Girlfriend moving in with male roomates?

Just looking for thoughts/different experiences people have had with this sort of thing.

Do I have a right to feel mad at her about this? Is it abnormal and a bad idea, or am I overreacting? Is it unreasonable to ask her to keep looking for a different place?

I've been with her for a few months now. She currently lives with her best female friend but because of her financial situation it looks she will be moving into a place with three strange males who placed an ad online. They're roughly the same age as her and she also said they have the same sort of interests.

 

It's all about trust dude, I don't think you have a real reason to feel mad about it.

 

I trust her not to want to hurt me. I don't trust strange guys to respect our relationship.

I also know that it's human nature for attachments to form when people are in close proximity.

Things can happen, especially when people are emotionally vulnerable...or drunk.

I think trust is a complex thing, and there are certain situations where people can't necessarily even trust themselves to always do the right thing in the face of temptation.

 

Hmmm.. I can agree with you on that. I guess it just depends on the people.. though you can always say no..

 

yes, trust is your only hope

 

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Cheers Glen.

 

Did you think about moving in together somewhere ?

 

My girlfriend is one of those most innocent people you'd ever meet, and is the only person i'd ever trust with anything.

Yet... i still don't think i'd be happy about this lol, and we've been together for a lot longer than a few months, so i don't see how you could be either.

 

Not an option for me at the moment unfortunately.

 

From your post #1 you are unhappy about it.
Discuss it with her and tell her you don't trust these unknown guys and ask if she would look elsewhere.
Straightforward really.

 

I don't think it helps to be angry about the situation. If she felt comfortable enough with the guys to consider living there, I would trust her instincts about that.

Maybe once you get to meet these guys you might feel better about the situation (or worse I suppose). I certainly understand her financial reasons for living with roommates.

I have lived alone now for many years but in the 70's I lived in many situations with assorted people. Some of the situations worked out well, others didn't and people moved on. It sounds like she has to find a place quickly not necessarily permanently. Perhaps being supportive of her choices would help you in the long run.

 

Well I've discussed it with her now.

She's basically unwilling to look elsewhere because although she "understands where I'm coming from" she thinks I'm being "melodramatic" and that I'm only "caring about my own wellbeing."

So basically she thinks my feelings are stupid and in light of that thinks it is unreasonable and unfair for her to make even the slightest concession?

 

Sounds A Little Selfish To Me, But I Guess You Have No Choice

But To Just Sit This Out And "Fingers Crossed" Hope For The Best....



Cheers Glen.

 

I wouldnt worry about it, moving in with three guys, the perfect number to stuff all her holes at once, and they all probably have bigger dongers than you. Maybe worry she might have trouble walking, but learn to empathise

 

Haha, thanks asshole.

 

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Cheers Glen.

 

Why does she not move in with you?

 

ve Ohh tough spot.

But yeah the best thing you can do is trust her and you've already probably irritated her by bringing up the issue more than once.

Be supportive, meet those guys, and screw your girlfriend really well before she starts living with them.

You want the relationship in a strong place before potential competition comes up.

And god forbid, if those guys harm her, give her an open door policy. But also brace yourself for the worst.

But whatever happens, be cool, collected, and calculated. Do not freak on her or play a blame game.

 

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