I like Lesbians??

My ex who I loved is now a Lesbian.

When I was going out with her she had quite low self esteem despite having the face of a model, she also had body dysmorphic disorder and thought she looked like a man, she did not, but she thought she had the chin and jaw of a man but it was of a female model. I dont think you would call her androgynous at all but she must think so.

I am really wondering if she always was a Lesbian, she wouldn't check out other girls at all but she would psychologically project homosexuality on to the guys she knew.

My other question relates to androgyny and sexuality, is there a link?
I seem to like cute girls who have a very slightly boyish look to them but not to the point where you would actually call them androgynous. I dont know how to explain it but it has nothing to do with masculine features and more to do with spacing of the eyes, if you want I can post some example pictures but I think you might know what I mean.

Is there a link here with sexuality, cause a lot of these girls seem to show traits of being Lesbians such as not smiling in photos and walking with a swagger. So I am worried I got a thing for Lesbians now.

 

Another question I have is she seemed to of had feelings, but from what I have read she would of been a lesbian all along.
This doesn't add up.
And she is definitely a Lesbian now.

 

The main trouble with this type of thing is if she went to a male psychologist, if she had Body Dysmorhic disorder, no matter how qualified he was, all it would take is the slightest look of condescention that lasts for a fraction of a second at the time she's telling him she thinks she looks male - him reacting the same way you do, huh? You look like a model....for her to then realise she is talking to a male before a psychologist


To me, I've always thought Adriann Lima had a guys face, guys eyes definately


To me it sticks out plain as day, to many girls it would too. But if I was to say that to any guy that considers himself a red blooded heterosexual that has spent time fapping over her, they would react rather angrily. You are never going to get guys to talk about that, or even really be able to see it.


Even what you've said here:

It just ends up sounding like: I seem to like cute girls with adjective adjective boyish looks....but OMG not ones that look like boys, I'm 1000% straight

Assuming she does have BDD, and thats not just what she was telling you, going off to such a medical professional that has that condescending look on his face, assuming her then boyfriend just saying what she thinks she wants to hear....but at the same time all other girls around constantly commentng on her chillselled features, boyish looks etc. Who is she going to believe, two or three males over everyone else she comes in contact with

But BDD itself is a disorder, stress, anxiety, compulsive behavouir over whichever body parts in a negative sense. That doesnt match up with her now getting attention from girls that think those same aspects make her look cool and androgynous

Is that what you are actually worried about? Say that to all your guy friends, what hetero teenage male hasnt been through the Lesbian porn stage?

You are worried you are into girls that look like guys

 

what the hell are you talking about? not smiling in photos is symptomatic of being a lesbian? that's even beyond complete nonsense. you're definitely reading too much into things analyzing every tiny little detail that is completely meaningless.

 

just spell it out as it is. he's worried he's turning gay.

 

No I am not worried I am gay or turning gay.

I think Adriana Lima is hot.

I think some Lesbians are hot and hence I think I have a very strong Lesbian gaydar.

I am actually wondering if you would say Adriana Lima or girls who look like her are Bi or Lesbian.

 

This is all nonsense as I learnt recently to my embarassement.
I've been openly gay since I was 14 and had a few affairs with women along the way. At 60 ish I flattered myself I wasn't in the least predjudiced about peoples appearence. However, when I first moved to rural Tasmania I told all by dyke friends back home that the town I'd moved to was an obvious lesbian haven. Not long after one of the local gay males put me right on this. According to him, and as proven by subsequent experience, the heterosexaul women around these parts look more butch than your average mainland diesel dyke. And I thought I had it all worked out !

 

I sometimes get a lot of lesbians, when Im dressed to the nines..

 

Okay well thanks that clears it up.

 

I would say you're a straight man going through the same a lot of other straight men go through when their ex girlfriends realize they're lesbians. It totally sucks to be that last person, but her sexuality does not affect yours in any way. Just be happy for her to have finally found herself!

 

Women, when they learn their men are, or have turned gay, tend to get far more hysterical about it. On the other hand straight males first reaction to discovering their partner is attracted to women is often to expect them to 'perform' in front of them. Why two women getting it off turns on so many hetro men is a bit of a puzzle to this old fairy but it sure is very common considering the high percentage of 'straight' porn featuring two women going at it. Ours is a peculiar species capable of all manner of things, me included.
I once had a male lover who discovered he was hetro. He appears to be happily married to the same woman ( who's become one of my best friends) 20 years later. However, last year he attempted to re-ignite our affair behind his wife's back. I agreed that if he presented me with her written permission countersigned by their family solicitor I'd be in it. He backed off.
One thing I refuse to do is carry on behind another partner's back. To me that's more perverse than any sexual practice I can think of.
Mabye I'm an old prude?

 

+rep...Well Said...



Cheers Glen.

 

I didn't go through anything introspective when I found out I was actually relieved she isn't fucking some other guy now and probably wont again, but I wasnt the last guy.

 

Maybe it's bc of self-preservation? Two girls at once = 2 baby humans instead of one. Or bc it's taboo. Bc lesbians are a "challenge" to them? Etc.

We all question our sexuality at one point or another. Maybe she just wanted to make sure she's not into guys so she tried one more time after you? Coming out is a major life event and it can get a little confusing. But really, everything is ok. If you only want to have sex with girls, you are heterosexual. Even if you're into androgenous girls. They're still girls. But even if you find out that you might be a lil bi curious...you wouldn't be the only one!

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=idhxrZKlLvc"]Loudon Wainwright III - I wish I was A Lesbian.wmv - YouTube

 

Not bi curious I have 0 attraction to guys.
I am talking to a girl now though who is Bi she is even more sus than my ex. talking with her about her past relationships she isnt a lesbian but def bi so I would guess my ex is actually Bi and not a lesbian.

These girls arnt butch or staunch they play with their hair and keep there head down when I 1st met them so they are feminine, but once you get to know them they arnt whiny or bitchy and actually pretty cool headed, btw these girls are 8+ chicks if that means anything.
Both these girls have had feelings for guys but they just cant be dominated at all they are like testosterone driven in relationships.