Is it ok for your gf to be massaging other guys

I've been around a lot of free spirited chicks who would on instinct rub someone's shoulders if they were feeling sore. So maybe it would depend mostly on the girl in question. Has she always been touchy feely or is this a new development? Is it something she does in front of you or only when you're not around?

 

She might not be doing it with any flirty or sexual intentions. Some people are just touchy feely and don't mean anything by it.

I think the real question is how bad does it bother you? If it bothers you then fuck her intentions - let her know it bothers you. If she respects you she won't do it anymore, even if it didn't mean anything in the first place.

 

Its just hypo. Am single.

 

i would not massage anyone but my boyfriend but that's just me

 

Depends on the situation mayn, though a massage isn't that big of a deal if their clothes are on. I'd give her a taste of how it feels (rub one of your lady friends feet or something), and see how she's responds - hopefully her double-standard wont be showin

OP, J/w does she give you massages?!

 

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well this is not satisfactory. ask her if she can change her job role or responsibilities. I think you would feel comfortable will her. :sultan:

 

All depends on the specific situation and what you are or aren't cool with.
I myself would not be cool with that.

 

There's also a difference between a massage to give pleasure and a massage to try and help with ascale spasm or something.

 

if her job is giving massages, then she damn well better be giving massages at work.

if her job is anything else, then she should be fired for wasting time rubbing random people while she's on the clock.

 

Your girlfriend is a whore, OP. It starts with shoulders and next thing you know...full release in his car on lunch breaks.

 

Thank you. You must be the voice of reason.

Btw that girls not my gf. But a gf that flirts with me at work and has a bf already.

 

No! Unless they are old friends. Your girlfriend only touches you intimately, that's it. If she doesn't like it, dump her. She's no good, trust me. See Pulp Fiction for reference. A massage is more than just a massage.

 

thank you

 

I would be so angry. Get rid of her.

 

This is not the sort of thing that other people can tell you. Is it OK? If you're asking us, than no, probably not. There are three questions here, each on a different order of intention.

The first question, is she making moves on other men? Massages are such a borderline thing that there's no way we can tell you that. A massage could be completely innocent or completely sexual, depending on the people involved and the situation.

The second question, do you know her well enough to know if she is being innocent or sexual? The answer to that is clearly no, or you wouldn't be asking us. On another level, the answer could very well be yes. You know that she is being sexual, and that is why you are asking us. In this case you do know her in your heart, you are just struggling to accept it.

The third question, do you trust her to distinguish between innocent and sexual and be innocent? And the answer to that is also clearly, no, or you wouldn't even think to start this thread.

Summary : You should not be with this woman if you ask such questions about her. Whether she is being unfaithful or not, you don't trust her. Your relationship died without you ever noticing.

 

i love when people post without reading the thread.

"your girlfriend who you clearly stated is not your girlfriend is not your girlfriend and you should dump her."

 

Depends on if she was just trying to help a brotha out as a friend or there's reason to believe there was something sexual about it. I wouldn't be pissed until you've talked to her about it. No reason to be mad if he was in pain and she was just trying to be helpful. If you just don't like the idea of it anyway, you still shouldn't be mad, you should just ask her to not do it and explain that it makes you uncomfortable.

 

not sure if i replied but i walked in on them and the guy did even care about me nor noticed me. I know the guy already has a gf.The girl giving the massage looked at me gave me a guilty face as if she knew she shouldnt b doin that. Am not her bf but she flirts with me very hard so when i walked into the room she had this look like "oh no you shouldnt see me doing this." but to be honest i was like watever your not my gf but i would hate to b ur bf....and at the time she had a bf...