I have been with my girlfriend for about 5 months now when i first met her i knew that alot of guys wanted her attention and from what i understand she actually did give most of them the time of day now i dont know if she ever cheated before with other men. I love sex and am one of the guys where when im about to cum i just let it go even if we only had sex for about 10 minutes the problem is that about 50% of the time when we have sex i always cum before she ever does. sometimes i will help her finish sometimes she just says its ok babe dont worry about it. well one of the nights we had sex, i cummed and she didnt she said it was ok and i left her room about 9 pmand went out with my friends that night i left my friends early and went into my girls room to spend the rest of the night with her around 3am i walked in and she was asleep in the bed with one of her male friends that i know likes her. i was shocked and then stormed out she heard me and chased me but i said i wanted nothing to do with her that night. she said that he came over to watch a movie and they both fell asleep. he had only shorts no shirt on and she also had shorts but just a tank top on. it seems kind of wierd to me and sometimes also when we go out drinking and then go back to her room i pass out on her bed and she leaves for like an hour and then i wake up when she comes back cuz of the noise so a few other times she has wandered off but i dont know where to im still together with her because i love the sex lol but i really would like to know your thoughts on if maybe i cant plz her so she may be cheating elsewhere? is it really that important to ladies to finish i know it is for guys she seems to really care about me though so i dont know if she has a fetish for cheating or something. i plan to ask her soon but would like opionons first. im also afraid that if i ask her and i do find out shes been fucking him i may like it and fuck her harder.
This is no reason to stay with someone, especially if the sex with you is so bad that she has to cheat. Sorry to be blunt, but it's true. A relationship needs to be more than just sex. Also, if you know you don't last long, why don't you ever do things to make her cum first? Not trying to be an ass here, and sorry if I come across as such.
make her cum first? thats good advice, although im not 100% sure yet is she is cheating and if she is cheating thats its due to the lack of her not cumming
You should still make her cum first since her cumming at all seems so uncertain about half the time. Make sure she gets hers man.
yeah im going to talk to her tonight and see what the deal is if it is the sex then that can be an easy fix i would just have to be mindful of getting her off first before i just bust my nut and go to sleep so to speak
Dude I am not even going to comment on the cheating part! Really though if you want to have a good sex life don't be selfish. If you know you going to come fast do other things for her before you get your thing on. Eat that pussy like it was the last one you are ever going to have. Touch her, caress her and kiss her. It will only make things better for you as well. Learn that sex can be so much more then intercoarse.
doing stuff when you're passed out is not a sign of cheating. getting caught in slightly more than underwear with another guy and lying about it (she was obviously lying, people don't come over to innocently watch a movie, take off most of their clothes, and fall asleep) makes cheating sound more likely. but yeah, like everyone else said, don't be a selfish lover whether she's cheating or not.
obviously she cheated on you. fuck the sex, there is better out there. Move on with your life and dump that trick.
Being a selfish lover didn't help things. Her cheating was wrong regardless (if not physical cheating, there seems to be an emotional closeness that crossed a friendship boundary with that other guy, the only exception I see is if that huddling closeness was needed for survival to save body heat) You got choices now: 1. Confront her (calmly but seriously) about it. 2. Break up 3. Don't break up but discuss where you guys can go from here and improve upon the relationship WITHOUT ANY GRUDGES, it has to be a complete fresh start. 4. Everyone gets STD/STI checks just to be safe. Question: How old are you guys?
