My Girlfriend's New Attitude

I've been with my girlfriend for nearly two years, and we have a fairly healthy loving relationship. It is true to say that after six months or so it lost its 'spark' a bit, but that's only to be expected.

Anyway, she's always been political and idealistic, whereas I'm not into politics at all. It never came between us though, until recently when she went back to university and joined this sort of socialist/feminist group.

Now she has these crappy new ideas, for example - and the one that directly affects me - that men oppress women and objectify them, and use them for sex.

She says that I'm "too focused on the physical aspects of our relationship" and that we need to strengthen our emotional bond, and that I shouldn't "expect sexual gratification" whenever I want it. The problem is I want sex much more than her.

For the last four weeks or so we've only been having sex two or three times a week, and this has merely fueled my libido. I'm now constantly thinking about sex and doing things - trying to be more romantic, get her in the mood - to get it. In other words it has made me more focused on the physical aspects of our relationship.

 

Wah wah wah first world problems to be honest man, its true that men are ruled by their penises.

Advice: talk to her about it. Just be honest and tell her how you feel.

 

Yeah, I already have. When I said I have 'needs' she said that was "emotional blackmail" and that the 'blue balls' thing is a myth.

I can't win, as even when I bought her this bag she wanted, she said "I hope you've not done that to get me into bed. I'm not a prostitute, you know." LOL

I might start going to the gym again, and lose the gut.

 

Dude, show an interest in her new found views, even if your not interested at all. Relationships are about compromise and understanding, sounds like your trying too hard to get her in bed without actually sitting down and hearing what she has to say.. your still getting it 2-3 times a week, not everyone has the same sex drive either, hers might of lessened when she went to uni because she has other stuff to focus on too.

Or, get a hobby.

 

Tell her you`re going to one if your needs aren`t met. Let`s see what pet feminist cliche she gives you then.

Great idea. Watch women hotter and smarter than your girlfriend start hitting on you. Let`s see if your girlfriend keeps on taking your dick for granted then.

 

Also, educate her about the Men`s Rights Movement and its response to patriarchy and objectification theory:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d-N9daqANcw

 

she's crazy and you're spoiled. everyone's gotta compromise.

 

OP, one of the things that's important for you and her to understand is that feminism is a hate group.

there are legitimate women's issues, and legitimate women's complaints against men, but feminists use these issues to inspire hatred of all men, and to try to fuck up straight relationships

basically, women who don't want or who can't get relationships with men are trying to wage war on men and on straight relationships because

a) misery loves company

and

b) they gain economic and political power from doing so

a legitimate women's movement would try understand men's perspectives and try find a way for men and women to peacefully and harmoniously co-exist.

that ain't feminism

your girlfriend is not entitled to abuse you or attack you behind a thin veil of ideological justification

if she wants to feel a closer emotional bond, that's a legitimate wish. I think that she should realize, however, that achieving that is not a one-way street

if you buy her a gift, and all she does is make accusations against you, she needs to realize that she is not entitled to attack you and that her own attitude is the problem

you are not an abuse object. that she is displeased does not entitle her to mistreat you.

if you feel its worth the effort, you can try to work things out with her.

if it were me, I'd dump her bitch ass in a second.

if you are reasonably good looking, nice, and have a strong sex drive, there are girls out there who would not only fuck your brains out, they would love you, try to treat you fairly, and be eternally grateful for you


don't waste your time with this bitch. she isn't worth it

go find a girl who is more compatible with you

 

probably something like, "well that's just typical of your male chauvinist, objectifiying, oppressive, sexist patriarchal male phalocentric fantasies! all men are rapists! all heterosexuality is rape!"


could someone please + rep Cherea for me?

 

I was thinking they both are spoiled and maybe a little young still

 

Inform her that you can strengthen your emotional bond together "while having sex". No better way to do it.

 

"dshsb"..

 

Tell her feminists also believe in open relationships, so you'll be obtaining your sex elsewhere (openly).

 

this is like white people crying about reverse racism...
men don't need a movement ~lol~

 

Yep.

That`s another path: school her about sex-positive feminism instead of the man-hating shit that passes for feminism today.

Starting with Camille Paglia. :love:

 

Except females are the majority so its not a great analogy.

A mens movement? Response to the Patriarchy - that includes men against men, not like we dont find some of them douchebags.

And objectification theory, its REALLY REALLY insulting having chics below your ranking try make out you cant control yourself and just want to use them as sex objects. Or as in the case with this thread, listen to a tale of some chic thats bored with her boyfriend attack all male kind rather than dealing with the truth.

 

That`s allll there is.

As soon as anyone tries to hold women accountable for their own lives and actions, there`s some dude stonewalling the bitch and putting her on a pedestal talking about "you need to learn how to treat 'em like a lady."

None of the self-entitlement, and all the double standard around reproductive rights, false rape accusation, divorce law, alimony (looooooool), child care, sex work criminalization, and welfare would be remotely possible if it weren`t for the pathetic doormats who only have a chance getting in a woman`s pants by sucking up to them.

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Edit: BTW, and this is coming from a black man --- there is reverse racial discrimination and I am not in favor of affirmative action.

 

Thanks for your replies, folks. I had to look up 'dshsb', but I won't be acting on that advice. LOL

Cherea, it's not like she's gone off sex, completely. She says (and this is almost a quote) that society makes women believe that they have an obligation to give men sex, and that it will only happen on her terms and not to placate me.

I think I might buy her one of Camille's books, so thanks for the inspiration. Despite being a feminist, she hasn't started wearing dungarees and still waxes her legs...the stereotypes have changed a bit. Despite women being sex objects, she still dresses provocatively and wears pink.

As for feminism being a hate group, I understand some of the more extremist have some bizarre views - even she concedes that!

To those saying that I'm 'spoiled', I don't really understand what you mean. Perhaps you might elaborate?

 

not all those who call themselves feminists intend to be part of a hate group, but it is a hate group nonetheless. a thread on this topic may be necessary

conceding that people who disagree with you are wrong is not much of a concession

 

"Give" sex? No, womanly behavior mutually enjoys sex. Yet it seems feminism fights that whole premise to be woman and true to our bodies. What better equality then to like sex as much as men! They are such a group of contradiction.