He's too big and sex is incredibly painful?

So I'm just wondering if anyone has ever dealt with this before. My boyfriend is very well endowed (I think around 9 inches long...not too sure how wide though) and sex is so incredibly painful for me.

We can minimize the pain by going incredibly slowly, having him barely thrust, and using standard missionary positions (it's worse from behind), but still, it's not exactly pleasurable for me. We use lube and that doesn't help...it seems like even if he's not in all that deep, it's still sore and I'm guessing that may be width related.

The deeper he goes though, the more it hurts to the point where I'm almost in tears. We've been together for a while now, so I'm not sure it's just a first-time tight sort of thing.

I'm really worried we may have to end the relationship over it if we can't figure out a solution. Has this happened to anyone else or did you find a way to get past it?

 

you see an obgyn?

 

Yah, and everything came back clear. I also slept with another guy this last summer who was much smaller (like half the size I'd say) and it was perfectly fine...really enjoyable and the difference is like night and day.

 

I wouldn't end the relationship over the pain issue. as you say its probably a size thing which is understandable.

Know it will sound silly, maybe you need to try and loosen up the area where the pain is experienced how exactly not sure use toys or insertion of something suitable to slowly increase size of your body within.

 

rules that out. maybe you need to break it to him softly. "honey your dick is to big"..

dont know how much pain your really in.. its possible that if you are not in that much pain. you can stretch out some over time but not by much, sounds likes he hitting your cervix ..

place your hands on the inside of your thighs while in the missionary position, this will prevent him from penetrating to deep...

 

9 Inches Should Not Be A Problem, Nor Should The

Diameter, Good God What Are You Going To Do When You Have Open

Up For A Babies Head To Pass.??...

Methinks There May Be Other Issues Involved Here, Like Some Kind Of

Obstruction In There.

I Suggest You Count Your Collection Of Vibrators And Other Sex Toys And

If One's Missing Then That's Where You Left It....



Cheers Glen.

 

Just throwing it out there, could be more about the first guys face

 

I heard of this before, a friend of mine said that his wife didn't put out too much because she complained of how well endowed he was.. For the longest time I thought there was no way this was possible.. but actually this can happen with some women. I am not a Dr, nor do I hold any biology degrees but it does happen that some women are built very small.

I am guessing a dump truck of lube wouldn't help the situation until you get acclimated to him?

 

It has happened to me, once. I had a one night stand with a guy that had a huge dick, really big in the girth, I just couldn't enjoy it at all, I was in pain for days afterward and was cursing his name. I was lucky that I didn't get to know him better.

 

Thanks for all the replies, it's good to know that others have suffered with this issue before.

With regards to stretching, I guess I just would have thought it would have happened already if it was going to. And I know he's not hitting my cervix, or hasn't been, as that has happened in the past and it's much different than the pain that I experienced most recently (both equally painful).

This time, he's not in all that much and it is still hurting. Maybe it is just an arousal issue and with enough work there it would help decrease the pain. I don't know, but it makes me want to just avoid sex entirely which isn't obviously going to work...

Thanks again for all the advice. I'll try some of these ideas and see if it helps.

 

double post, somehow. Apologies

 

^^^^

Lol, 1 out of 1 members like both doible posts? So you like your own posts

 

Put's Hand Up, I'm The Member That Liked The First Post

And I Guess It Just Somehow Multiplyed...



Cheers Glen.

 

i love doable posts.

actually, i've seen the doublepost-doublelike a bunch of times. i don't think i've seen one of a double that's liked when its match isn't. it almost seems like the likes are connected so one like goes to both, even though that doesn't really make any sense.

also, OP's probably a guy.

 

Typed that on my tablet, thumbs are to big, so everything double is doible

I also pwned myself

 

I thinks Id likes some double penetration.

 

I've found that in certain positions with my boyfriend he hits my cervix more easily, which causes an uncomfortable sensation ~ so it could be that he is hitting your cervix too?

Definitely masturbate with a big dildo perhaps for the girth issue, use looooots of lube when having sex. Practice. Relax.

 

Does your boyfriend go down on you? Perhaps if he "loosened" things up that way, penetration would be less painful?

 

If the problem is length, shouldn't he able to control that by not thrusting in as far? If it's thickness, that's another problem.

 

some women like having the cervix smashed.

to us men, , kinda like hitting the back the throat, cep shes not choking to death..