Long Distance Romance Stopped Responding...

So i've known of this guy online for about 4 years...not "talking" but just innocent flirtation, well we got to meet this past summer at Deer Creek and it was like "Yowza!" It was instant chemical attraction. He came to see me from 331mi's away in October for SCI, on the 3rd day i gave it up...it was spectacular. Since then, i make it a point to talk to him on the phone at least once a week for about an hour or so. A few weeks ago, I took a greyhound to see him, spend some time with him and go see Hornsby. Once again it was spectacular!!

So i made it a point to send him a present, which i know he likes for his birthday a few daze ago. He said he just got up, couldn't talk right now and told me to call him Late Late Late that night. I ended up falling asleep waiting to call him. The next day i knew i would be up late to talk to him, but i accidently left my cell at home on the charger...and of course, he called. So i waited to call him late last night and he didn't answer, so i left him a voicemail. I figured he was busy at work or something. So later last night i texted him and asked him if he was up. Still no response. I woke up this morning and got brave and i knew he'd still be asleep but i went ahead and told him i needed him and i wasn't gonna wait another 24 hours just to hear his voice. And i told him i couldn't stop thinking about him and if i didn't tell him this i would explode and he's torturing me.

So i pretty much put my heart out there on the line, i know he's awake, but he still hasn't responded to me.

Am i just freaking? I seriously can't stand to know i'm so far away from him. He is my happy place. And i need to know if he feels the same. I'm geting real depressed real quick....any advice?

 

yeah, you're freaking out a little bit... it's just been a couple days, that you've been playing phone tag, right? I seriously doubt he's avoiding you... if you guys have been talking for so long and met each other and everything, i'm sure he likes you at least as much as you like him... but don't start freaking out and scare him away b/c he doesn't answer his phone a couple times... *hug* love is tough.. especially long-distance love b/c you can't be there to see him all the time. you just have to rely on internet and phone... that being said... chill out i'm sure you'll get to talk to him soon enough.

have you guys declared your relationship exclusive and official and all that, or is it still just flirtation and friendship?

 

give it some more time, he cant be seriously hurt if you've explained to him what accidently happened. Maybe something big happened there, like the death of a relative or something else he's gotta take care off, who knows.

 

you're not freaking. he's acting weird.

 

He might be acting weird. But he has to understand i'm not attached to my phone every single second of every single day. And i do seem to miss a lot of his calls....but last night and today i have been.

At the same time i feel like i'm being selfish. I never should've put it all out there, huh?

 

Nothing wrong with loving someone. What if he died tomorrow (knock on wood)- wouldn't you be glad you told him?

 

Oh Jeebus! Don't make me tell him more than i've already spilled without a reply back. That would just make me look needy and clingy.

I seriously think i want to keep him, if he'll have me.

 

You guys are having a sexual relationship and you don't feel open enough with him to discuss things like this?

 

I'm treading it lightly and taking it slow, since i'm not yet ready to make the decision to move closer to him. He also has a son from his previous marraige he also needs to remain close to. Eventually, yes, moving is a possibility if this relationship continues. But i'm not the kind thats going to drop everything for a man.

In the beginning, yes this was a sexual "we're going to shows together"companionship/friendship/relationship. We enjoy each others company obviously, or this wouldn't be happening. I'm just now getting to the point to where we should clarify our/my feelings about us.

Waiting to see how he responds to my feelings is the hardest part.

 

How did it go over the holidays? Did you hear from him?