So I've been dating this girl for a while now and she's taller than me. I'm crazy about her and she's crazy about me and we love each other but the height thing always seems to worry me. I've always had a problem with height because I'm short. I'm 5'4 and she's 5'7 and we're both 19. It's the only worry I have in our relationship. Everything else is perfect. She's perfect for me and she says I'm perfect for her and she has no problem with my height. I've always been insecure and no matter how many times she tells me to not worry about it, I do. People always look at us and it makes me feel really uncomfortable. Do you think it's weird for the male to be shorter? And do you have any advice about how I can get over this? Thanks.
I'm not going to lie, a guy that is taller then me gets sexy brownie points, but height is not the only factor in someone attractive. You've already impressed and hooked the one you're crazy about, what else matters? If you focus on your insecurities, it'll just detract from the relationship. Walk with the knowledge that you're with someone you really care about and someone who really cares about you. People will give you looks regardless of who you are, tall, short, fat, skinny, etc. Humans just have this odd habit of staring at others. I bet they aren't even looking at you because of your height, but you make it so because it's the only thing on your mind. People come in all shapes and sizes and no combination of them is weird. Embrace who you are and enjoy any time you're spending with her instead of worrying about what others might (but probably don't) think. Only you can get over it, I can't fix it for you. Just get your confidence from the person you are rather than your height. (5'4 isn't that short anyways.)
my best friend is shorter than his wife...although his wife is 6'4" so she is actually taller than most men. they have the opposite problem though, she is insecure about being so tall as if it makes her less feminine. but really they are perfect for each other because of their personalities, height has nothing to do with their happiness. if you still need advice i say get to the gym and bulk up. you cant control how big you are height wise but if you are looking to feel more masculine then you can control how big you are muscle wise.
She actually hates her height as well. She wishes she was some small, petite girl and I've told her I wouldn't change her height.
5'7 is taller than average but its not even close to being so tall that someone should want to be shorter. does she not want to reach the box of cereal on the fridge?
What exactly is your insecurity? That she`ll eventually find someone taller and leave you for him? I`m 5'6" but I`m blissfully ignorant of height insecurity, I don`t know why. Even though I`ve been with every kind of woman, I have a knack for women who are muscular, and taller. Women have routinely turned me down for being shorter yet I can't seem to feel insecure about it. I think because women who keep harping on tall tall tall like a broken record all seem desperate for a husband to me, and that's not sexy. Women who want to fuck, will fuck a hung short man in a heartbeat on the DL. My "wife" of 3 years was 5'9" and her co-worker made a comment once. But then, her co-worker was fat and pathetic. Didn`t seem like she was getting any anyway. One of those bitter women who really really needs some dick, but is waiting for Prince Charming. I actually feel more comfortable and secure with women who are taller than me. In bed as well, I feel reassured by a strong woman that I can do whatever I want without the feeling that I`m going to hurt some dainty little thing. Maybe because I`m fairly dominant in bed, and like women who can match my dominance. I was never really much for the whole fragile princess thing. Socially, I couldn`t give a shit about introducing my partner to anyone or holding hands in public. Don`t really like PDA. I'm a laid back dude, and too lazy to take control in social situations. So my height fits my personality. I am the guy who stays within his own space and people come to, rather than the one who constantly proves himself. Like Prince. :biggrin: I'm not at all afraid of women leaving me since I actually like open relationships and love women who fuck lots and lots of men. Good luck. I second the advice about working out, though. Working out is the single best thing that's ever happened to me on any psychological or physical level. -------- Edit: You know what else I noticed? Women who are tall give less of a shit about height than shorter women. Unless they have that princessy personality and want a trophy husband like I mentioned above. Ew.
I'm gonna be blunt: Don't worry about it. It's not a real problem, but your insecurities are. The important thing is to enjoy each other. And strangers looking at you two? Pssh they're just jealous and are having trouble fathoming that you two are breaking all the rules. ^Think of it that way and take a little pride in it.
tall woman with short men does look kinda funny tbh, but the last laugh is with you if your taking her home and banging her.
Cindy B. and Betty Lee were both taller than me (not at the same time; sorry, guys). It did not bother Cindy (dark German good looks) and Betty Lee (blonde Southern gal) got used to it. I was okay with it, too. OP, you do not have a problem. Keep up the worry and you will. - JKHolman
go goth: get a trenchcoat, some eyeliner and a pair of these: then you'll be the same height and you'll be a badass goth guy. Chicks dig that. Start writing some poetry and nobody will notice your shoes have 3" platforms.
^ Kiss Army! Don't let it bother you. I have a friend that is taller than her husband too. It's not that big of a deal. It's only a problem if you let it be.
Old thread I think...oh well I'll add this to my post here. Well if she's too tall and you're too short, then their kids will be the perfect height. (lol I know full well genetics doesn't work this way this comment was posted in jest)
Well I hope you're real good at eating cause you're at just the right height for it Jk. Don't let your insecurities do it in man, just keep going strong
at 5'4", he had better get used to being shorter than his girlfriend. aren't something like 50% of women 5'4" or taller? eh, i'm all for taking care of your body and whatnot, but those super muscular short guys just look like the definition of height insecurity. did one shrink when the other one grew?
:drool5: Inmyunderwear, I am talking about not having both tall girls at the same time [which would be a fantasy come true for many guys].
