Am I offically BI?

It sounds kinda confused but here goes..

I'm female, I've had a string of relationships with guys and 2 children. However over the past couple of years I've found myself less and less attracted to guys. Infact to be honest I've always found women more 'attractive' and always for as long as I can remember fantasized about women, even during sex with a guy. Sexually I've been quite prolific with guys and well TBH been around a bit. I like sex with guys but I'm just not physically attracted and desire a relationship with a woman.
So there it is in it's confused entirety...am I Bi, confused, lesbian..I'm not sure what to call myself. Perhaps I should just forget labels and do what feels right? What does anyone else think? Oh and BTW I don't consider myself confused, but maybe I am?

Shayla x

 

Thanks for the kind words As I just said to a friend I'm anxious about this, that's kinda weird for me as I'm usually really confident.

 

You like both. You are bi.

It's official, I will send you your card in the mail.

Don't be anxious.

Case closed.

 

Try not to worry so much about labels and just do what feels right.

 

I wouldn't worry about labeling yourself, it only makes things more confusing. Enjoy what you're experiencing right now and where your feelings take you!

 

Thanks all for the kind words :grouphug:

Shayla x

 

Seriously - when you let labels run your life ........... At the moment, you are in the middle of a confusing state - but you're still you. Allow yourself to explore these feelings in a manner you see fit and are comfortable with.

I think most females at some stage go through a genuine curiosity about other women. Obviously, the majority take it no further. You are far from alone.

Just don't let a label be the end-point of your feelings; be yourself and possibly labels will follow of their own accord.

 

so u like kids? lol

 

Oh dear, maybe I should have put that a little better, but seriously grow up

 

You sound bisexual to me. As a bisexual, there are times when I'm more attracted to women and times when I'm more attracted to men. I prefer relationships with women, though, and am married to a bisexual woman. We date other bisexual couples and singles and it seems to help us stay committed to our own relationship. I dated a gay man for a while, but we we are currently dating another bisexual couple. That is much better for us since we are both involved in the relationship. I would suggest you do whatever feels right, as long as it doesn't involve cheating. If you are in a relationship, then you should definitely be honest with your partner or spouse about what you want.

 

they aren't labels they're words and words are used to express yourself. So grab a word and have fun.