Okay so me and my husband of four years just split up and i don't see us ever getting back together. He was the only man i have been with but I'm ready to have sex with someone else and there is someone that wants to. Do u guys think i should or not?
You want to. Someone else wants to. Posting here suggests that if you are right, in that you are ready, that you are nervous or perhaps not ready. ("ready to have sex" is different than "horney") I don't know long "just split up" is. 1 month, 3 months.... Let me tell you a (true) story about me and my wife. We had been married for over ten years, but then separated. If the paperwork had been easier, we would have divorced. It was amicable, our thinking was "why tell the insurance company to raise our rates". So for 4 years, we lived in seperate cities (200 mi.) and had seperate lives. One year, we were ran into each other at a hot springs. One thing led to another and we ended up sleeping with each other. For the next few months we would call and visit each other. Currently, we've been un-separated for over 4 years. The point is that even if you don't see yourself getting back with hubby, it might happen. If you decide to sleep with this someone else, vow that you will never, under any circumstances, tell your husband about it. That's my advise.
We got married really young without really knowing each other very good and we really aren't compatible. hes very immature and obviously not ready for a family. I know if we ever get back together that it wont be for a very long time. so I guess what i'm actually trying to ask is does it make me look like a bad person if i have sex with someone else
as long as you both understand that you're separated and the relationship is over, then do whatever and whomever you'd like.
if people were only allowed to have sex with one person ever, there would be a lot fewer people in the world.
You'll be fine, I just worry you'll get really attached with this new guy. If all else fails, consult this image:
I don't think i will get attached to a new guy.. I really just want to have some fun and explore sex a little more and plus this guy is defiantly not a relationship kinda guy.. its pretty obvious its just sex for both of us
lil,your uncertainty really tells you all you need for now,hon. If the time was right,and you KNEW the time was right,you'd be in a bed right now bouncing and gasping,not sat typing. Feeling you THINK you'd 'like' to' and being sure NOW is the right time are worlds apart. For the sake of not having a lifetime of regret,hang on 'till you're CERTAIN. Then,let 'er rip!
Something tells me buddy was lacking in bed, and you haven't really had the chance to open up sexually. Do it. It's fun. Don't feel guilty about making yourself happy, and don't be afraid to move on. What part of KY are you in?
Soooo not true!!! They come in all shapes and sizes! Some are good some not so good but now you get to go out there and try them all.
Thanks for all the good replies guys.. but I know for sure me and my husband are over and i know for sure i want to have sex the only reason im questioning it is because we have a son together.. but yeah our sex life was kinda lacking im very adventurous and hes not hes kinda boring.
Are you asking people on a forum for permission to have sex with another guy? Surely you don't need our approval.
Actually,that was a really clever answer,'witchy. Sums it up and slams the door. Like it. Rep for you.] :2thumbsup:
So long as you're certain that you aren't simply on the proverbial rebound. If you are really certain that you're confident in having non-commital sex, then I'd say 'fine'. The chances are that your ex-husband is probably doing the same. It's always a pity when a marriage breaks up, but if the inevitable happens & you have both accepted it to be the case, then you're once again to be considered as being free & single (even if the legalities have not yet been completed).
