Internet friends~

Just added a lady to my friend list - hoping things go well.

 

hi :sunny:

 

Well, Malia is my bestest interwebz buddy, but I've never met her in person. I hope to rectify that one day. However, two very special old forumers are planning on attending my wedding in the summer and I'm pretty stoked about that.

 

A few of the internet sites I am on are all about personal/local connections. So I have met some people through those sites with meetups and stuff. I have also met quite a few hipforumers over the years. A couple(or more) of those people have been long-term friends, best friends in my life...and I don't say that lightly since I'm more of a few really good friends type of person, than a bunch of not so good associates kind of person.

In general I've met so many people from the internet I have trouble remembering that that is how many of the relationships started. I was also a part of a myspace local group in CA a few years ago and still communicate regularly with at least two of those people.

I've had some great experiences meeting people from the internet. Not so much on the bad...I don't really remember any bad experiences. I think I am pretty smart and don't meet people I shouldn't meet. This year I've been less cautious than usual(meeting 4 people from the internet), but at the same time I'm not as into the idea of meeting people from the internet unless I've known them for some time, or if it is a well organized group meeting.

I've also gotten lots of jobs through the internet(mostly craigslist) and many times that has gone so well the people I've worked for became my friends...some of my best friends, in fact.

 

I've met tons of people online. Met a few in real life, had good times and then I just stopped caring. The net became my life so to speak, I'd waste more time online chatting than I would speaking to real people. Then I grew out of it. I barely speak to anyone anymore or use msn. All my mates must have deleted me long ago lol. I do miss talking to a few people though.

 

Over time, I've met a few people via the internet and counted em as friends.

I've even had an offline friend become an "internet friend", as he lost the ability to speak. Strangely I learned lots about him that way, that I suspect I might never have found out.

When I was an HF regular (years ago!), I think there was a real community feel for a while, as it was such different people as regulars, who brought different things, but got on. However, that group's feel didn't continue imo and we all moved onto other stuff.

Sadly, I've also counted some people online as friends, talked about meeting them, but then realised I wouldnt so much as urinate on them if they were on fire. Some "net people" can be seriously fucked up.

But overall, its more good than bad people.

 

I agree with that. Part of the reason I met so many HFers is because there was more of a community feel and it felt safe. Like a lot of people had met and you could ask other people about those people and meeting people just felt more secure. A lot of people had real life relationships.

It was like you pretty much knew what you were getting when you met someone back then.

There aren't many places on the internet that have probably ever been able to have that kind of weight to it.

 

I think the internet can be fantastic for crossing paths with people you'd never do so otherwise. But it also attracts the lowest of the low - thieves, sickos, and general pondlife ( thats probably being unkind to pondlife). The sort many of us would enjoy beating up in RL.

I think all internet places above a certain size will attract this, HF included. The sad part is that slimeballs can create their own "validity" online.Infact appearing to have a good image, despite the truth being totally the opposite. Sometimes I've had a mesage saying "So and so's a really good person". I write back and say "are you having a bloody laugh?"

Having said all that, I'm more concerned about the good that I see. It was nice to pop back here and newly find some genuinely warm, sincere and cool people.Who would be a real pleasure to spend time with.

 

All of my romantic relationships have been through online. My first real relationship was someone I met on okcupid and it lasted about 4 years. Then I was in a long distance relationship with someone I met on myspace. lol..I would constantly fly across the country to go see him. It ended up not working. Then I was back on okcupid and ended up marrying a guy I met there. The love of my life.
I've met tons of people online. Though I've been slowing down a bit with that these days. I'm socially awkward so meeting online seems to work best for me. I've also met a couple of people who have just become good friends.

 

I've never fancied the idea of online dating. 1stly it seems really cold and clinical to me.
2ndly, I sort of think "whats wrong with people's lives if they need to use search engines to find compatible people". Which, ok is maybe me being unnecessarily cynical.

Maybe I'm some sort of "romantic in denial". ie I secretly expect all my relats to spark with a chance conversation in a bookstore or something. Which unfortunately isn't possible.

As I am currently on a life ban from Waterstones for inappropriate conduct ... : (

only joking.









The ban's actually WH Smith )

 

Odon I hope you mean me- :toetap05:

That is awesome Kinky Ramona what a buzz that will be! Lots of lovelies coming together..

Honey that is very cool sounds like you have used the web for its full potential..

Irminsul you go from extremes, maybe balance it out if you are missing people. Although life is like that sometimes it just goes in ebbs and flows. I use it heaps more when I am recovering from injuries and now I want to get healthier I know I will have to carry on chilling out my social life to an extent and shall be online a bit more. Once I get wheels again I shall be here less and venturing more. Till then I find the internet is a perfect place to heal and take time out whist interacting with some amazing souls.

IamnotaMan mwhaaa... I have thought of online dating when friends have been successful although not brave enough to try it.. I do wonder what I would write about myself maybe I should start a thread on the topic. I guess for me it has a weird stigma still attached to it. I did meet a friend of a friend on a protest meet up a few months ago (he contacted me via facebook) and we had a brief happening but I didnt go to meet him as such it was for the tress(honest) doesn't count does it? :angel:

I guess you can express yourself better online without feeling any pressure maybe? then again meeting up with someone with the intention of getting together maybe might be a bit heavy/weird...I am not sure my nerves could handle it. Much better to meet on a friendship level and see what develops..

I am impressed all of them RainyDayHype wow! we need tips :2thumbsup: I feel I maybe more socially awkward meeting someone that way if that makes sense?

 

No. A 19 year old hippy chic.

Not really, yes, you

 

hahaha I hope she has a sports car !

 

i've met some very wonderful people in real life i first met on line. most of these have been furrys, though at least one was a live steamer. no particular stories to tell, although i'm now renting a room in the house of someone i met as a member of a group i first met on line.

 

I've met people offline that I chatted with on the web...no one form the forum, though.

Yes, my Ramona, my bestest interweb besticle! I'm hoping we can meet someday when I finally decide to travel the country

And I'm hoping to meet zengizmo soon, too...he lives 45 min from me, so we could easily get together sometime! *hint hint*

 

Kind of -

 

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I'm not even sure what to write here, I've been meeting people since I was 18 and I am 33 now. I have had so many varied experiences but never anything i would consider dangerous. It was all a learning experience and it's just a different method to meet people. Friends, dating, girl friends, social groups, sometimes people i met as friends that became more. Sometimes people as met as more than ended up just being friends or ended up being a GF. there is no one rule and it's always good to keep all options in one's life open The one thing I have found it is it a lot more difficult to meet people and trying to meet people through "dating" site seems very contrived and awkward and has not worked well for me at all. Just my two cents I could write a short story

 

what did my post really kill the thread? come on people post something.

 

Hey doc shame we never met!

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