Potheads and love

Ah the age old question, "how do i get a boy to like me??", but more specificaly, how do i get a serious pothead/artist to want to do somethign with me? the only thing i can think of to do is smoke pot with him, but i don't really like smoking pot, the cons outweigh the pros for me. Any help?

 

Just be yourself. There is no use in trying to make someone like you. It just happens. Its hard when your kinda lonley and you like somone a lot and they dont feel that back. It's just part of life you should try to accept and move on. If you force somthing it wont turn out to be nearnly as good. Just hang in there and be yourself the right person will come along eventually. Everything happens of a reason.

 

just go with the old saying of be yourself ..dont change for anybody, because then you get wrapped into something that isnt fully you and never works out..

 

They gave good advice, be yourself, you don't want him if he doesn't like you for who you are, to add to that ask him out if he isn't aggressive with you.

 

Fuck him and let me smoke the pot.

 

By "something", I'm going to assume you mean sex

From experience, I can tell you that potheads are always ready to shag :sunglasse

So just get him high, you don't necessarily have to smoke

 

Lift your skirt & bend over.

He'll pay attention & want to "do something" with you. I promise.


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As far as getting him to sleep wiuth you, I don't think it would be very difficult.

If you wanted an idea of a date or something that doesn't involve pot, I've learned that most stoner enjoy quirky off the wall things. If he is into you, he should be willing to do something w/o pot. If not, then he's not wrth your time.

PEace

 

what cons? please specify

 

few enough chicks dig dope smoking artists that if you just start talking to him you should have an in. just avoid being creepy about it. like today por le example, a girl just walked up to one of my friends and gave him a note itemizing every time she had ever seen him, that sort of approach doesn't really work with a laid back guy.

 

Well, fuckin, and lovin on pot is just great, but if you don't smoke pot, stay clean, and or try it.
But love and sex on good pot, is better than anything i've known before!!!

 

Well, i didn't mean sex, like a date w/o pot. (at this point i've given up on ever having sex and just want someone to hold me, yes, i am pathetic)
Cons: if i get caught, i will be 6 ft underground in a matte of seconds, having a fuzzy head and impaired judgement is not worth my untimly demise.

 

pot head artist!? grr i need a good one around here

 

Wait Your not a pothead but you want a pothead boyfriend? You're looking for a pothead starving artist... maybe your standards are too high.

Seriously though, artists are the most pretentious people alive... just get him to start talking about himself, he'll never shut up.

As for what to do, take him to some movies, and to go to some art shows or something like that.

 

i don't think potheads like to turn down people that like them, trust me, i know...

like people said above, just be yourself, you don't have to tell him that you don't like smoking. plenty of us like people that don't smoke, it's more about the personality and not really about if you smoke or now. we just want people who we can be comfortable around, people who don't persecute us for what we like to do... smoke pot.

 

You're judgement ain't impaired when you're high. (You listen to those anti-pot assholes that never even got high don't you?) Sometimes simple tasks are complicated and your reaction time is impaired. The caught thing is a real con though.
P.S. If you aren't stupid you won't get caught

 

do you have a specific pothead/artist in mind, or do you just dig the whole pothead/artist vibe and are hoping to find a good one?

like everyone said, be yourself... but at the same time, remember to let him be himself, too. don't try and pressure him to stop smoking. i guess if you're looking for a pothead, that wouldn't be your intention... but maybe something will change six months down the road.

also, what sort of "stoner" are we talking about here? there's a difference between the person who smokes maybe a joint a day and the person who lights up hourly.

you don't smoke, but how do you feel about being present when others are smoking around you? know your own personal boundaries before starting anything. it's okay if he smokes, but is it okay if he smokes in front of you? if just the two of you are chillin' and he sparks up a jay, would that upset you? or does it not matter at all, as long as you don't smoke? will you be angry if he shows up for a date, stoned?

i dated a non-smoker once so i've got some insight from the other side. pot aside, the dude didn't smoke cigarettes, and i felt resentful every time he made a face or urged me to quit. so don't do that to artisthead when he smokes herb. the dude i dated did smoke herb with me and his roomie a couple times, and i would feel guilty when he would smoke, like he was pressured into it or something. also, i find it difficult to fall asleep if i dont smoke right before bed. insomnia starts to set in. my non-smoker ex was always fast asleep right after sex... meanwhile, i was wide awake and jonesin' for a jay. this would also mean that my ex would wake up first, and i was grumpy and sleep-deprived in the morning. this might sound like a bad thing to say, but the nice thing about dating fellow smokers is that they always enjoy a naked bong hit right before bed. what if artisthead enjoys a hit before falling asleep? to make this easier, you could always pick up one of those sleep-sound cds, or if you wake up first, cook him some breakfast while he's sleeping. it has absolutely nothing to do with the whole, "if he likes you enough, he'll put down the pipe," mentality. yeah, he'll enjoy activities without being stoned, and he'll end up smoking less... but be aware that serious smokers can get irritable late in the afternoon if they haven't smoked yet that day, and even the cutest, sweetest girl in town isn't going to cure insomnia with a toothy grin. so depending on how frequently he smokes, that might be something to keep in mind. if you don't want him to smoke in front of you, you have got to tolerate/accept his irritability or moodiness if he can't smoke. if you're cool with him smoking in front of you, make sure you know how much smoking you're cool with.

if you don't want to see him smoking at all, then be prepared to not spend as much time together. i know that sounds bad, but hear me out. if he has friends over, and you don't want to be around the smoke, he's not going to call you up and invite you over. it's not that he's putting pot before you, but he's not going to want you to feel uncomfortable. likewise, he probably won't take you to parties or friends houses where smoking will be the major activity of the night. if you're laid back about it and don't care, then you're in a much better position.

 

I do have one in mind,w e're going to the same college, and one of his closest friends is like a brother to me, we met through him. He's not as bad as our friedn when it comes to pot, i think he can go either way everyday about smoking or not, and i think he'll probably grow out of it when he gets older. Its not that i don't like smoking, i just don't want to do it all the time, and it makes me incredibly paraniod. i don't care if he smokes around me or anything, my place is known as the place you go when your too fucked up to find your way home, so its not that i have a problem with smoking.
my first and only relationship lasted for two years, and ended a year ago, it was a slightly abusive one, and i'm afraid i don't know how to act around normal (ie-non-slimybasterds)guys. Its really cool because i feel so comfortable around him, which i usually don't with guys. I actually called him tonight to see if he wanted to go see a movie, since my nbest friend had ditched me for her new boyfriend (i'm totally not bitter) but he wasn't going out b/c he was with his grandparents, but at least i worked up the courage to call him! i actualy went with him to go get a present for our friend, and afterwards he told our friend that he had a great time and thoght i was really cool. But then i have to wonder if thats no big deal to him, and that he's really nice to me because he likes me or because he's just a nice guy. Our friend said when he got back in town we would all go see a movie, so thats a good thing. HTanks for writing so much guys!

 

more you smoke, the less paranoid you get. That affect weakens more (and faster) than the rest. I don't even smoke more than twice a week and that left me.

 

*ahem*

This would go under "judgement impairment", sweet thang