4 year realationship; No communication.

It feels like forever since we've actually had real convo. I ask him for kisses sometimes & he asks me "For what?" or "Why?" it makes me feel like shit. It's made my self esteem drop severely bad compared to when we first got together. What should I do?

 

I think spicing the relationship up a bit might help. Do something different, go somewhere different, create some new memories together and have some really good sex after! We get accustomed to our lives and routine and sometimes forget to appriciate what we have right infront of us because its always there

 

You have to ask him for kisses

 

i would think that you need to step back and ask yourself what the next 20 years looks like....

assuming that you havnt gained 200 pounds or grown a beard in the last 4 years and this lull is not physical and attributed to you?


if he is salvageable then you are gonna nee to start slowly showing him that you wont put up with ''the cold shoulder''


dont be a sap

 

Time apart is greatly underrated.

 

I would rather live alone than be in that kind of relationship.

 

Kiss him anyway. While you're at it, give his crotch a little rub. Communication really improves after that.

 

Believe me I've tried :\

 

I left my page on here open and he navigated thru & seen this. We had a better day & he bought us some wine. maybe i should leave websites i post on open more often. Do you think maybe he didn't know he was making me feel that way? Even if telling him wasn't enough, just seeing me post it for others help maybe have been the answer??

 

like, ute-aztecan?

ehh probably just snowballed anti-social habits.

get high and fuck.

 

it doesn't sound fun.

I've been married for 22 years and I can't not touch her anytime I get close to her.

with the kids gone it would be pretty darn quiet around here if we didn't talk.

 

Northern Ute from Utah.

 

maybe he's stupid. explain to him what kisses are for.

 

Goes to show you there are two sides to every story.

 

Calm down. You're the one talking to us dumbass people.

 

Good luck...toward then end of my marriage, for the last two years, there was no touching or kissing...it's no way to live. Make sure that this is not a short time thing that he is giving you, or walk away...4 years is better than 19 years of wasted time.

 

Rock star...if you have experienced the same kind of thing before, then you should know too, that if things aren't working, to get out. Neither one of you should drag things out with the other.

 

i'm a bit confused since your posts are pretty much unreadable. so you're the boyfriend of the OP? and you're dating the OP because you're an old man and she's a hot young thing, but she cheats on you and is pretty much a lazy scumbag mooch, yet you stay with her for no reason that's explained?

i find it hard to believe that you've read most of the bullshit here. not just because your descriptions of "most" of the posters are really only accurate of maybe 20%, but also because there's probably a million posts on this site and it's just not realistic to believe that you've read even 1/10 of them.

 

Was it really wasted? Nearly all relationships produce a lot of personal growth, or at minimum, knowledge.