Hello, I'm 18 and I'm female and I have never been in a relationship. Many boys asked me out but I was never attracted to any of them. When I was 11 I was attracted to a woman (she was 25). I admired her beauty and I loved her voice. I was thinking about her everyday for a long time. Later I somehow found out that I am very attracted to feminine boys/men as for example Bill (Tokio Hotel), Andrej Pejic, Yami Maya and so on... The strange thing is that I'm not attracted to many people. And if I'm attracted to someone, it is never a stereotypical man or woman. What do you think I am? Bisexual? I am really confused and I was thinking about that for years.
I think you are finding your way, why pidgeon hole what you may or may not be until you know...it will become apparent to you.
Society puts pressure on people to have labels but sometimes people just don't fit into just one category. So then what is the point of the labels in the first place!
We don't all fit a stereotype ... so it's just as well that there are some people like you, whose attractions are non-stereotypical. You shouldn't try to define yourself according to a lable - especially if there isn't any label you know of that fits. To try to force yourself into a label that isn't actually right would be kinda like the tail wagging the dog. Be the person you are. Follow your emotions. If you're happy where it leads you, then that's wonderful. If not, then get out, regroup, and try again. Nobody ever said that life was going to be easy ... but it can sometimes be an AWESOME ride all the same
Thank you very much for your answers! I know, labels shouldn't be important but I've been in situations where people asked me what I am... I said I'm bisexual..but now I feel kind of bad because I'm not really sure if that's true. :/ Maybe I'm pansexual or even asexual...
And maybe bisexual, pansexual, asexual are all just labels. What you are is you. People askign what you are is just a lazy way to try to avoid the task of getting to know you properly. Why answer at all? Why not smile and say "I'm me. Why don't you take the time to get to know me, and find out what that means?"
Don't work so hard to try and box yourself in a group. You sound like a cool person! Just have fun finding out who you are and don't be pressurised by peer pressure.
Thank you so much for taking your time to reply. I'm just very frustrated. I'm turning 19 so soon and everyone keeps asking me if I have a boyfriend...If I say no they ask me about my previous one but I have never had one. I feel so uncomfortable. I cannot tell if I find girls, boys or both attractive. How do I know that? In the last 6 months I have only seen 2 people who I found a little bit attractive. I was looking at all the people I saw but I barely find anyone attractive. The two people I saw were a boy and a girl. The boy was small, thin and had this hairstyle people tend to call "emo hairstyle" or so. But I don't know if I really find him attractive or if I just liked the hairstyle .. The other one was a girl. She had these tattoos I found really cool...so I don't know...Do you think I found these two people attractive? I know it sounds like I'm 10 but that's why I feel so weird.
