There was a misunderstanding and the result hurts so much. Are our charts compatible?

^wish i could find a chick like you guyz oh well, all my ex's were evil somehow^

 

MamaPeace you are strong and truthful to yourself. Wish you only the best. : )

 

My grandpa always said that everything happens for the best and that know one stays alone. Enjoy life and she will come

 

Well,despite Rolly having his pop I stand by my words,astride.

If you don't swing the bat you won't hit the ball.

So-if you want him,make your move to sort it out.
Post your letter-but why not just turn up?
If the fire still has heat,a little kindling will bring forth the flames,
If the fire is cold ash-move on.
Hurt for a bit,cry for a bit,get it out of your system-move on.

But yes,a pebble and a diamond have little in common.
However either make great necklaces when cared for.
[ask any 60's hippy]
Just,STOP this 'charts' stuff.



[ok Rolly-jump in and take the piss. Your turn mate]

 

Hehe I sent it today and don't regret it. I'm getting tired of crying, not sleeping and loosing weight so now if he wants the relationship to work he has all the tools in his box. He loved me very much which I did not notice until people began telling me that. I wish that he still has feelings for me and will come to see me this weekend and give me a hug I miss him holding me. I am so naive... but am not ashamed of it.
THANK U!

 

See-if you read that again,to yourself,slowly-you'll see you've done the 'It's up to him now" thing. HIS tools,HIS box,if HE wants it to work....

Hon-I was of the impression YOU wanted it to work.
In which case get OFF that computer and get to where he is-and lay your heart on the line.
Don't tell us how you feel-tell HIM.
An email or letter he may put to one side;not open.
YOU,there,in front of him,admitting you were wrong,miss him,would wrestle lions to make things right-THAT is showing love,and that he cannot ignore..

You may not get the fairytale answer you want.......but then again,you just might.
You broke it-you repair it...and this time value it properly.

 

He is in another city 3 hours away from here don't know where it is exactly. We planned to help our friends move today and stay there for the weekend.
The thing is that I am scared to talk to him face to face. I talked to him last weekend but he was in his bubble nothing could get through him he was scared to hug me. I've told him how I felt but I think he needed space to think.

 

I tried it all. Talk to him face to face, on the phone, our mutual friend talked to him we had 5 days no contact and wrote him a letter which I find is sweet and light. I don't know what to do now except wait and try as hard as I can to move on with my feelings toward him.
It is hard but there is choice right?

 

Angel-you said the most important sentence of the last two pages,in your post #27.

He was scared to hold you.
Not 'unwilling'.
Not 'uninterested'.
Not 'offhand'.
Not anything,other than scared.
Now-why do you think that was?
WHO did he say "I love you" to?
Who broke his heart?
Who made him feel ridiculous and small?

And you know what?
The irony is that if you hardly knew him you'd have been in 'best behaviour' mode and made him feel a giant and special!
I said before "We always hurt the ones we love".

Now-he's 3 hours away,NOT 3 continents away.
With Google Earth,zip-codes,emails,texts,mobile phones,ipads blah blah-if you don't want to spent the next 60/70 years remembering with regret,you can be there by tomorrow afternoon-just to say."C'mon,I'll buy you a burger".

Ok,you're next argument will be along the lines of
A/cost
B/location
C/I'm a girl

Right.
Now imagine your child was in danger-do NOT tell me you wouldn't get there 10 minutes before you left!

Well,it's your choice,your heart,your man,your lost love..
But if you come up with an excuse/reason not to make the effort,please tell my mate Rolly he was right.

 

I think I'm in luv with u! : D u put a smile on my face. are u some kind of on angel or Dr. Phil. I don't have a car : ( I live in the city and never really had a need for one. I don't know what to do.

I don't know what to do he does not respond to me. I know he will hopefully but he needs to make his decision at least give me a sign

 

I said scared because I felt like he was scared to hug me and moved back because he was scared to get attached to me .

 

Car?
Hmm.
Neighbours,friends,workmates,day-hire centres,rollerblades,bicycle,skateboard,hitch,bus,train,ask at a truckstop for a lift,borrow a moped,jog,last resort,walk it!

Or,phone-call to local radio stn...need a lift,heart breaking,please help.

I'd find a way,even if I had to run all the way,I'd find a way.

But I'm VERY stubborn and I do NOT 'do' giving in.
You quit-you lose.
You DON'T quit-you might still lose....but BOY do you shorten the odds.

[However,you're right. I AM adorable.....from a distance,in the dark,when it's foggy]

 

LOL dark knight u are

 

you are the second english person to call me rolly

where is that coming from...it makes no sense...rolly is a short form of rolando....i am rollin,rolling,or rollingalonghttp://www.hipforums.com/newforums/images/newsmilies/3/set12_b/mickey.gif


and good luck op....dont be so clingy next time

i'll leave you in puggys hands

 

I've never been clingy just wanted to let him know that I care for him although I don't always show it. We'll see where it gets I think from this point now there is nothing I can do.

 

that didnt work so well for you...whatever you call it

 

Hello MamaPeace!
How are you doing? Did u get a reply from him?

 

I have been thinking about it everyday and I found a closure for myself. He obviously loved me but not enough to work out our relationship. He dropped and ran away and broke my little heart but it will get better with crazy glue I believe that when 2 people want their relationship to work they will talk about it and not RUN AWAY and hurt. Let me know if you agree??

we last talked a little over a week ago and I wrote him a little sweet email 4 days ago and no response. It hurts when someone wants to get into your world and does and this person does not take responsibility to go out of it with respect.
We never had any fights or anything he ran away after a little problem instead of talking about it. And it is such a shame coz he was running everywhere and telling everyone how he wants to pass his life with me.
I believe when it starts too fast it finishes fast!

 

He did, today actually..its all a bit weird right now and im still unsure on whats happening!

I am glad you found closure for yourself, some people are scared of commitment, i dont blame them because it can be hard. Like puggy said, theres a difference between feeling scared and being uninterested in it, but a line needs to be drawn somewhere so you know the difference. At the moment I dont, and I know what you are going through, the worst part is not knowing..but if you can give yourself closure and move on then thats the healthiest way to deal with it, otherwise youll end up torturing yourself over it and that can open a whole new book of problems for you.. the whole feeling of 'wanting what you cant/used to have' is dangerous.

take a bit of time out for yourself and youll eventually learn to move forwards in your life and keep on. Just dont end up blaming yourself.. (virtual hug)

 

Thanks : ) I am really happy that he responded. Wish you guys the best.
How long did you not contacted each other?