Caught my wife...

My phone was acting up so I borrowed my wife's to make a call. I took a look at some of her pics and vids only to find that she had a clip of some dude ejaculating and one of her fingering herself....

She has lots of male friends from PSN and talks to some of them on the phone and though I didn't like it I never really thought she would do something like this. I'm so crushed right now.

Not sure how to feel right now.

 

have you ever cyber cheated? maybe just forgive and forget.

 

Some consider cyder as cheating , others dont . I guess sending an image to some one is a bit different . desert rat

 

No I haven't.

I used to talk to this girl every once in a while on Napster chat back in the way day but she was always in the room when I did.

It was no thing. She didn't like it but she saw whatever was written. She didn't like the fact that my friend was female but thats about it.


She did try to bring that up though.

 

It's not just cyber. I find her off in seclusion talking quietly or she'll stop talking when I enter the room.


She also keeps them far away from me. I'm not even allowed to know their real names.

I tried to be the cool understanding husband knowing that there is nothing wrong with male friends but I see what it got me.

 

well, that's a shame. I know my husband would be pretty disappointed in me if he caught me doing cyber sex. And talking on the phone would get me in deep shit i'm sure

 

That's the thing.

She says the one of her is just her playing around because she found out something new about her phone or whatever and the one of the the guy she says she doesn't remember how it got there, who it was, or how long she's had it....


Gimmie a break. She knew the guy well enough to give him her number and a video of a guy ejaculating isn't something that goes unnoticed.

I'm not sure why I posted this.. I guess I'm just pissed and needed to vent.

 

Show her you are the man instead of being such a beta. You just caught your wife cheating, do something about it.

 

I've always thought that couples who have trust issues, and need to prove their innocence to their spouse, should have no problem randomly swapping phones with their spouse for a day every so often.

 

I Would Arrange For Her Phone

To Have An Unfortunate Accident...:devil:.

Problem Solved...:2thumbsup:.



Cheers Glen.

 

although the problem would still be far from solved i like Glens thinking

 

My advice is to make her feel comfortable in the idea that you buy her story 100% and then watch her and be smart about it. You are her husband and you are right to think it is absurd that she doesn't remember some dude sending her a video of himself nutting. The cyber sex thing isn't innocent either, no other dude has any business seeing your wife's pussy in person or on his stupid phone.

If you were swingers or lived an open lifestyle that would muddy the waters a bit but based on what you are saying that doesn't seem to be the case here. That's your wife not some chick you have dated for 6 months. That crap has no place in your marriage. Get to the bottom of it dude. Hope it works out okay.

 

I know how you feel...I catch my boyfriend talking to other girls over the internet or on his cell all the time. sometimes I confront him and sometimes I don't. Of course I have trust issues but I guess there's just always going to be that little ounce of hope lingering around. Enough to make me stick where I am.

It's always a shame when the trust is lost. i've been trying to figure out if there is any REAL way to get the trust back into a relationship and so far I've come up with nothing..just that it's best to leave the relationship. I'm one of those gals that stands her ground and wants to fix everything though.

Blehhhhh, I really hope everything lightens up on your end OP.

~Ashley

 

Hahahaha I'm sorry but the excuse she gave you is to funny!!
Something similar happened to me I came across a couple of texts that my hubby sent one of his clients " good morning sleeping beauty" "can I come over and have a beer" he was also watching a lot of porn and constantly texting on his phone.
Benign yes. But I've always been a true wife and a true mom, never talked to any guy very innocent, well you get the pic. After I saw I said what the fu** I confronted him. He gave me a lame excuse. Then I got curious I wanted to know what all that was about ( the flirting porns) so I started talking to old friends, then flirting and now my conversations get a little deep with some HF friends. I do it just for fun I know it wrong and I know if he catches me ill loose him. But it's fun and addicting. And try to stop but I'm not gonna lie its hard. Im trying With all that said with my long boring story. Talk to her

 

In relationships if we ain't working things out we are acting them out which one are you doing?

 

IMO, she won't truly know what it's doing to you until you turn the tables on her.

 

I think there is a huge difference between flirting online and posting fucking masturbation photos. This is so wrong, man - I've forgotten your name and can't be arsed going back a page - confront her, find out why!

 

Maybe you need to separate for awhile so she can decide if she wants to save this marriage. If you just sit there and accept it, she gets to have her cake and eat it, too. Nothing will improve.

 

Sounds like you're sailing into uncharted waters. Some serious thought needs to go into this one.

If your wife is exchanging pussy pics and come shots with some dude, then things are well on their way to getting completely out of hand if you can't come to grips with it all.

My experience is that you're not going to change someone at this point in their life.

What to do?

Have you considered opening your mind and considering a MMF threeseome....and asking her if she'd agree to such a thing?

My girlfriend was such a sneak until she finally figured out that being honest with me about her desires and how she acted on them was her best option for a happy relationship. And I can honestly say that today I'm enjoying the most rewarding relationship I've ever had with a woman, and I've had my share.

Anyway, good luck. I don't see many ways forward on this one if you can't accept her as she is.