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I need some advice, I have been dating a guy for four years now and we do a lot of spanking role plays, which I love but the problem is I want more. I have always wanted a domestic discipline/ taken in hand relationship, but my guy only gets the spanking part. He doesn't understand the rest of what I want. I want him to take full control, make me call him sir and submit to him. I want him to punish me and make stand in the corner. The whole shebang. Now I have told him so many times but it's like he can't get it together. I've gone to websites and I'm about to give up. How can I tell if he even wants or can do this or is it a lost cause?

 

Not everyone is cut out for that kind of relationship. you need to explain and show him exactly what you want down to the last detail, let him decided what he is confortable with, experiment based on both of your boundries and go from there. You may come to some sort of compromise that works for both ofyou, or you may not. No one can figure it out except the two of you, but at least he is already spanking you

 

If he doesn't get what you want, then he can't probably feel the joy of being the one with the power. How can he control you, if he doesn't understand the needs of someone who wants to be humiliated? My guess is, he is either very shy or he is not into it. Why don't you go step by step. First ask him to spank you harder, then ask him to call you names. At some point you can ask him for a role play. For example he can come home and pretend to be a rapist. Or you being a dog, crawling naked on the floor and he just treating you as such. Just go slowly, and he might get into it. Good luck

 

if this is something he is not comfortable with it may take time for him to get used to it. Take one step at a time, it may take awhile but you may eventually get there.

Sit down and talk with him about what you want. I know this may be uncomfortable but you need to get over that to get what you want.

Maybe show him some videos so he has a visual idea of what you are talking about.

 

I have to agree with the others here. You have to explain to him what EXACTLY you want him to do to you. However, you have to find out if this is something he wants as well. Maybe he's not into the whole domination thing. I know plenty of people who love to spank, but don't like to dominate. Maybe it's a turn off to him? Find out and let us know.