seriously? this all it takes?

Me hate texting.

 

You're being a bit presumptuous that she is shunning or thinking you are clingy. In this case I would not "test", but at the 8 hour delay, I think it is polite that it be acknowledged and not just dismissed. Likely I would have replied with "slow poke".

Texting takes on a life of it's own outside of in-person. For a while, it takes some time to figure out what kind of texting style each of you have. It easily could be that you aren't compatible in that way.

Be cool....but be aware. When you see her next, tell her "I am kind of lame at the texting thing" so she'll know delays have nothing to do with her.

 

When I was single I really hated this part of the game, text scrutiny is so effing lame!

 

I couldn't finish reading your post because your sig pic messed me up.

 

You're not that high on her priority list. So just forget her for now and do you. I wouldn't do anything extra. If she wants something from you, let her come after you.

 

It's a major holiday. Give it time, she may be too stressed/busy to reply right away.

 

You're being presumptuous, paranoid and hypocritical.

Didn't you say that you didn't see her text for 8 hours? Maybe she didn't see yours yet either.

This must be making you nervous, but you need to realize you are making yourself feel this way. You are scrutinizing yourself. You have no idea what she's thinking, what she's doing, you are creating these ideas in your brain and stressing yourself out.

Just relax and let go. You will find out when you need to find out what is going on. In the meantime don't make assumptions. Makes you look like an ass.

 

if i remember correctly, OP does not live in the US.

 

I have nothing useful to contribute, I just wanted to say that this is probably the third time today that I saw # instead of number.
I hope this doesn't become a thing.

 

I'll do my best to do that.

I think it was this too. @ the same time, I always respond to everyone's texts (even 8 hours later..), so I'm not sure if that makes me hypocritical.

'Till the next time my paranoia kicks in :daisy:

 

texting is shit.. you send one to someone you fancy and then spend all the time waiting for a reply, then ages writing another, deleting, editing.. I'm going back to calling.. at least it's in REAL TIME

 

I have to agree there. It is pretty annoying, but sometimes useful. Sometimes you just can't talk...I think it becomes a crutch for lots of people lots of times.

 

Texting is a tricky thing, it's a 50/50 thing for me. With some relationships/dating partners it works, and others it doesn't and I just don't use that method of communication with that person.

I do get peeved if I see that person respond promptly to other friends though, (exceptions: parents/guardians/siblings/blood relatives), and I don't get that same treatment.

 

your first paragraph rings true. there isn't a simple rule as to which means of communication work best. I've had 2 relationships only this year where in the first we called each other and had long conversations and in the second we sent long emails.. neither relationship lasted.. upon meeting the person and spending time with them in real life, I got bored of both.. they weren't the same as in my head..

So if at all possible it seems to me that we need to conduct our relationships "live" and face to face, whatever tech exists it can't replace this real human interaction..

 

Ah well, then never mind.

Also I missed part one of whatever is going on here, so I'm unaware of the backstory and this comment may not apply, but different people have different communication styles. One guy I dated was a texting maniac and we were in touch 24/7. Another texted rarely, and in fact would often reply with a phone call if I texted him. I hate talking on the phone, so I learned pretty quickly to only text him if I had something important to communicate.

 

Yes, but if she decides she hates you and a shitstorm begins it's better if it starts when your not nearby.

 

Do you feminines even have a general preference for contact anymore or is it just whatever is handy, like txt facebook (I dislike FB), email? Email is boring but when someone lives far away it's much easier on both sides. And how can a person be that clingy? It seems more stalker'ish than BF/GF'ish?

 

I would try to have relatively important conversations with my last GF over text and that did not work at all. Wayyy too much reading into the language, which is really hard without tone and gestures/facial expressions and such. To be fair though she never answered her phone (she was very secretive and vague in general about everything, which is one of a few reasons why I checked out).

Now I really only try to use texts functionally or for small things. Easier on my brain.

 

I've given up on trying to get a text communication going. I've seen the person in between and she talks/flirts in person, even initiating it, but then ignores a text. :/ I think i'm being scrutinized to hell and back or she's one of those women that thinks her feelings come first and doesn't even stop to think if she's being rude to the rest of the world. I plan to ignore her in person at this point. If she cares to find out why, she'll find out.

 

Does anyone ever care to remain friends with ex's if possible? Just curious, as I only have one myself and her leaving prevented her suicide from my destructive behavior. I haven't been able to even be near females anymore because of what I did even though it was caused by shitty environs' but most of you will likely say it's my fault for being in a school where every teacher makes you horny... I was very uncomfortable there and "students" (if they an be called that, more like delinquents) only encouraged such gross and horny behavior. And long story is not necessary, all that matters is that, the school cause my brain to split in 2 (metaphorically) and the half that I have done away with caused so much destruction to her... I almost killed myself then and there when I found her in the state I did, at least she didn't bleed out. I still fucking miss her though. I even tried leaving txt's apologizing and never received any responses, (her message is the same so I know she didn't change #). But still, a comment noting she was happy I made sure she didn't bleed out in a fucking bathroom might be nice. I miss you Z~