gestures of appreciation during the day make a huge difference for women. "You're so pretty!" and a kiss on the nape of the neck, or a lingering glance and smile, holding her hand, that kind of thing. Complimenting her, not complaining about her, etc. all tend to put women in a positive and sexy headspace.

 

right finally we had sex last week, didnt feel anythin special' she doent help it in any way like lying there in an orkward position making it hard for me to do my thing, felt like she did it just to shut me up to be honest' actually recently ive started to not realy like the girl .. shes only gona ruin it for herself .. started giving me attitude all of a sudden' bein in a moody arse mood all the time .... cant wait till i find that right girl

 

I would point out that the girl of your dreams is a fantasy. You might find someone you can get along with.

 

ye think i know that now

 

Either get used to it or move on. I'd say if she won't even talk to you about what's going on with her then its probably time to move on. If you are thinking about cheating on her because of lack of sex now...then what's going to happen six months or a year from now. All if it just brings more problems along with it.

If it was me...if walk away.

 

Communication you two need to do it now! If you can't somehow do that with each other then it is time to move on. What will not get you what you want is being resentfull or using guilt. Those things are both big turn offs for anyone. If she is telling you that you are moody that would be a pretty good sign on why she is not interested. You even talking about cheating also shows that there is not a whole lot of respect going on there. Clearly you two are not on the same page at all right now and that will not change without real honest communication.

 

been four months now, this is a pissin joke!!!!!!!!!!

 

So why are you still with her? Leave her or stop complaining.

 

Ouch! Thats right up there with "lets just be friends". When a women says "fine" she really means and feels anything but, watch out man.