What are your tips for getting over inappropriate crushes?

Hi!

Hopefully, I am not alone in what I'm about to ask

I am brand new to Hip Forums and just getting acquainted with the different threads and places to go. I am a single lesbian in my early 40s and don't have a lot of gay and lesbian friends so I often find myself unable to seek advice on issues close to my heart.

I love my job very much, but have been quite uneasy lately because I think I may have a crush (maybe even possible feelings for?) on one of my co-workers who is both straight and happily married.

I feel awful that I like her so much, but she is so nice and kind and a very interesting woman with a wonderful smile and an endearing shyness that pops up from time to time. I am completely smitten with her and worry that she can tell. I don't want to leave my job, but also don't like that I feel this way about her. In another universe if she were gay, single and liked me back I would love to go out on a date with her and get to know her better. But she is very much unattainable and I just want to get these lovey dovey feelings out of my system once and for all.

How have you dealt with your feelings for those you know are clearly not for you?

Thanks for any advice!

Sincerely,
musicismysoul42

 

Wait it out...and don't say anything! Only because she's married. You could go to a local lesbian bar/club or dating site and find someone new to crush on. Ice cream helps too. Good luck!

 

Your feelings - wanting the unattainable - are not restricted to lesbians.
They have been part of the human condition since way back. Heck half the Greek Tragedies are based on that theme.

Sadly, I doubt anyone can give you a perfect solution. Your "love" is unattainable, you know that yet something inside still pines. We've all been there.
There is no manual on what to do.
What you don't do is far simpler, and it seems you recognize that.
My feelings are with you. You'll work it out: we all do eventually in our own unique way.