When to tell her?

First date, probably not. But be ready for her to dump your ass if you leave it too long, or better yet, she finds out from someone else.

You think being an escort isn't just a job to them? And that porn is above that? Why, because the stranger that you fuck is getting paid too?

 

You should have told her right from the start. I can't see this ending very well.

 

Sexual history is a different matter. That's personal information and I don't expect a full sexual history until deep into the relationship. Present occupation, however, is immediately pertinent. If I was dating a guy who USED to do porn, it would be a detail of his sexual history and I wouldn't expect him to tell me until we had reached a point of emotional intimacy and trust where that kind of detail is appropriate. If he was CURRENTLY working in porn, that's something I would want to know up front.

 

You and I are on the same page. I completely agree.

 

By no means was I putting porn above escorting. It was just an example. I consider them both to be equal in terms of scope. It's all sex for money when you break it down.

 

NOW!! Tell her now. It is only fair.IMO

 

How did she react when you told her about your current job question mark (sorry something is wrong with my keyboard). If she wasnt too happy about it, then she is probably gonna freak out. I personally find your past interesting and impressive, however not necessarily for a relationship but rather a sexual adventure or such.

 

Xaaru,
are you so removed (desensitized) that you are clueless on this?
Not so much your livelihood but that coupled with your question puts you in a whole new light.
I do not judge you on this (something I will do regardless of the negative opinion of judging from others), but I will have a hard time taking you seriously henceforth.

- JKHolman

 

I think that he is pretty removed from this now, especially since his last activity was 08-29-2013 03:19 AM

Over the last year or so since he first posted, I think he's probably worked this out.

 

I bet you're the type that is the smartest person in room. Especially when it's empty.

 

To me it seems clear that you tell them whenever you have 'the talk', otherwise known as the 'monogamy talk.'

 

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