so... im a straight male. met this chick a while back, and we started kickin it off. a little rough at first, but we finally made it official we were dating and everything was perfect for a week. she breaks up with me telling me she cant be with me and wouldnt tell me why, then i made her tell me, and it was cuz shes a transgender or whatever. so a couple days later, i decided that i really liked this girl, and wanted to be with her. before her, i only had one other girlfriend that i just broke up with. i hadnt been singe a month. i was with her for 6 years, since i was a sophomore in high school. 6 years later, we break up, and i meet this new chick, nikkie. i kinda wanted to be single for once.. ya know? i didnt meet any other girls or anything. ive only been with 2 people now. the 6 year girl, and this one now. but now, i guess im kinda wondering again.. i really really like this girl, but the fact shes not fully a she is starting to bother me alot... im the kind of guy that cant do anythign with her junk. i know alot of people are into that, but im not. and that makes it difficult. sometimes we make out and stuff, and i can feel it and its almost a turn off. the fact i may never see her naked, i know isnt much a big thing, but still, just knowing that its cuz of that bothers me. my ex was pretty over weight so that was the same problem but obviously a little different. so im wanting this to work. its like her life goal is to please me in any way, not just sexually. like.. she was kinda slutty-ish before we met, one time we went downtown together and started grabbing this guys junk, IN THE CLUB... i still think about that and how nasty it was and while i was right there... but shes completely changed, and for ME. she use to be real impatient and moody... not anymore. she wants to do whatever i wanna do, even if she doesnt like it. of course, i dont take advantage or anything, but im just saying i dont think theres many people like that, and im really happy with her. but my mind still wonders. i see girls at work, or in town, and i just get depressed, knowing ill never be with someone like that. its depressing and i dont know if i can take it. it wasnt that big of a problem but its getting worse. i wanna know how to get around it. i wanna know how not to let my mind go to those places. to see girls and just be "eh whatever".. ill NEVER cheat, so im not saying theres that temptation. i just dont know how to deal with this, and im hoping someone here can give some advice, or something. maybe someone else has dated someone straight and had some of the same problems and hopefully got through it.. i dunno im really desperate cuz its been bother me alot lately...
lol dating a girl, happens to be transgender, start datina, really like each other, never been single, getting second thoughts though i still like this chick alot, dont know what to do
If her having a penis bothers you, it won't work. Has she ever asked you to do anything to it? Discuss it with her, maybe she doesn't want you to do anything to it, you never know until you ask. But, remember that she has feelings,too, so don't continue to lead her on. Be upfront and real about things. You say you really like her...but. There is no but, either you really like her or you don't.
Se doesn't want me to do anything with it. She hates it being there. Like she doesn't want anything to do with it. We talk about just about everything. I even brought this up with her, and She didn't know what to say. She said she wishes she could help but she's glad I talked to her about it and are still willing try to make it work... Communication is my weakest weakness. So it was a huge deal that I could talk to her about it. But since she said she doesn't know how to help, that's why I'm here...
That is a tough one. Is she planning on completing the transition or wanting to keep it? If she lost it, would you want her then? No easy answers here, hopefully someone who may have had the same experience has something better to say to you on this. All I can really say is if you have have good communication with her and you are both open and honest with one another and not selfish, you will find your answer, and hopefully you both can accept it. Also, I noticed how you kept referring to her penis as "it". Don't put too much pressure on yourself, relax and just try to enjoy what you do have while you figure it out. I remember my first time with a transsexual, I was as scared as I've ever been in my whole life. lol
Well she hasn't even started on anything. Which I think is crazy cuz shes so... Passable? I dunno if that's ok ti say or not... That's all I know it as... But he is talking about hormones if we move in together cux well be saving a crap ton of money and she could affor it then... But that's still not for a while.
You are giving her mixed signals. You say you make out. Does that mean you kiss her? You have issues with her penis, but you're thinking of moving in together? You gotta slow down a bit before someone gets hurt. The bottom line is she does have a penis, and she probably likes to cum, also. When you care for someone, you are naturally going to try to help her eventually or feel like a jerk. Are you prepared for that? Or the possibility that she may want to have her penis stimulated by something than her own hand or a toy? A cool, friend with benefits is one thing, but to move in and play house? You're diving in deep waters, and you don't sound mentally prepared to do that. Have you admitted to yourself that there is a high chance that you are bisexual? Really analyze yourself and try to play things out in your mind before you make such a leap. Living with her full time opens a whole new can of worms, and you have to be ready for all that comes with it, or your life will possibly become a nightmare.
Well ok. We have sex. She doesn't fully take her clothes off. She's aware I'm not comfortable with it, and like i said she isn't comfortable with it either... We've talked alot about moving in. Break up procedures and all that just in case. I mean we practically live together already. I know we have our back up places in case we get in arguments, but even then we never do. She wants this to work way more than I do. So I'm not worried about her gettin off. We've also talked about that and shes fine with it. Like I said we have sex so she's pleased enough with that. She's the happiest she's ever been. She constantly tells me how happy she is with me, and normally I don't believe it, but I can really see it with her. And I'm alot happier than I was with my ex. I just don't know if I can e happier and that's the problem I guess
