ok this will rpobably be long so bear with it if you please. i am friends with this girl. she is awesome, and exactly the type of girl i would want, my dream girl in fact. she has a long distance boyfriend of 5+ years so I am in no way trying to break that up. in fact i am perfectly happy being friends because she is aweseom and if it never goes beyond that, that's fine with me. kinda. but anyway last year at school we became very good friends. we worked together all year long, spoke pretty much everyday and hung out at least 2-3 times per week. she became one of my best friends at school. this summer she spent with her boyfriend and we only spoke 4-5 times for an hour or so each time catching up, bsing, etc. here's the deal. this year when we got back to school i had a different job and we were both busy as shit and didnt see each other very often or talk too much. we still hung out and had a good time and what not but i kind of have a feeling she tired of me/ebign my friend. however, she is the type of person who would probably never say anything and would just reduce the frequency of chilling instead of telling me that straight up. now basically i havent talked to her for a while and we were supposed to hang out over break but i'm fairly sure she wont be calling me when she gets in town. if she does not do i take it as the long overdue message to leave her the fuck alone, or do i ask her about it. i am leaning towards just putting it out on the table if i call her to wish her a happy new years, which i probably will do. i would not bring up the part about dream girl and shit because i dont want to put that kind of overtone on our relationship i just wanna stay friends. basically im planning on just asking her whats the deal and does she want me to leave her alone the next time i talk to her. it seems like half the time we hang out its more because she doesnt want to say no rather than actually wants to hang out with me. so i guess my question is should i be honest about how i feel about our dwindling friendship and try to clarify and if possible improve it back to the status it was previously, or should i just keep my mouth shut? i appreciate any and all comments as this has been bugging me for some time and needed to get it out.
communication. if you ever want a good relationship with her, you gotta put everything on the table. hard, isn't it?
i know where your comming from man.. i used to hang out with this girl and everything was cool until she got a bf and then she turned into a bitch.. after that i stopped hanging with her.. i started up again not too long ago and its been great.. we both said we loved hanging out with each other.. if i dont call her to hang out she calls me so its all good.. i would say be truthfull... through it all on the line.. if she wants nothing to do with you yes it will hurt but then you will know she is not worth.. if she is your true friend then she will stick by you.. thats how you can tell if your ment to be with this girl or not
thanks for the advice. i guess next time i talk to her i'm just gonna lay it out there. i figure it'll either fix things or i'll know that she's tired of me, either way it'll be better
