There was a misunderstanding and the result hurts so much. Are our charts compatible?

Hello,

I have been in a relationship with a Libra male for six months. It took me sometime to get used to him. At first I was scared because he told me that he loves me and was happy to show me to his friends and family, he asked my parents if we could live together and told our friends that he wants to pass his life with me. I did not have many relationships in my life and I felt that he was serious towards me so I unintentionally I created a shell to protect myself. With time I developed deep feelings for him and do care about him a lot.

In this past month, I reacted badly with him because I thought that he had a crush on our common friend. I was sure that it was what was happening and once did not open the door when he came. On the next day I invited him to a restaurant and excused myself but did not tell him the real reason because I was embarrassed. Two weeks ago on Saturday we went to her birthday party he was so excited and haven't given me any attention (these couple of weeks we barely see each other because I'm in mid-term exams and he has been working a lot). I was so angry that called him the next morning and told him he was disrespectful and hanged up.

He hasn't called me. During three days I took time to think and realized some things and one of them is that I wanted us to be together. On Thursday he came to my place and told me it was finished I explained to him that I have deep feelings for him and that it was a misunderstanding. He seemed sooo angry that he did not want to approach to me at all. When he left I cried so hard I thought my heart will stop beating.

This Sunday he came to pick me up from my parents house where I spent my weekend (which is 1.5 drive), my mom tried to tell him that we're a beautiful couple (many people have told us that)and that we can work it out but he was very cold with her. In the car I noticed that he lost weight and looked very angry. He started talking about the subject so I told him -That I know where I made mistakes and that I don't want to hurt you and want to have a future with you. And I'm trying to do everything I can to get you back and I don't know what to do now. And if you don't want to know anything about me then I understand and I will get up and continue my life. He was silent at one point he told me that he was at a dead end and did not know if there would be any path openings. So I said ok just don't hold me by a thread- For the rest of the ride we just talked about random stuff and laughed.

I feel like everything happened because of a misunderstanding and such a small reason. One thing that I don't understand is if he had made his mind to brake-up with me why would he be so tense, angry and not want to approach close to me.

Are we compatible or should I give up hope?

 

Give him space,give him time to miss you-He didn't tell you he loves you as a joke.

BUT-"We always hurt the ones we love".

Ok-in short,you told him he didn't act like you wanted-HE,in turn thought WTF have I done?

HE resents being spoken AT rather than TO,YOU now know how much he means to you.

Right. A text. OR an email. [NOT both!] Inviting for coffee. Start again.

Mistakes are something humans have perfected.
We're really GOOD at them.
But you love him.
He loves you.

Let the wound heal. You had a lovers tiff. It WILL heal-IF you don't 'pick' at it.


Be smiley,be happy,be in love-but be generous.

Now-go and be happy.

 

so basically, you flipped out on this guy for no real reason repeatedly to the point that he felt that he had to end it, and then instead of asking for relationship advice, you come asking if you should or should not give up on him based basically on what day of the year you were each born?

my guess is that it's time to move on from this one. if he's still willing to stay with you at this point, hold on and don't ever let go.

 

Lol ^

 

I am hurt and I guess desperate that is why I would go with charts or the fortune teller to know if he will be back. It finished so fast and we had many plans for Christmas and New Years it hurts!

 

Thank You Puggybear : )!!! Is there a mathematical equation on how long I should wait before letting him know that I want to see him?

 

(length of relationship + your age - his age / length of time you knew each other before dating - his maternal grandmother's age x your birth month + his penis length x pi) x 0 + N

N is a variable that differs between every person. your best bet at determining the value of N is to figure out your own N and hope it matches his.

 

Could it happen that I wait too long n' he looses interest in me (silly question I know) but I would like to know from a guy perspective. Because I am starting moving on with my life and don't want to burry my feelings for him.

 

'Undies,the girl is hurting.
You're a good bloke,you always have been,so just give her a chance mate.

Astride;
There is no 'magic formula' to this.
As I said,humans have perfected the art of 'Oops'.

So,as you two have a close history,you'll know why and how he's hurting.
You'll also know how to invite him for a coffee and soft words.
Just chatting of trivialities,that help him know we ALL [him included] make mistakes.
Soft and light words that heal,that bring your romance back to prominence.

But-there is NO mathematical astrological or planetary alignment solution.
'Undies is correct in what he says there.

When emotions enter,logic leaves.
So,either make your play using your heart and honesty,or let it go and learn from it.

And if you DO have to let it go-throw those charts away!

 

THANK YOU Puggybear from the bottom of my heart u made me smile when I woke up this morning and saw your reply : ).

I feel like he is giving me the silent treatment out of anger. He also needs to take time and realize what happened and to know if he wants me in his life.

I know he suffers so do I but he seems like a guy who can accumulate a lot without communicating and when it's to much he can't find balance and cracks where I will most of the time say if there is anything that is bothering me. This is our major difference.

I don't want to scare him off by contacting him too early coz when I gave him a hug last time he moved away as if he was scared to have feelings for me again : -l it confuses me. This type of situation has never happened in my life

 

Ah,"Parting is such sweet sorrow",hon.

Look,the difference between a pebble and a diamond is-nothing.
A polished pebble on an old bootlace can make a lovely necklace.
But-diamonds are valued because they are rare.

Ok;he isn't you,you don't think/act alike.
No;because opposites attract-ask any magnet.

So,be gentle,be the you he first said "I love you" to.
As we [humans]age,we do NOT 'mellow',as is often said.
We just come to terms with differences.

Only YOU know if you love him. Properly.

If you do,be his diamond.
If you think you may already have started to move on,as you mentioned-then don't look back.
It's when you look over your shoulder that you tend to trip.

But he didn't lose all that weight and get sullen because he DOESN'T care.
He's got 'The Huff'.
Ok hon-you're the healer-go heal this silly pain.

If you REALLY feel yourself moving on-then MOVE on.
But if he responds to your offer of coffee at the w/e...be the healer.

 

You're the best thanks a lot! I will be the smooth loving caring and independent me that he met I hope he won't throw me on the floor (reject me) like he did coz my little heart is too fragile to handle love pain. Sometime I wish everybody could find their soul mate without going through pain and being smashed to the point of loosing feelings

 

You're welcome,sweetheart.
Just be who/what he fell in love with.
Change for changes sake is just-change.
Change grown from development is-improvement.

Be you.

But do NOT put your faith/trust in those charts.
Has it ever occurred to you the people making them made a mistake-got it wrong?

[humans=mistakes-remember?]

Go be happy.

Ta-ta,Hon.

 

Hellow Puggybear : ),

How are you?

Wanted to ask your advice from a man perspective (wish I could have one sometimes).
Today has been 5 days and we haven't contacted each other. We were supposed to help our friends move today and stay at their place for the weekend. But since we are in a cold zone of a relationship he's the one helping them move. And will be back in town Sunday.

A friend suggested to write him a e-mail which I composed but haven't sent it. It is short, light with nothing of negative just saying stuff about our relationship and that I care about him. I never told him that I love him because I was scared but I thought that I would empty my heart for my own good and write it.

If you loved someone you dated and would have exploded and cut the relationship because you accumulated some stuff you didn't communicate, would that letter turn you off?

I don't want to be at his mercy (although if I knew it would work for sure I would have done it) but just to let him know how I perceived our relationship in a very short, light and sweet letter. Also when we last saw each other he said he was at a dead end and didn't know if there would be any path openings I told him that I understand and that I will be able to put myself together and continue my life and also told him that we could stay friends (which I didn't mean ANY of that).

Do you think I should send him that letter today or attach my hands and wait?

Thank you for your precious time and advice : )

 

alright, first i dont think horoscopes have anything to do w/ this really.

AND. what is your sign? you never said that lol
i personally AM i libra male. but like i said, dont know if that means anything anywayz really.

soooo here's what he saw (my opinion, from a guy'z perspective.)

so, the day you dont answer the door. he's thinking (wtf is w/ her!! why is she being such a bitch, maybe she doesnt like me anymore, or i pissed her off real bad somehow. guess i should leave her alone. perhaps she's thinking about breaking up w/ me i dont know)

the day you excuse yourself from the table, probly made him think ^^up there MOST DEFINATELY is happening.

and also the reason he seemed so pissed at you is because you did not answer the door, (kinda rude), and excused yourself from eating and left (also he probly found that rude). so you pissed him off, i'd say. maybe he felt like he didnt do anything wrong, and screw it if she's going to act like that then it just isnt meant to be.

show him you didnt mean it. and let him know something (this is coming from a guy here) THAT YOU AREN'T CRAZY!! all guyz run from a crazy lady. hopefully he doesnt think that

 

. she is carrying 10 years of sorrow for their 6 months together

maybe in your eyes....why does this have anything to do with the horror scope lady?


Assride-the second you said you would believe a fortune teller i lost all sympathy for you...grow the fuck up...fortune tellers are scammers and 99% of the world knows it

if your boyfriend finds out you you believe in astrology and fortune tellers [and puggybear] to the point that you would base a life changing decision on their word he will never speak to you again no matter what happens

 

i just want to be myself and write him a sweet letter but I know he is angry I don't want to play the game of waiting for him to decide

 

i understand. hey did you read my advice?

hmm,, ill think of something else. and yeah fortune tellers are scammers. dont go to a fortune teller lol

 

OK I am ready to throw myself from the cliff I will write him. I know he loves me but I think I turned him off. I am Desperaaate haha I feel stupid but this time it comes from the heart

 

Do you know what.. today, actually about 3 hours ago, i wrote a letter to the guy im supposed to be with, went and posted it to his house. Kind of my letter of closure, i too am sat in a position where i am waiting, and it seems for nothing.. Ive done my bit now, wrote everything i needed into a letter and sent it to him, i have no idea if he will read it, or reply, but i did it. Its given me closure, i can say 'Ive tried'.

Do it. Write it all to him. Send it to his house. It helps because it gets it off your chest, and its more personal that a text or email. If you dont want to wait, you dont have to, pop the letter through his letterbox and walk away knowing you tried. Anything more is a bonus