Hi I am new to this forum. I came across it as i was searching for answers to whats been an ongoing problem my whole life. I read a thread by Cap&Gown which was very similar to my experience. Now, i would like to share my story, and see what you guys think -i am 32 years old -at some point when i was a child, i developed a shyness to being barefoot in front of others, even my family - the youngest memory i have of this was when i was 6. I dressed into my pj's, barefoot and all, and at this point i was downstairs, with my family, (i guess i didnt mind being barefoot infront of them at this point), and some guests came over. I felt vulnerable, all i wanted to do was cover my feet -as i grew older, i stopped being barefoot infront of anyone -then at some point, i think about 12years old plus, i realised i had a liking for female feet -to this day i have never been barefoot infront of anyone else, except my wife, but thats when we go sleep, and of course when me and her have been on holiday etc -i like to think my barefoot shyness has decreased, as when i go out with the lads and stay in a hotel, i wont rush to put my socks back on like i used to about 10 years ago, when we wake up the next day. but i think its because they casually sit around barefoot when they wake up too until they shower etc. -but i will never be barefoot in my own home, incase someone may come over -my wife doesnt know about this, or my foot fetish -im pretty sure the shyness came first, then the fetish -perhaps my mind has linked barefeet as an erotic thing -over the last year, i purchased flip flops. in secret, i would go out in them to somewhere public, the thrill of people seeing my barefeet at first was amazing, i didnt feel like anyone really cared, it was apart of their norm -but then i felt this became "cheap thrills" and wasnt enough, so i stopped -i dont go gym or go swimming, or have any real reason to be barefoot -im in the UK, where its usually cold, even in summer -sometimes all i can think about is feet, at first it was sucking toes, licking, etc, more recently i have enjoyed watching porn where its the girl that sucks the guys toes etc -if i see a good looking girls feet in real life, i have to go home and wank off -as i said, my wife doesnt know about my fetish either, she enjoys foot massages but i cant really do things like the licking and sucking without drawing attention to it -i have a 1 year old child, i hope they dont end up like me -it was my birthday last week, i decided to push the envelope, i booked a foot massage secretly. i was so excited by the idea of being barefoot in front of a stranger, and have her touching my feet -i was worried id get a woody, i did get a semi, but after afew minutes, it was like, is this all, ive built this up in my mind so much, it was an anticlimax. tbh i dont know what i expected to achieve from it. i dont feel cured. -my wife never touches my feet, she hates feet this is where i am now. sometimes, when im really excited sexually, ill walk barefoot around the garden etc, but after a wank it all goes away. i dont know which way to go from here. i was even considering going to a brothel and paying someone to 1) suck my toes 2) let me suck hers i thought if i get it out my system i can move on, but then again, i have sucked my wifes toes, and even that felt like, hmm not as good as i imagined...plus im loyal to my wife and i wouldnt really ever go to a brothel ......he says
Thanks for sharing all this, Gibbo. I too have battled foot shyness and also have a massive foot fetish. It's amazing, many of your thoughts and experiences are very similar to mine. WOW! The only time I was barefoot at home was when no other members of my family were around, otherwise it was always shoes and socks. I remember buying my first pair of flip flops long before they were considered acceptable footwear for guys. Likewise, it was a cheap thrill to be seen in with flops, especially by a woman. My wife knows about my foot fetish and accepts it and will gladly let me massage her feet for her, Bless her! She does does not hate feet. Speaking of a massage, I recently had a foot massage done by this asain woman. I adore having my feet touched by a strange woman. I find this very erotic!! With my foot shyness, that's a thing of the past, as I am totally comfortable being barefoot in front of strangers, even everyone else are wearing shoes. I pretty much wear flip flops all year long. In all honesty, there is nothing wrong or shameful about your thoughts. You should embrace your fetish. It's all good! I accept this as a very big part of me, as I never hurt anyone or ever intend on doing so. There is no cure for this, as there is no need for one as long as it does not interfere with your relationships or other areas of your personal life. I will go to my gave with this, that's for sure.
no such thing as right or wrong, no need for shame or worrying. just uncommon tastes. you need to find a space for satisfying your needs. anyway please consider that the love and sex forums is here for this kinda topics... the barefoot forum is not about the fetish side of the thing , just the lifestyle.
You're in good company gibbo, many of my male friends,gay and straight, also have sometimes uncontrollable foot fetishes. I'm quite candid about mine and even after all these years the horny sensation of going out barefoot is still there, regardless of how I'm swinging at the time, even though I do it regularly. More to the point I've had comments from blokes like 'you don't turn me on but your fucking feet do'! You've obviously got a hang up somewhere gibbo, I hope I can help you overcome it. I see you're the same age as me and married with a kid and have your lads get togethers so you're not some sad mummys boy still living at home. First things first,start barefooting at home it's as normal as it gets and take any comments in your stride. My partner who has feet to kill is quite conventional footwise when she's out but her feet are always naked at home or if they're not it usually means she's pissed off with me! As for wearing flip-flops it's become quite normal for men over the last few years and if it arouses you then it's a no-brainer. In fact I'd say men in flip-flops is now on a par with women if my observations are anything to go by, and there's a dad on the school run who still wears them this time of year. We got chatting recently and he too falls into the foot fetish category, he said barefooting outdoors would really give him the horn but then fell into the usual cop out of too much dog shit, chewing gum and broken glass on pavements. As for foot massages I get horny just thinking about the ones I had in Asia, I also have them regularly here too along with reflexology and all those other lovely foot indulgences. You should do the same if you're not already and I'm sure you'll get an easier ride from Mrs Gibbo than if you visited that brothel you mentioned to satisfy your foot fetish...
Thank you for the replies so far. apologies if you feel this thread is in the wrong section. to be honest i dont really understand how their can be a topic under just Barefeet lifestyle, as it is such a diverse area, with people that: 1) go out their way to be barefoot as much as possible 2) people that are natually barefoot, at home, at others houses, ie. where is it socially acceptable 3) people that just hate feet completely and are never barefoot 4) people who are shy to be barefoot 5) people who are shy to be barefoot + have a foot fetish 6) people who are naturally barefoot + have a foot fetish anyways.....continuing what i was saying....i feel i classify as group 5. If i didnt have this foot shyness start, and i was barefoot naturally in socially acceptable places, i dont think i would have accrued the fetish. I could be wrong, i could have somehow associated feet as sexual which led to me wanting to hide my feet, e.g it was like my penis showing, you just dont do it. im hoping to find others like me, as i feel that yes, alot of people do try to help and give their views, but even amoungst us FEET people, we are all still so divided. I wish i could be like most and just not even think about feet or being barefoot. If you watch Dexter, you'll know what i mean when i say I feel like i have this Dark Passenger within me, and i fake emotions to fit in, look normal. I have no desire to be a barefooter, however I do get sexually excited when girls see me barefoot. This is not what barefooters aim for. Tbh i didnt write this to talk about my fetish in particular, or kinky things i want to do, i wrote this to get it off my chest, to know that theres others like me, and to know how they have dealt with it... 32 years of age and think about feet everyday? cannot be good. I have already mentioned i went to the foot massage, which, as excited and exhilerating as ive felt all week, was an anti climax. after the massage, i had to go to a shopping center, i wore my flip flops (in the UK rain). I really wanted to make a day of it. my feet got wet, i loved the feel, i wanted people to stare, but i didnt feel anyone looked or cared. then i went home, i walked in the garden barefoot, in mud, grass. i still didnt feel my need was fulfilled. i did one other activity today. i visited a mosque. i have never been before, but i knew it was a place i could go and be barefoot without arousing suspicion.i did this, and i know its wrong to go to a place of worship for what really may be considered personal desires, but i could think of nothing else. the place was empty, only literally about 3 people around. No one in the main hall. I knew i wouldnt see anyone i knew due to the time. I walked in, took off my shoes (i already took my socks off in the car) and just walked around the building. i even went to the toilet barefoot, which oddly, was exhilerating. it was the one place (apart from a beach i guess) i felt that it was completely ok to be barefoot, i sat down in the empty prayer hall. I had no intention to prey, and i do feel bad for this, but in a way i was asking for some kind of help right? anyways....i cant keep going to a temple in the day time, i have a work normally. It felt freeing. i felt accepted you might say, and at some points, i forgot i was barefoot, i felt as comfortable as i would in socks. but then i went home, and thought, what if there were some good looking girls there? (as bare in mind there was NO one there), would i have felt sexually excited? would i be trying to stare at their feet? would i be paranoid of seeing someone i know? if you know where im coming from, to be seen barefoot would be a big noticable thing, helll to be seen in a templet would be even more. people are so used to NOT SEEING MY FEET that it would be seen as well out the norm immediately. This is the problem, what I have allowed the norm for me to become, i know they say gradually change that, but i cant sit around at home barefoot incase people may come over, just so they can see me barefoot, plus i could never be comfortable barefoot infront of my immediate family. i may be able to pull it off infront of my mrs family, but not my own blood. appreciate the replies guys and especially girls. I dont know why i am so fixated with girls seeing my feet, my mind must have got haywired at some point.
Huh, having read lots of posts you could have fooled me. And for an ardent anti fascist, you certainly do sound very authoritarian about what you think proper here.
don't get me wrong. its cool for me discussing here about the fetish side if it's ok for everyone else but maybe some other one here or the moderator could object . relax. oh, btw respecting rules here is about respecting other people which is the exact dead opposite of fascism. think about this.
Wait okay so what you're saying is that you really want people to see you barefoot but you don't actually want people to see you barefoot because you get weirded out. It's not actually such a big deal if you want to try being barefoot in front of your friends or whatever then just go for it. Just wake up one morning and forget to put anything on your feet. They wouldn't judge you for not wearing shoes; everyone's barefoot at some point in their lives. And if they do judge barefoot people then they're the ones who are missing out. And about getting uncomfortable about it- I used to be this way. But I kind of just forced myself to leave my shoes/socks off more and more often and now it seems silly that I was ever scared of being barefoot. If it helps you can make it so that you have no way of giving in. The first time I was out barefoot with someone I knew I biked to a grocery store my friend worked at without my shoes and then when I got there I realized that I had no choice but to go in barefoot so I did. He commented maybe once and that was it. People honestly don't care as much as you think they would. Imagine what you'd think if your friend suddenly showed up barefoot. Would you judge him/her? OH oh oh or you can get a pair of socks and then cut the end off and be like oh I have a hole in my toe. And then every week you make the hole a bit bigger and just tell people they're special toe socks or something. And then you keep going until you're left with an awesome sock anklet that looks super cool too! Also you might be slightly more okay with being barefoot.
OH oh oh or you can get a pair of socks and then cut the end off and be like oh I have a hole in my toe. And then every week you make the hole a bit bigger and just tell people they're special toe socks or something. And then you keep going until you're left with an awesome sock anklet that looks super cool too! Also you might be slightly more okay with being barefoot.
